AIBU to be upset at my GP?

(29 Posts)
bluebelle2662 Wed 13-Jul-16 17:57:07

As I have mentioned on various threads recently, I lost my little boy in April at 23 weeks gestation. He had some very severe neural tube defects which meant he would not survive.

I went to see the Fetal medicine consultant for my follow up and she told me to get some folic acid from my GP (the higher than usual dose - I need 5mg). So I requested it 2 weeks ago. It was refused because the GP (who I have never met) said I had "finished the course". So I requested it again, saying it was as per the Fetal medicine consultant. Went in on Friday... Not done. Explained to the ladies on the reception desk that it was consultant instruction. Fine. They said it would be done Monday. I was unable to get there on Monday, so I went yesterday and they were closed for training purposes.

I go today and it still hasn't been prescribed. They've opened the request but not done anything. I asked why it still wasn't done as she had said Monday (same lady) and she didn't know. I promptly got quite upset (not angry and not rude) and said my baby had died and that was why I needed it. Fetal med said minimum 6 months folic acid before TTC and to just start taking it. So I've requested it again. And I've got to ring to check it's ready tomorrow. I said it wasn't good enough. She apologised. Fine. But I'm upset by the whole thing. Am I wrong?

I also need to mention I am incredibly anxious and I find it really hard to go outside at the moment, never mind to the GP and every time I go I am panicky so it takes a lot of effort for me.

I'm fed up. It's not like I'm requesting something ridiculous. I'm following the orders of Fetal medicine! Argh.

londonmummy1966 Wed 13-Jul-16 18:21:43

Oh Bluebell - how awful. You are not being unreasonable at all. If the GP hasn't dealt with it tomorrow then why don't you try calling the consultant and ask if they could pick the phone up and give the GP a rocket? It is so grim when you are feeling ill about going out to then have to make repeated trips.

Sneeze182 Wed 13-Jul-16 18:23:47

Tabu. Get an appointment with the gp so you leave with the prescription.

Sneeze182 Wed 13-Jul-16 18:24:10

Yanbu.

flanjabelle Wed 13-Jul-16 18:28:27

If it isn't done tomorrow then stop dealing with the gp and call PALS. They will fight this for you so you don't have to go through it any more. I'm so sorry op, this is appalling treatment.

Witchend Wed 13-Jul-16 18:32:23

Thing is I think if the consultant hasn't told the GP then they can't prescribe it. The consultant should have prescribed it.
If you could just go onto your GP and say my consults says I need, then some people will try it on and the GP is liable.
Ask the consultant to prescribe it.

PotteringAlong Wed 13-Jul-16 18:33:51

The GP cannot prescribe you medication on your say so. You are annoyed with the wrong person; this is the fault of your consultant, not your gp.

Mouikey Wed 13-Jul-16 18:35:11

YANBU, not only should you get the prescription (why didn't your consultant write to the GP???), but you should get your folic acid checked regularly to make sure its going up (I'm on the same dose as you), every 3 - 6 months... its a simple blood test!

I would also write to the practice manager and complain about the treatment you have received, given your circumstances.

Clickncollect Wed 13-Jul-16 18:35:26

I'm so sorry you are having to go through this, it's the last thing you need on top of everything. I agree with the previous posters advice and I hope you get this sorted.

Caken Wed 13-Jul-16 18:43:14

YANBU. I'm so sorry for your loss, there should be better communication between departments/teams so that things like this don't happen.

Not the same at all, but I had 2 miscarriages at 13 weeks in quick succession and both times I got calls from the HV team a few months after to book in for an ante-natal home visit and chat. It's heartbreaking to have to have to put it into words repeatedly when it should be easy enough for them to check. It's not fair that you should have had to explain yourself so many times, if the GP was refusing it repeatedly they should have questioned why it was being requested, or at least a quick look at your notes would have been a good indicator.

In your case I think the consultant could have done more for you rather than sending you to your GP to arrange it yourself.

So very sorry again for your loss flowers

BillSykesDog Wed 13-Jul-16 18:47:44

YANBU at all. This would make me want to change GPs.

BillSykesDog Wed 13-Jul-16 18:48:03

So sorry for your loss.

HopelesslydevotedtoGu Wed 13-Jul-16 19:00:35

Has your GP received any written advice from your Consultant advising them to prescribe folic acid? If not, then the fault lies with your Consultant, for not communicating with your GP and/ or prescribing for you themselves if there was a delay in writing to your GP. The GP can't really prescribe based on what you request as some patients will make mistakes in relaying the message.

trinity0097 Wed 13-Jul-16 19:04:21

Why not just go and buy some?

MatildaTheCat Wed 13-Jul-16 19:07:04

OK, the GP may need written confirmation from the consultant ( though I have seen plenty of women prescribed this dose without a problem). The issue is that OP has been given the total runaround at a time she least needs it.

YANBU and I hope you get it sorted very quickly. An email to the practice manager may elicit a speedy response. flowers

lljkk Wed 13-Jul-16 19:13:02

I know it's all very upsetting, but in short run you can just buy your own supplements over the counter. No reason not to.

PotteringAlong Wed 13-Jul-16 19:18:42

lijkk the doses you buy over the counter are at a lower dose

CPtart Wed 13-Jul-16 19:18:45

The GP will probably be waiting for the letter/instruction from the consultant hence the delay, but if that's the case, they could have explained that to you. Unfortunately the wheels move slowly due to the sheer volume of people in the system. It's the same in most departments. No help to you though I agree.

britbat23 Wed 13-Jul-16 19:19:12

As you are anxious about it and have been advised to take that dose of folic acid by the consultant, can you not just take the equivalent number of standard dosage folic acid pills?

Standard dosage is 400 micrograms, 12 of which would make almost 5mg.

Not ideal to have to do that much swallowing of tablets but at least you get the recommended dosage in the interim.

lljkk Wed 13-Jul-16 19:21:17

@Pottering: so... why not take double dose. Or triple. Or 12. Whatever it takes to get to what OP wants. Is it so obnoxious to suggest a short term measure that someone can do to help themselves.

PotteringAlong Wed 13-Jul-16 19:24:38

Fair point... grin

expatinscotland Wed 13-Jul-16 19:24:46

GP probably waiting for a letter. But it's very cheap to buy OTC. I wouldn't have thought twice about buying it and taking it myself until it could be prescribed.

Whatthefoxgoingon Wed 13-Jul-16 19:27:31

Buy it yourself. The consultant should have prescribed it, but this is easily solved until your GP gets the letter.

bigbluebus Wed 13-Jul-16 19:31:21

Unfortunately Consultants letter seem to take much longer to get to GPs these days due to shortage of medical secretaries at the hospitals. It may be that your GP hasn't had a letter asking them to prescribe and is trying to contact the hospital for confirmation, which in turn has delayed the prescription being ready. Unfortunately this is just another symptom of the NHS underfunding. Having said that, the receptionist at the GP practice should easily have been able to look on their screen and established if a letter had been received from the hospital consultant, and explained the delay to you.
I hope you get your prescription soon.

toastedbeagle Wed 13-Jul-16 19:32:20

YANBU I'm a GP and find this mystifying as to why this is so hard. I would call up and ask to have the Dr on call ring you back. They don't need a consultant letter confirming it at all, it's a common drug and 5mg is correct dose for high risk pregnancies. Only would need a consultant letter if it was a drug that GPs weren't able / allowed to prescribe.

Sorry for your loss X

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