To be annoyed my husband invited me out for lunch...after stating there's no one in the office tomorrow

(29 Posts)
Discobabe Wed 13-Jul-16 10:41:39

His team are all out tomorrow so he will be 'alone' (alone in his immediate work area, there are other people in the office but not people he knows well).

I feel like he's only asked because I'm a better option than eating alone at his desk, he doesn't invite me out for lunch when his team members are there.

ElsaAintAsColdAsMe Wed 13-Jul-16 10:43:07

Is there more of a back story here? On the face of it I would say you are over reacting somewhat.

Nocabbageinmyeye Wed 13-Jul-16 10:47:02

I think your reading too much into it to be honest, go or don't, he probably just realised he would be on his own and thought "I'll ask discobabe if she's free for lunch, that would be nice" as opposed to him using you because the thoughts of an hour alone with a sandwich are so horrific

Gileswithachainsaw Wed 13-Jul-16 10:47:09

is there more to this?

nothing wrong with earing with your work friends surely? it's not that your not good enough more that it's not healthy to solely rely on one person for company all the time.

and as fir asking for you today, why not?

NeedMoreSleepOrSugar Wed 13-Jul-16 10:47:28

Unless there's more to this, I don't see the problem? Dh and I have certainly done this before - its just lunch - usually he's with work colleagues (normal) but tomorrow he has an opportunity he usually doesn't have, to do something different, and he chose to have lunch with you

HermioneJeanGranger Wed 13-Jul-16 10:48:06

YABVU, what's wrong with that? confused

A11TheSmallTh1ngs Wed 13-Jul-16 10:48:12

Are you a SAHM? I would suggest a hobby.

Scarydinosaurs Wed 13-Jul-16 10:49:29

YABU it's just a nice offer. And isn't eating lunch with you better than being on your own? It sounds like you're just looking for the bad in things.

GeekyWombat Wed 13-Jul-16 10:51:17

Maybe he thought 'hey, everyone's out today, what a fab opportunity to take my lovely Discobabe for lunch without having to dash back cause no-one will notice if I take a bit longer than usual.'

Unless there's something more going on here you've not mentioned, why assume the worst when on the face of it he's doing something nice? Give him the benefit of the doubt!

feathermucker Wed 13-Jul-16 10:52:09

Really?! Unless there's a back story here...YABVU

HandWash Wed 13-Jul-16 10:53:01

confused

It's just lunch.

Discobabe Wed 13-Jul-16 10:56:56

No I'm not a sahm 😂. Yes there is backstory, our relationship hasn't always been great. I do often read too much into innocent things because of this. Thanks for putting me straight, answers taken on board, I'm being silly.

FruStefanOla Wed 13-Jul-16 10:57:21

I agree with Geeky's observation that he can probably get away with taking a bit longer for lunch than normal and thought it would give you both an opportunity to have a nice, relaxing lunch out together.

Nocabbageinmyeye Wed 13-Jul-16 10:59:42

Op: aibu?
Mn: yes you are
Op: great thanks you are right

All's well that ends well, enjoy your lunch op grin

FruStefanOla Wed 13-Jul-16 11:01:33

Sorry - I X-posted with the OP.

SaucyJack Wed 13-Jul-16 11:02:17

He's probably just thinking he can have a glass of wine without having to worry about colleague's smelling his breath.

Chill Winston.

SaucyJack Wed 13-Jul-16 11:02:34

Erroneous apostrophe!

Dodooodoo Wed 13-Jul-16 11:03:10

Hope you have a nice time!

Stillunexpected Wed 13-Jul-16 11:03:16

I would have though he was inviting you because he can have a slightly more relaxed lunch if no-one is going to notice that he is 10 mins late back. Surely he doesn't feel the need to eat with someone so badly every day that he has to invite you rather than having a sandwich at his desk? Who actually takes a lunch hour these days anyway - surely if you weren't available he would just pop out for 20 mins?

madgingermunchkin Wed 13-Jul-16 11:05:02

If things haven't been great, maybe he's making an effort to change that......

ElsaAintAsColdAsMe Wed 13-Jul-16 11:07:58

You aren't supposed to take our advice on board op.

Don't you know the rules of AIBU? grin

Discobabe Wed 13-Jul-16 11:09:11

Good point madgingermunchkin.

Sparklesilverglitter Wed 13-Jul-16 11:12:51

Husband invites wife out for lunch shock

What's the problem? confused

Go for lunch and enjoy

Scarydinosaurs Wed 13-Jul-16 11:14:45

Order lobster and have a white wine. Enjoy!

<pregnant and missing good stuff>

GabsAlot Wed 13-Jul-16 11:15:22

no no no! why arent you being all weird and dfensive op ;)

anyway enjoy your lunch never been invited out by my dh then again he works an hour away andim not travelling that far for lunch

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