AIBU to think this is too much for just a 14th birthday?

(78 Posts)
Jenny2468 Fri 15-Jul-16 20:43:11

(Sorry it's a long one)
So my daughter is 14 and she has been invited to a party, four of her friends have birthdays near each other so they are having it jointly. Now, this has been going on for weeks, yet it will happen in over a month from now, with the four birthday girls acting like it is the biggest event on Earth.
Today, she got a letter from one of them at school:

You have been invited to our birthday party, it is at (time) and (place) there is a dress code, formal wear, mainly skin-tight dresses. You must pay for your own meal and bring money for the arcade, we will buy you one milkshake.
If you don't come in nice clothes, have messy hair, bring us cheap presents, annoy us before or during the party or have no presents for all of us, we will send you home on the bus.
Please sign this sheet and give to us.

Luckily my daughter is thick skinned, as I think this can be upsetting for some children. But my daughter found it funny.
The restaurant is £35, then there's 4 presents (that can't be cheap apparently) then she needs to buy a skin-tight dress. She has decided she won't go.

Am I overreacting in thinking it is so extreme, or do most kids do this at this age?

Artandco Fri 15-Jul-16 20:46:31

Hahaha wtf

MrsJaxTeller Fri 15-Jul-16 20:47:04

This is a wind up right?

Namechangenurseryconcerns Fri 15-Jul-16 20:48:54

I'm with your daughter in finding it funny! Are they bright girls writing it in a tongue in cheek way or are they really that vacuous?!

Jenny2468 Fri 15-Jul-16 20:52:28

I think they are vacous, I have met some of them a few times and they come across like that.

70isaLimitNotaTarget Fri 15-Jul-16 20:53:16

My DD is 14yo.
I'd hope it was some kind of "In Joke" between them.
Or they can pi** right off.

Skin tight indeed. Won't need much money for food then, one breaded mushroom would have you unable to do your zip up.

Justasjolly Fri 15-Jul-16 20:57:41

Do you know their parents? I'd be tempted to RSVP to their mums.

kurlique Fri 15-Jul-16 20:59:22

My DD (nearly 14) had the same sort of reaction... Snorted with laughter and then said Well I wouldn't go! If she had sent out something like that however I would be mortified (she wouldn't though... She is very generous for starters, or should that be too generous??) and then I would bollock her to high heaven for being so crass and insensitive... I suspect it might well end up being a Party of 4!!

littlerabbitface Fri 15-Jul-16 21:00:25

Well don't they sound delightful grin

VoldemortsNipple Fri 15-Jul-16 21:01:32

Is does sound rude but it might just be a tongue in cheek joke. Best to let your daughter deal with it how she seems fit. I'm sure she and her friends would be quick to pull them up if its serious.

At £35+ a head, I can't see many people going, and wouldn't be surprised if the kids who decline choose to do something else that day instead.

Jenny2468 Fri 15-Jul-16 21:02:39

Unfortunately, I don't know their parents so can't say anything to them. My DD is sure that they will all go, but who knows!

Petal40 Fri 15-Jul-16 21:08:46

What lovely young ladies we are raising in this strange world of ours

Okay377 Fri 15-Jul-16 21:12:34

It sounds like teenagers having a laugh to me...buy us cheap presents: get us each something from the pound shop but dress up and have fun.

It could possibly be cliquey if people don't find it funny. How does your daughter feel about it? If she found it funny it sounds as if she'll go and have a good time.

JustHereForThePooStories Fri 15-Jul-16 21:12:51

You should be proud of your daughter. Sounds like she knows her own mind.

CaptainCrunch Fri 15-Jul-16 21:15:41

Your DD is awesome. Just ran this by 15 year old ds and his response was "get fucked".

Jenny2468 Fri 15-Jul-16 21:16:20

My DD says thanks!
These girls are being deadly serious! On her socil media accounts, she is getting messages from all of them so they don't wear the same dress!
She says she doesn't want to go out with people like this anyway.

CaptainCrunch Fri 15-Jul-16 21:18:10

Tell dd she's the mutt's nuts from my ds.

greathat Fri 15-Jul-16 21:19:10

I teach teenage girls. Sadly this sounds about right for a chunk of em

Ilovewillow Fri 15-Jul-16 21:19:22

Your daughter is obviously sane and pretty amazing! Hopefully they are joking but if not they are clearly deluded and fairly ridiculous!

elQuintoConyo Fri 15-Jul-16 21:26:11

Crikey. Just crikey.

Sound like some students I have. Sad yo see there are more like them.

Your dd, however, sounds ACE op grin

PerspicaciaTick Fri 15-Jul-16 21:26:39

Sounds about right - it seems like teenagers haven't changed much in the last 30 years.

ilovesooty Fri 15-Jul-16 21:27:42

They sound like that vacuous friendship group in "Muriel's Wedding" grin

Zippidydoodah Fri 15-Jul-16 21:29:15

I hope my daughters are as thick skinned and sure of themselves as yours! I also hope the letter is a joke.......confused

CocktailQueen Fri 15-Jul-16 21:32:40

Okkay377 - they didn't want cheap presents...

They sound vile and entitled little madams. I would be mortified if Dd did this.

CoolCarrie Fri 15-Jul-16 21:33:26

Spot on with 'Muriel's Wedding'! Thats just what came to my mind as well!
Your daughter is quite right to give it a miss, they sound like a bunch of bitches. Hope only the 4 of them turn up, it wouls serve them right.

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