Long time lurker here. First time poster. No kids, hope that's ok just after some advice and support.
My fiance and I have been together for 8 yrs. We were due to get married in August. Unfortunately the stress of work, wedding planning, busy social life has taken its toll and he had a bit of a breakdown last Sunday. He hadn't been himself over the last few months, stressed, tetchy, paranoid and I had been trying to deal with it myself however on Sunday I could do no more by myself and realised it was time to get help. I called his sister who came to get him and he's currently down the other end of the country staying with his father. He is being treated for anxiety and has been signed off work.
We have postponed the wedding as hes just not fit to go ahead with this and I can't go into marriage knowing it's not right.
I have moved back in with my parents for now. I'm experiencing a whole range of emotions, after being so strong for so long, I feel upset, angry, lonely and lost. Im still at work, I think that's important to keep busy. It's just after work and the weekend is killing me. I am talking to and texting him but he's not himself, he's distant and I do not wanna contact too much to put him under pressure.
My work colleagues don't know yet....I don't know how to approach it. Parents neighbours keep asking about the wedding plans and I don't know what to say..I've booked myself in with a different hairdresser so I don't have to explain...two friends who know the score had arranged to meet me for dinner...they have cancelled due to being busy.
Any advice/support/hugs on how I contact him, how often? And how to deal with my feelings. I feel so selfish...
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user1467497716 · 06/07/2016 20:29
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