To not want to go holiday in the south west?

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Littlefluffyclouds81 Sun 17-Jul-16 20:33:38

Mostly because I live in the south west, so it wouldn't seem much like a holiday.

Me and bf have been talking about going on holiday. To begin with, he suggested going to Devon or Cornwall for a week. I wasn't wild about the idea, but thought if we could find a cheap week somewhere it could be fun. So I had a bit of a Google, and was horrified to see that it was going to cost £1k+, even to stay in a caravan park type place. So I suggested maybe a week in France, as for less money we could get a ferry and a nice place with a pool on airbnb, and maybe the weather would actually be nice (it has pissed down with rain fairly consistently in the SW for the last few years).

So that was the plan, but we didn't book it as we've been waiting to find out when we could definitely go because of other commitments. That's now sorted, but he's decided he doesn't want to go to France because of the risk of terror attacks (he lives in London!). So it was back to the drawing board, and I suggested places in Spain and Croatia that were coming in at about £500 each (me and my dd, him and his dd), including flights, so a total of £1k.

But no, after me wasting fuck knows how many hours looking at places abroad, he's said he wants to go to Devon, or Cornwall. The places he's looking at in Devon are about 45 mins away from where I lived for 12 years. My mum had a holiday house in Cornwall for years until last year, and I'd often go down there with the DC if we had nothing else to do, but it never really felt like a holiday.

He says going to Devon would be 'perfect'. I'm imagining forking out £500 to go up the road, and probably forking out loads of money to do inside stuff because it's too rainy for the beach. There wouldn't be a pool, which is instant free entertainment for two six year olds.

We seem to have diametrically opposed ideas of what constitutes a holiday, but am I being a princess? Fully prepared to be told I am. Not sure what the compromise here would be.

SlightlyperturbedOwl Sun 17-Jul-16 20:43:14

How about Pembrokeshire instead? I wouldn't pay so much to go on holiday up the road either!

Marthacliffscumbag Sun 17-Jul-16 20:43:18

No you're not being a princess, going on 'holiday' 45 minutes from where you lived for 12 years is NOT a holiday......it's a commute.
He sounds very narrow minded to rule out the whole of France, my idea of a holiday isn't spending hundreds of pounds in a place I already know, probably in the rain, in a place i could visit anytime. Uuuurgh.

Hassled Sun 17-Jul-16 20:44:21

No, you're not being a princess. If you're going to spend any money at all on a holiday you want somewhere that's not just like home, as far as I'm concerned - a change is as good as a rest, and all that.

MollyTwo Sun 17-Jul-16 20:46:12

Yanbu, France Spain and Croatia all sound lovely. Why would he want to go just up the road confused I wouldn't spend that money when I know that I could get much better for the same price.

tootsietoo Sun 17-Jul-16 20:47:39

Ha, you sound exactly like me and DH. We've been together 12 years and we STILL haven't found a holiday we can both enjoy. We are completely holiday incompatible. I think the only answer is separate holidays with your friends.

You're not being a princess.

Littlefluffyclouds81 Sun 17-Jul-16 20:48:50

Because Molly, it IS different for him in the south west, because he lives in London.

I rather stroppily suggested just staying at mine for the week and we'll get the train to Weymouth.

Guitargirl Sun 17-Jul-16 20:49:46

YANBU. Have you pointed out that a holiday in Devon for you would be like him paying 500 quid to holiday in Slough? Fair enough if he wouldn't feel comfortable going to France but there has to be some compromise - not all his way.

woolythoughts Sun 17-Jul-16 20:50:30

I agree

I live just north of Taunton and anywhere dorset devon or cornwall is really a day trip or at best an overnight not a bloody holiday

squoosh Sun 17-Jul-16 20:52:09

Croatia sounds heavenly.

Littlefluffyclouds81 Sun 17-Jul-16 20:52:35

Guitargirl - I haven't...yet...but it's in my arsenal of comments for the next time I speak to him.

And I agree wooly, I must have lived very close to you until fairly recently.

Makemineacabsauv Sun 17-Jul-16 20:53:28

Tell him you and your dad are going to France/Croatia/wherever to get some sun and a much needed rest and that they are welcome to join you. If he doesn't want to go, offer to rent him your house as a holiday let while you're away! Might wake him up to how you feel!

Littlefluffyclouds81 Sun 17-Jul-16 20:54:50

Croatia looks bloody lovely, we could have a place with a private infinity pool overlooking the sea for less than a cottage in Devon (including flights).

MollyTwo Sun 17-Jul-16 20:56:07

Agree with make. Tell him you and your DD are going somewhere else, he can join or not. Doesn't make sense for you to spend that money going somewhere where you grew up when you can go to Croatia!

PNGirl Sun 17-Jul-16 20:56:33

I live on the border between Wiltshire and Somerset. My husband and I went to Bude for a couple of nights on a warm weekend in April... But we also went to Florida in November and Vienna in May! YANBU, as Cornwall and Devon aren't actually any better than anywhere else on the south coast and are so expensive in the holidays. I'd rather go to Brighton with kids for a week.

Littlefluffyclouds81 Sun 17-Jul-16 20:56:47

I can kind of see his point, it would be a lot simpler to stay in the UK, and probably work out slightly cheaper once car hire is factored in.

I just don't want to do it. I like sun, and seeing new places.

Makemineacabsauv Sun 17-Jul-16 20:56:50

Sorry dd not dad!

Littlefluffyclouds81 Sun 17-Jul-16 20:57:43

And it will be over the August bank holiday, Devon and Cornwall will be hell!

Witchend Sun 17-Jul-16 20:58:45

Why don't you go to Kent then? Not where you used to live, and it's cheaper too.

Littlefluffyclouds81 Sun 17-Jul-16 20:59:05

Problem is, it would be nice to go on holiday with him, rather than just me and dd. Some adult company would be good.

Pinkheart5915 Sun 17-Jul-16 20:59:16

You only live 45 minutes away that is day trip distance. I have been to Devon and Cornwall and they are nice places but we live 6 hours away and we only stayed 2 days not a week.

Croatia is beautiful me and dh went a few years ago and we loved it
France is gorgeous too we went to Avingnon, Lyon last year
Spain well you can't go wrong with Spain can you

Tell him your going on a proper holiday and he can come or stay home

Dozer Sun 17-Jul-16 20:59:20

DH and I have different tastes in holidays, but both agree that visits nearby any family and/or in places we grew up are not holidays, unless it's a visit to family or a nostalgia trip. Your bf is being inconsiderate to suggest somewhere that's so dull for you, suggest if you can't agree you just go somewhere of your choice with DD.

Littlefluffyclouds81 Sun 17-Jul-16 20:59:36

I'll suggest Kent grin

Mouikey Sun 17-Jul-16 20:59:40

Croatia is lovely with some great resorts and lots of history. Went to the north a few years ago and can't wait to get back!!

Littlefluffyclouds81 Sun 17-Jul-16 21:02:36

I sent him a message earlier saying: as I've lived in the south west of England my whole life it won't seem like much of a holiday.

He replied: I understand. I just thought town and beach, keep it simple. There must be nice towns you have been to?

confused

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