I feel like I'm in a really tough situation. Our son is 8.. Never in his life has been invited to a birthday party, he has Asperger's so does find it quite tough to fit in and then doesn't understand when people don't want to play with him, then there's lots of upset and it breaks me.
We have given up with the children at school, it isn't their fault at all, our son just doesn't seem to get on with them, so that's fine. He is happy in his own little bubble at school and we don't tend to have much upset from school, as when he gets anxiety (which he can do when he is there) he likes to just be alone anyway. It's when he is having 'good' days and wants to just talk the whole time, which is awesome to us but a bit too difficult for strangers, which is understandable, that it upsets him as he is happily going on about something but never allowing them to get their part of the friendship if that makes sense.
When he's happy, I leave him how he is as it doesn't bother me. I listen to him repeat all his knowledge 1000 times and it still makes me smile. My husband does find it more challenging. He can get frustrated and does wish that he maybe had a son who shared some common interests with him (football games/basketball games) as I feel like his relationship with him is going down hill a bit. So we try and do things where my husband feels like he is spending quality time with him, like camping and we all love that.
He is quite pushy about the idea of him joining scouts and as we are in phoenix its quite a big thing that the children here do. He just doesn't want to and I get why as he wouldn't cope with the socialization of being away, so I do tell him to knock it off with the pushing of it all. However, he does frequently say that it upsets him at how lonely he is, which I do see from his side of things.
We aren't that close to the neighbors really but I think that's because we like to stay away from it all because our son does so it wouldn't be fair to drag him out when he doesn't want to or when he does, I feel like I'm just knocking his confidence as the neighborhood children don't quite 'get' him.
We received an invite through the door addressed to our son to go to the boy next door's party which was a bbq and pool party. I was shocked and happy really, our son was happy very actually and 'couldn't wait to tell him all about his new collection'... I thought the kids had shared the same interest or something at some point when we have sat on the green (a little bit of land in front of all our homes).
He attended the party and he was so happy the child included him they seemed to have had a really great time, I thought it was a friendship that had grown and was pleased for my son. Until my husband could no longer keep it from me and tells me. I was angry and disappointed that he hadn't said anything... I'm really cross and don't know what to do really. But then I'm happy at how much fun my son got out of it but then just feel like he is giving my son false hope in a way...
I don't know what to think to be honest, sigh...
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..husband paid $5 to the neighbor's son so he would invite our son to his party, I'm not sure if I'm mad or not..
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user1468453365 · 14/07/2016 01:02
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