to not say anything?

(6 Posts)
notfornothing Sun 03-Jul-16 10:36:49

Just found out that my dad is on match.com. My parents are divorced but sort of back together but living apart, they constantly have ups and downs and I certainly know my mum is not an easy person to live with.
I don't agree with my dad looking at other women online whilst still sort of being with my mum but I think it's not really something I want to get involved in.
When they divorced it was messy and we , the adult children, were put in the middle it was not nice for anyone and I don't want a repeat.
Aibu to not say anything at all to anyone?

mathsenglishscience Sun 03-Jul-16 10:38:32

YANBU, not really your buisness to say anything.

Birdsgottafly Sun 03-Jul-16 10:46:41

""whilst still sort of being with my mum ""

Is he saying that because that's what your Mum wants to hear and it suits her?

You saying something, could cause a complete split.

How old are they? Is your Mum making decisions based on your Dad living with her again etc? If not then leave well alone.

HeddaGarbled Sun 03-Jul-16 10:50:24

If it were my mum and dad, I would tell her because I love my mum and would hate to see her made a fool of, but you have to make your own decision based on your own relationships.

notfornothing Sun 03-Jul-16 11:02:18

My dad hasn't said anything, I don't know if he knows that I know.
I was sat next to him we were talking a about the weather, he showed me the weather app on his phone, i looked and then took his phone and started to type bbc weather into the safari address bar. The page was blank but on the address the previous website had "match" on it, I didn't think much but associated with football somehow. The when i pressed go, before loading the weather for a split second it loadedthe previous page which had women's profile pictures on it... My dad was next to me, when i took the phone i saw that he didn't really want to give it but he did anyway, my mum was a in front. It was weird as i realised what it was and I suspect my dad saw what i saw...

I do love both my parents but my mum frequently talks badly about my dad to me and my brother and lately it's worse.
Also I don't know if my dad is just looking, he's looking in safari and not on the app?
I don't know if he's actually dating or even talking to anyone.

My dad is 53, mum 63.

OzzieFem Sun 03-Jul-16 16:27:02

Your parents are divorced and live apart. Despite loving both parents remember they are ADULTS and it's none of your business.

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