My father died when I was in my early twenties. I adored him. He's missed out on so much of my life and even though it's been nearly 8 years I still feel sad that he didn't get to meet my dc, walk me down the aisle, have a cup of tea in my house.
Mil has met my DF. Me and DH were a couple when my DF died although not living together at that point. She tried to stop dh supporting me a lot saying that it was draining him, even driving him home after the funeral "because he's had a tough day".
Anyway, MIL is still insensitive I feel. She buys DS clothes with logo's on that says 'If you think I'm bad, you should meet grandad' and she seems desperately put out that my DS is like the absolute double of my father and she really seems to overly stress all the things that Ds can do with grandad when he's older. FIL doesn't do this. TBH, FIL barely seems bothered by DS except for an occasional visit.
There have been times I've almost burst into tears when I see these clothes and I just shove them to the back of the wardrobe or when comments are made but I don't know if I'm being overly sensitive. Dh thinks I should just roll my eyes but DH has never lost anyone close to him, except elderly relatives who died from old age. I don't think he understands that he's been able to celebrate everything in his life with his family where mine feels like it was torn in two.
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LovelyBranches · 15/07/2016 10:57
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