AIBU to be irritated when people don't RTFT, or just the OP's posts or at least the last few replies

[Nanny0gg]

before wading in?

Am I?

Or is it perfectly reasonable to want to bang my head against the desk?

I know people haven't got the time or inclination to read 8 pages of stuff, but your answer that you have spent time and care crafting and typing (yeah, right) is a pretty pointless waste of time if the OP has admitted they're wrong, or they've added loads of new info or the thread has moved completely sideways.

I know forums have always been like this, but the MN facility to highlight your own and the OP's posts does help. And I do feel sorry for some when they're getting a total kicking when they have actually had the grace to take opinions on board and admit they're wrong.

Just spare a couple of moments to catch up in future, would you please? Ta.

[ABloodyDifficultWoman]

I completely agree. It makes me so mad that I have actual nail marks in the arms of my chair where I have to hold on tight not to make the kind of comment that gets you an unwelcome mail from HQ and the warning of a tanned backside

[WorraLiberty]

LTB

[ArmySal]

I agree! Especially when OP has updated and they only answer the opening post, even after 200+ replies

[thecatsarecrazy]

Have you cancelled the cheque?

[thecatsarecrazy]

Some people don't even bother reading the op properly. One the other day said how old their dc was. First reply, how old are they?

[Nanny0gg]

I knew (being on glue) that I'd get a couple of those replies.



But I'm glad I'm not alone.

[RiverTam]

I really wish that MNHQ would making highlighting the OP's posts the default setting, and people can then switch it off if they like. I was on MN for years before realising you could do this.

[TutanKaDashian]

When there is a logical answer and people just repeat it over and over again.

THERE'S. NO. NEED.

[thebestfurchinchilla]

YABU To me, the OP is a question or request for advice. All posters answer or give their personal opinion, that doesn't change mine. I like to give my reaction that is not influenced by others.

[thebestfurchinchilla]

I was on MN for years before realising you could do this.

I didn't know you could.

[Sparklingbrook]

If you CBA to read the whole thread don't comment. You are probably repeating whatever has been said previously on a long thread.

[NoahVale]

yeah but

[NoahVale]

sometimes the thread is just so very long.

[thebestfurchinchilla]

I can see the point of seeing OP's updates but not the whole thread necessarily as I am giving my opinion. How do you highlight OP updates, I can't find a settings option.

[Sparklingbrook]

If it's too long to read just hide it.

[Passmethecrisps]

This drives me potty. Personally, if a see that a thread has so many pages of responses I find it hard to see that I will have anything unique to add so generally I pass it by.

Going straight past 8 pages of discussion and conversation when the topic could now be 100% different to the op is just a bit strange. Like leaving a conversation 1 minute in, returning 5 hours later and expecting the topic to be the same

[NoahVale]

you know why dont people just do what they like,
give an opinion.
that is all it is about.

[thebestfurchinchilla]

Like leaving a conversation 1 minute in, returning 5 hours later and expecting the topic to be the same

It's not always a conversation though. Mostly it's asking for advice or an opinion. Don't need to read everyone elses, that's the OPs job.

[Sparklingbrook]

I wouldn't give an opinion without reading the whole thread. But that's just me.

[thebestfurchinchilla]

Can someone tell me how to highlight the OPs updates?

[green18]

I wouldn't give an opinion without reading the whole thread. But that's just me.

Your opinion is yours, why do you need to read the whole thread before commenting?

[Passmethecrisps]

I suppose where it grates me is when op has asked something unreasonable for example then things get worked through and it becomes supportive. Then you get a supportive thread peppered with "oh my god! Why do you even need to ask you complete idiot" type stuff.

If it is a case of "what do I use to get a plate out from behind the toilet" and 163737 different offerings then fair enough

[Sparklingbrook]

Depends what the OP is asking. If it's one of those weird list threads like what you had for tea then fair enough.

If it's a bonkers AIBU then maybe that's OK too.

[NoahVale]

have not rtf

i am answering op's initial post.

oth, quite often i skim through simply reading op's posts.
is that ok???

[EmpressOfTheVaginaDentata]

Click on this link when on desktop.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk?call=Preferences.

Then there's an option for it. It's very helpful - can stop posters looking like twits!