AIBU with DH

(38 Posts)
ceme Thu 07-Jul-16 20:48:38

Ok, so I get home from work at 530 after collecting our youngest DC from Afterschool club. DH is eating dinner he prepared for himself. I wash up, take the rubbish out and do a quick general tidy up. I then leave with youngest DC for swimming at 610 and come home at 730, I make sausages for myself and a snack for the youngest, and have just sat down at 830 and my DH asks what am I cooking for dinner for my children?

I want to cry, the eldest DC is 17 and not back from going out with his friends and the other is 15 and been home with DH since 430. Am I in the wrong?

MrsTerryPratchett Thu 07-Jul-16 20:50:13

What has he been doing since 5pm?

HunterHearstHelmsley Thu 07-Jul-16 20:51:47

Why can't the 15 and 17 year old cook something for themselves?

MrsJoeyMaynard Thu 07-Jul-16 20:53:11

So, he's cooked dinner, but not made any extra for the 15 yr old who was home with him? confused

I would have assumed that he'd made enough food for whichever children were home with him, personally. That would seem like the sensible thing for a parent to do.

And surely the 17 yr old is old enough to be capable of making his own food if he's out with friends at dinnertime?

limon Thu 07-Jul-16 20:53:12

What? Why didn't he cook for them?

monkeysox Thu 07-Jul-16 20:54:50

He's a nob. Hth

Nanunanu Thu 07-Jul-16 21:00:27

Eh? Kid at home with him whilst he cooked and ate his own tea. And he didn't do anything for your teenager? Twat.

17 year old is either home for tea or not. If not home they get something when out or have beans on toast when they come in.

ceme Thu 07-Jul-16 21:01:11

He has been watching the tennis and is now watching the footy. He just did dinner for himself. Thanks for the responses as thought maybe I was in the wrong.

MrsTerryPratchett Thu 07-Jul-16 21:03:05

The bigger question is why on earth you thought you might be in the wrong. He sat on his arse while you rushed around and he asked about yet another chore!

MollyTwo Thu 07-Jul-16 21:04:51

What a selfish twat, who just cooks for themselves only??

Fairylea Thu 07-Jul-16 21:07:37

He should have made dinner for everyone and those who weren't there to eat when he made it could have microwaved it to heat it up when they wanted it. He's selfish. He's been at home and made himself dinner - where's everyone else's?!

arethereanyleftatall Thu 07-Jul-16 21:10:16

How, on earth, could you possibly think you're in the wrong? Just how.

RandomMess Thu 07-Jul-16 21:11:28

confused why on earth hadn't your DH cooked for everyone confused

NavyAndWhite Thu 07-Jul-16 21:11:51

Yes you're in the wrong.

For putting up with such a lazy, selfish twat.
Stand up for yourself!

HermioneJeanGranger Thu 07-Jul-16 21:20:06

Is he incapable of cooking for more than one person? hmm

Pearlman Thu 07-Jul-16 21:20:58

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

greathat Thu 07-Jul-16 21:23:21

Tell him to get himself in the kitchen and get the meals cooked or you are spending the night in a hotel! What a fucking prick

clam Thu 07-Jul-16 21:26:32

Look, of course you're not being unreasonable. You know that. But these situations rarely happen in isolation. Is this "business as usual" in your house, in that you run round doing chores and he sits around doing his own stuff? If so, you have a big job on your hands in getting things to change.

ohtheholidays Thu 07-Jul-16 21:28:00

What a wanker,he wouldn't be watching anything on the sodding TV if he'd done that to one of my DC.

If he knew you were going to be so busy why the fuck didn't he cook for the whole of the family and put yours and your other DC's dinners up for later on when you got in?

Surely that's what a normal family does?That's what we do in our house and there's 7 of us.

MunchCrunch01 Thu 07-Jul-16 21:29:12

i can't think of a time either myself or DH would just make enough for one person when you've got a big family - it's just a daft waste of time, it've been eaten at some point.

April229 Thu 07-Jul-16 21:29:59

And while he was at it why didn't he cook for you too?

ceme Thu 07-Jul-16 21:31:01

I don't stand up for myself, that's why he said this.

We both work but he does nothing in the house. This is not unusual.

Pearlman Thu 07-Jul-16 21:32:15

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

EverythingWillBeFine Thu 07-Jul-16 21:35:27

Well if someone is reprint anything in this house, they will ask if someone else want some.
It can be dinner, a cup of tea etc...
That's common politeness I thought??

Does he think that HW is 'woman's work' and he can just stay put whilst yoou do all the running around?

ExtraHotLatteToGo Thu 07-Jul-16 21:35:33

Why do you tolerate it?

Why does he not cook a family meal you can all have as & when?

Just NO

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