Who is BU? Me or DH?

(10 Posts)
FithColumnist Sun 10-Jul-16 19:17:54

Last night I came home fairly late, around two in the morning. Not drunk, not noisily, not falling over. Without meaning to, I woke DH up while getting into bed. He claims that he couldn't get back to sleep, and is now giving me the silent treatment. AIBU for having woken him, or is he for still sulking about it?

Doinmummy Sun 10-Jul-16 19:22:25

He is being unreasonable . Give him a list of all the things he does in his sleep that wake you up !

Snoring , farting, grunting , breathing,twitching grin

MakeItRain Sun 10-Jul-16 19:23:09

He's not unreasonable for feeling annoyed at being woken up. But he is for continuing to sulk about it if you tried to be quiet. Maybe you both need a plan for times you expect to get in late in future if it means you might wake the other up. Like one of you sleeping on a spare bed?

tibbawyrots Sun 10-Jul-16 19:23:23

I hate sulkers!

Owllady Sun 10-Jul-16 19:24:31

Urgh sulking
It should have been one of the seven deadly sins

ElsaAintAsColdAsMe Sun 10-Jul-16 19:25:08

Bit of both really.

It's annoying being woken and I struggle to fall back asleep, and would be irrationally cranky the next day too.

Tomorrow is a new day though. You'll both feel better after a good sleep.

branofthemist Sun 10-Jul-16 19:30:01

It depends. Do you do it a lot? Or are sat denying you were drunk and insisting you were quiet as a mouse when you were more like an elephant? grin

When dh has done something and Denies it, I can't be arsed talking to him either. Is not sulking, I just can't be arsed with people who pretend there isn't a problem. Especially if I am tired myself.

It could be that you think you were quiet. But you weren't.

But if he just sulking because you went out, his is an arse.

XiCi Sun 10-Jul-16 19:37:20

The silent treatment? As in you will attempt to talk to him and he ignores you? If so, what a knob. Can't bear sulkers, it's pathetic. Is he a bit of a game player normally? Could be an attempt to act so affronted at your supposed bad behaviour after a night out and make such a big deal out of it that you will think twice about going out with your mates again.

Damselindestress Sun 10-Jul-16 19:42:44

IMO the silent treatment is always BU. If someone has a problem, they should discuss it like an adult. I would have been mildly annoyed at being woken up and would have mentioned it but wouldn't have sulked about it all day!

Bodicea Sun 10-Jul-16 19:44:29

Seriously? Do you do it a lot? Do he ever do it. That's just part of living together surely. Personally I always wake up when my dh comes in and vice versa. We normally chat or at least snuggle or get it on even! Tell him to grow up and losen up a bit!!

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