I made my friend something, for her soon-to-be-born baby, but she said I could have it back, as she then ordered a professional set :( AIBU to be upset, or am I being a bit sensitive?

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WillH Tue 05-Jul-16 21:12:02

I made letters for my son's nursery recently. She commented on how much she loved them. I know that friends say that to be nice too, but I genuinely thought she liked them.

I made her a set, which took me a couple of evenings to paint. I know that isn't ages, but I put in a lot of effort.

I gave them to her. She opened them and was a bit "oh, they're nice" but then points to a bit of paint where it isn't perfect and then goes "I'm just kidding", but it didn't feel like it. I thought she might have been, so that was that. I recently went round to her house and noticed different letters, so I pointed that out by saying "they're lovely, better than mine!" They were, but I was a little upset. She then hands me the ones I made back and said that I can have them as she "preferred the professional ones, obviously!"

Am I being over sensitive? If I am, please tell me. I've added a picture of one of the letters. Are they that bad? Again, tell me if they are!

Familyof3or4 Tue 05-Jul-16 21:14:03

Yanbu. The letters you made are lovely and your friend is a bit rude/ungrateful

Boysnme Tue 05-Jul-16 21:14:22

That looks great! I'd have loved someone to give me something like that. I don't think you are BU.

Familyof3or4 Tue 05-Jul-16 21:14:26

Please make some for me grin

wheresthel1ght Tue 05-Jul-16 21:14:40

Wow your so called friend is a bitch!!

For what it is worth I think the letter you have done is lovely & I would much prefer the love and effort of that than something that anyone can order with a pc and a credit card!

I would seriously reconsider your friendship with this person!

followTheyellowbrickRoad Tue 05-Jul-16 21:15:02

She was very rude, I think it's lovely.

Carno13 Tue 05-Jul-16 21:15:21

What an ungrateful cow! Your letters look lovely x

Arfarfanarf Tue 05-Jul-16 21:15:34

I think she is very rude. It's the thought that counts and she should appreciate the effort. She was horrible to chuck it back at you. I hope one day she realises what a truly dickish thing that was to do.

You are not being over sensitive to be upset.

What the hell did she think you were going to do with letters that spell out her kid's name anyway?

sizeofalentil Tue 05-Jul-16 21:16:08

Your letters are lovely. Your friend is a total cow though.

Do you think she's a bit jealous of your skills so was trying to bring you down?

Even if she hated them a normal person would hide them in a drawer or something. She clearly wanted a rise out of you.

tiktok Tue 05-Jul-16 21:16:12

Your friend was astonishingly rude. The letter is really lovely. She could have had a pro set and the one made with love (yours) and used them both if she was that bothered.

That is so rude.

What on earth was she thinking?

The handmade gifts we got for DS are by far the most precious. And yours are really good.

I'm gobsmacked.

Xmasbaby11 Tue 05-Jul-16 21:16:40

Wow she was awful. So ungrateful and rude. I would prefer handmade even if imperfect.

Don't waste your time and skills on this person in future!

puglife15 Tue 05-Jul-16 21:16:41

YANBU. What a stone cold bitch.

Sell the letters on a FB selling group you know she's also a member of explaining why they're for sale...

motheroreily Tue 05-Jul-16 21:17:16

What?!?!?!? She is very rude and not nice. I understand why you feel upset but it sounds like she is spoilt and didn't appreciate your thoughtful gift

UptownFunk00 Tue 05-Jul-16 21:17:31

What an ungrateful woman. Don't bother doing anything nice for her again and register her Christmas presents back to her the following year.

JulesJules Tue 05-Jul-16 21:18:30

Yanbu.

She was rude. And barmy imo, to prefer a shop bought version over a personal handmade present from a friend.

ITCouldBeWorse Tue 05-Jul-16 21:18:45

Unbelievably rude.

EllaHen Tue 05-Jul-16 21:18:46

YANBU

If the other 3 letters are X, A and L then I'll buy them as they are great.

Ginkypig Tue 05-Jul-16 21:18:49

She is a fucking ungrateful cow!

I'd be cooling off my friendship with her as I wouldn't want to be around such an ignorant narcissistic person.

Moistly Tue 05-Jul-16 21:18:58

But its very thoughtful and it's handmade - if there's a bit of paint askew that's part of the charm of a handmade gift confused

She was bloody rude

"Preferred the professional ones, obviously" shock

venys Tue 05-Jul-16 21:19:03

That's awful she did that. They are lovely and I would have loved someone to do that for me. You are not being unreasonable to be upset.

HarryPottersMagicWand Tue 05-Jul-16 21:19:50

She is fucking rude as hell and I wouldn't ever give her anything again. Some friend! And your letter is very good. You wouldn't know it isn't professional.

YoureAllABunchOfBastards Tue 05-Jul-16 21:20:10

Can you add extra letters so they spell Ungrateful Cunt?

WillH Tue 05-Jul-16 21:20:31

Ah, thank you so much. I was expecting a lot of you to tell me to get a grip. Really appreciate it!

SixtiesChildOfWildBlueSkies Tue 05-Jul-16 21:21:14

You made it with love, it's beautiful. I would have loved someone to make something like that for my child.

She is as dismissive of your friendship as she is of your hard work and kindness, and I personally could not continue a friendship with someone so shallow.

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