AIBU is this a health issue?

(10 Posts)
MoonStar07 Sat 16-Jul-16 19:56:01

I'm a mother of 2 children one aged 4 the other ages 18 months. I have a thyroid problem (underactive) until recently it was over medicated and I had anxiety and depression as a result. I've also had a busy year doing a massive hoise renovation including having to move out of our home and hopefully within the next two weeks it will be complete. I've project managed this from beginning to end including managing some very difficult builders. I've also been closely involved in the wedding preparations for my sister's wedding. A big fat indian wedding! So I've done tonnes of running around over the last few months as my family lives 200 miles from me. It was also my husband's sisters wedding a week after mine which involved more running around and the weddings are not over yet! I met up a with a friend who has 2 slightly younger DDs. A much much bigger house (more bathrooms for one) (her kids are in nursery part-time) I'm a complete SAHM with both preschooler and toddler at home. So anyway she was telling me for example how she fits in little
Chores for example if kids upstairs she'll use 20 mins to clean one of her bathrooms. Personally I feel
Like I'm forever chasing my tail simply cooking and taking the kids back and forth from various groups. I have a very clingy 18 month old. I don't stop some days doing loads in a day. Also my 18 month old wakes every night and needs resettling I do this BUT my DH will 'takeover' let's say at 645 (she often wakes at 5 or 530 and doesn't settle) anyway then I'll go back to sleep for 45 mins or so and he'll do kids breakfast. My point is I'm ALWAYS exhausted I can't keep on top of the house work. The build is almost over I resent making the builders tea I'm so so tired all the time and other mum's I think don't seem so tired. DH is back around 7pm to help with bath time. I still have tonnes of house organising to do but can't seem to find anytime to do it. I have no support from family locally. Am I just lazy? Should I have more energy? AIBU on myself
Really?

MoonStar07 Sat 16-Jul-16 19:57:27

Sorry for long post.

MoonStar07 Sat 16-Jul-16 19:57:50

I don't exercise either maybe this is causing my tiredness

Doinmummy Sat 16-Jul-16 19:59:28

It's probably worth a trip to the GP for a blood test . It could be any number of things first of which is being a mum to 2 young children !

AuditAngel Sat 16-Jul-16 20:01:16

Have you seen your GP. When I returned to work after DC3 I was exhausted, it turned out I had developed Pernicious anaemia.

MoonStar07 Sat 16-Jul-16 20:02:11

Recent bloods all
Normal expect not done iron so will
Go back. Yes I just feel I'm more tired than I should be. This isn't about being a supermum etc etc it's just about what should normal
Energy levels be? I feel maybe I'm too tired.

Mummyme1987 Sat 16-Jul-16 20:18:51

What you are doing seems much more than normal. I think that's why you are tired. Get oh to do two nights a week completely. Every week.

Davinaaddict Sat 16-Jul-16 20:24:00

I'd recommend checking the actual results of your blood tests as well. I was told all mind except vit D were 'fine', yet it turns out 3 of my other results (B12, ferritin and TSH) were all borderline, so could well be contributing to my exhaustion. Just because you are within the range for a test, doesn't mean it is optimal or fine.

Birdsgottafly Sat 16-Jul-16 20:39:52

I don't think that your overtired. I think that you've had a lot on and have two very young children.

I'm not saying that it's not worth getting bloods done.

If we are under pressure, it makes us tired, because our immune system struggles. The tiredness makes us slow down slightly and that protects us from becoming ill. I don't think your slowing down, though.

Don't compare yourself to a Mum who has a break from her children and hasn't had the pressures that you have had.

People underestimate the emotional strain of having children who are clingy and moving out of your home etc.

Don't get into competitive 'busyness' with other Mums. No-one gets a award because they're going without rest, all it does is impact on your long term health.

MoonStar07 Sat 16-Jul-16 20:48:16

Thanks think it's time for an MOt and not to be hard on myself etc I think you hear things from others and think oh yeah how come I can't do that eg whip up a chicken curry in the morning stuff like that! Planning too I think if I plan better I'll not necessarily think I've fit more in but I'll realise what I've got done x

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