To eat cake in front of friends who are on a diet?

(102 Posts)
FireLamp Thu 21-Jul-16 19:17:50

I made friends with 3 other mums at baby-yoga and we all went for coffee afterwards. In the queue, I recommended the cakes from this particular coffee shop and they all laughed and said they couldn't eat cake as they were trying to lose baby-weight. One added that she is diabetic. They ordered skinny-lattes/flat whites and I ordered a frescato thing with cream and a slice of chocolate cake, without thinking anything of it. I'm underweight and find it hard to gain any, so I always get cake and high-calorie drinks.

They all watched me eat it and kept making slightly sarcastic comments (eg must be nice to be able to eat cake, that cake looks amazing etc) and I started to feel like I'd commited a faux-pass blush

Was I insensitive? Should I have just ordered a drink? Please be honest, as this is likely to be a weekly thing and I don't want to upset anyone.

If you were on a diet, would it upset you if a friend ate cake in front of you?

fitzbilly Thu 21-Jul-16 19:19:44

Order and eat what you want, that's what I would do.

fitzbilly Thu 21-Jul-16 19:21:47

I never thought I would upset a dieter by ordering what I want. I'm sure there comments were not meant to upset you.

user1468138738 Thu 21-Jul-16 19:21:59

Urgh, People who make comments about what others eat should be beaten with whisks.

I'm on a healthy diet, every one at work eats chips every lunch, usually with some kebab meat or pakora. I eat my chicken salad wrap. I also shut the fuck up.

Next time they comment, make intense eye contact, lick your spoon/fork and moan in a guttural tone. They'll soon shut up.

UmbongoUnchained Thu 21-Jul-16 19:22:04

No not at all. They're adults, I'm sure they have enough self control to not go into a frenzy. Mumsnet is weird though and a lot of people will probably say you were being unreasonable. I'd have ate 2 slices.

GeekyWombat Thu 21-Jul-16 19:22:23

I wouldn't be upset. Eat what you like.

molyholy Thu 21-Jul-16 19:22:39

I am on a healthy eating regime and would have got a skinny latte and it wouldn't have bothered me in the least to see ypu eating full fat/full flavour food. They probably thought they were being funny. Take no notice and enjoy.

eggsontoast07 Thu 21-Jul-16 19:23:14

I echo Fitzbilly.

GeekyWombat Thu 21-Jul-16 19:24:16

@user The last office I worked in there was a guy who would walk up to my desk, sniff the air dramatically and then say really loudly 'pickled onion Monster Munch?' or 'Steak McCoys' or whatever crisps I was eating.

I could never work out whether he was being passive aggressive about smelly crisps, jealous that I was eating them or making a hint that I shoulld offer him one But every time he said it I had an irrational urge to beat him to death with my shoe.

eggsontoast07 Thu 21-Jul-16 19:24:33

For the record, I cannot stand people commenting on what others are eating...

SpinnakerInTheEther Thu 21-Jul-16 19:26:46

No, it would not upset me. If you are on a diet you just have to get used to things like cakes being around you and others eating them. I could take the choice to, feel quietly smug at my self control and healthy (for me) choices.
But they are wrong to make pointed comments, your health and dietary needs are just different. Being somewhat fatter than underweight, myself, I like to muse how inexpensive my lesser food needs are....I like looking on the bright side.

icouldabeenacontender Thu 21-Jul-16 19:27:20

I agree with the 'beaten with whisks' philosophy.
Eat what you like.

Pinkheart5915 Thu 21-Jul-16 19:28:11

They might be on diets but your not. You are an adult and can order and enjoy whatever you wish.

I can stand it when people comment on other peoples food ( it must be nice to eat that, do you know how many calories, etc ) blooming annoying

SteviebunsBottrittrundle Thu 21-Jul-16 19:28:53

Yanbu! How odd of them. Were they maybe trying to do it in a jokey way?

LaurieFairyCake Thu 21-Jul-16 19:28:58

You should be able to eat whatever you like but these are 3 people you barely know.

I will take a guess that if you continue you will be Wendied out and they will be meeting over their black coffees without you.

Give it one more go. If they continue to be rude just drop them.

BackforGood Thu 21-Jul-16 19:30:45

They don't sound like sarcastic comments to me - just 'chat'.
No, YANBU to order what you want.

Onesieisthequeensselfie Thu 21-Jul-16 19:31:16

flowers for you OP. Sometimes people say things to be "funny" in a social context not always realising the impact it might have secretly.

Have confidence and keep eating cake!

2016Bambino Thu 21-Jul-16 19:31:39

I'm on a diet and it wouldn't bother me at all.

rugbychick1 Thu 21-Jul-16 19:32:37

I'm currently dieting, and it wouldn't bother me at all if someone ate cake etc in front of me

Bishybishybarnabee Thu 21-Jul-16 19:32:45

I'm a type 1 diabetic on a diet, it wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

Bails2014 Thu 21-Jul-16 19:33:28

They were being rude to not try the yummy cake you recommended!!

Voddy4 Thu 21-Jul-16 19:34:58

Sounds like they're just jealous. Eat and order what you want and enjoy the cake!

SonicSpotlight Thu 21-Jul-16 19:36:48

You weren't rude. Saying that, if no one else ordered food I wouldn't have ordered food and would have just ordered a drink. If no one else in a group orders a starter I wouldn't order one either.

jobrum Thu 21-Jul-16 19:38:08

Yep, jealous and hungry. I worked with someone like this. It's their problem not yours. If it happens again just agree with them: "yes, the cake is really good!"

PurpleDaisies Thu 21-Jul-16 19:39:06

You didn't do anything wrong. Te not to worry about it.

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