To ask if this is fair or am I taking the piss

(20 Posts)
Highlandfling80 Wed 20-Jul-16 17:54:54

So me and my 3 DC or going away with my brother. The holiday involves the purchase of self catering accommodation and ferry crossings. I will be doing all the driving. Some 400 to 500 miles plus more when there. We have found accommodation which means brother has a single room and me and DC will have to squeeze into a triple room. The other room is for local Relatives for part of the week. We will not be charging them. So I have suggested we split accommodation and ferry crossing 50 50. Obviously this seems in my favour but as it is my car which will be deprecating and my fuel I though it would balance out. I will also buy breakdown cover.
I will obviously pay more for food.
So my jury am I being unfair. My brother is happy with the arrangement or at least he hasn't complained.
So my jury what do you think please.

Highlandfling80 Wed 20-Jul-16 17:56:37

If figures help he will be paying 550. I will pay 600 plus fuel.

Nocabbageinmyeye Wed 20-Jul-16 17:57:07

You think its fair and so does he so a load of strangers on the internet don't really matter but since you asked it also sounds fair to me so that's three of us anyway grin

Highlandfling80 Wed 20-Jul-16 17:57:32

Kids go free on ferry btw.

scurryfunge Wed 20-Jul-16 17:57:50

If everyone agrees, I don't see the problem.

Highlandfling80 Wed 20-Jul-16 17:59:56

He has not said he isn't happy but I guess he might not want to say anything so just wanted opinions.

Highlandfling80 Wed 20-Jul-16 18:00:39

Thank you.

EllaHen Wed 20-Jul-16 18:01:32

A room each, you doing all the driving and paying for all the fuel. Yes, totally fair IMO.

sooperdooper Wed 20-Jul-16 18:02:46

If anything I think he should contribute half towards petrol

AndNowItsSeven Wed 20-Jul-16 18:04:25

I don't think it's fair at all , kids are free on the ferry and you each have a room. Your brother should be paying half the fuel and insurance costs.

scurryfunge Wed 20-Jul-16 18:05:12

Have you worked out the cost of petrol, etc? I have a brother who if asked for one pound or a thousand pounds, he would say, OK, that's fine!

Highlandfling80 Wed 20-Jul-16 18:09:04

His room is only a single though and mine a triple. Plus I may claim the room vacated by relatives for part of week. Sorry didn't make that clear in op.
I suspect he may fill the car up for me when there. Fortunately fuel is cheaper where we are going.

Rumpelstiltskin143 Wed 20-Jul-16 18:10:31

You should pay for 2/3 of the house rental, he should pay 1/3
Then you should split the ferry and the petrol 1/2 each.

Highlandfling80 Wed 20-Jul-16 18:56:55

The extra 50 approx I will be paying is the breakdown cover. Fuel is an unknown Quality. I suspect about 150 ish so I guess it does balance out.

KERALA1 Wed 20-Jul-16 21:40:19

Fair. Doing the driving is a big deal

TheUnsullied Wed 20-Jul-16 21:47:31

Nobody's being U because nobody is unhappy! grin

How much roughly will fuel be costing?

Highlandfling80 Wed 20-Jul-16 22:05:39

Probably about 150 which with break down cover is 1/3 approx of rental cost

whois Wed 20-Jul-16 22:09:07

You should get a contribution to the fuel as well.

TheUnsullied Wed 20-Jul-16 22:19:07

Hmm. I don't think over things too much if everyone seems happy so looks alright to me. There are 4 of you and one of him so your share should be bigger, though not hugely so because you're all still in one room for at least part of the holiday.

I'd add the caveat that snacks for the road are his remit though. Both ways. smile

CaptainMarvelDanvers Wed 20-Jul-16 22:30:24

You could offer to pay him more but he really probably doesn't mind.

When I go out to dinner with my brother and his family or other events with them I usually pay half or if it was my idea I will pay the full lot. He will offer to pay more but I actually don't give a shit about the money, it's about spending time with my family.

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