AIBU or is my DH a prick?!

(53 Posts)
Nuggy2013 Sat 02-Jul-16 22:20:21

Long story short I am 5 months pregnant with DC2 and have DD age 2.9.

DH works away. Therefore, DD spends majority of time with me and is v clingy in front of other people. DH decides I need a break/time for DD to get used to not being with me all the time etc to takes her to Spain for two days to family and comes back today. I had two great nights sleep, DH and DD had a great time, everyone is happy.

DH normally does majority of cooking when home. I decided to make something new (Joe Wicks recipe if interested) and long story short, it was a disaster. Dinner was not fit for human consumption.

AIBU to think this is an accidental fuck up? Or is DH right and it's worthy of a load of verbal abuse and blame to make me feel like shit?? Clearly making a crap dinner was deliberate and on my agenda hmm

Anyway, after two days apart, we're now in separate rooms and no sign of effort from either party!!!

RJnomore1 Sat 02-Jul-16 22:21:30

Was it the chicken and lentil Dahl thing?

Nuggy2013 Sat 02-Jul-16 22:22:43

No, bloody chicken and bacon. To be fair, it was like boiled shit. Totally vile!!!

Princesspinkgirl Sat 02-Jul-16 22:23:20

Ridiculous behaviour from your dh tell him to stop being a bloody moron

sepa Sat 02-Jul-16 22:23:56

So he thinks you decided to mess dinner up on purpose when he usually cooks? What would be the point? I could (maybe) understand messing it up if you always cooked dinner and it was his turn

Tangfastics Sat 02-Jul-16 22:24:18

Drip, drip.....

How bad was it really?
What time did your husband and daughter get home?
Could you have got a take away?
What did he actually say?
Do you think this really warrants 2 days incommunicado?

Tiggeryoubastard Sat 02-Jul-16 22:24:44

I'm a bloody good cook but even at 50 have the occasional fuck ups. If my dp acted like that his dinner all week would be warm - in the dog.

Zarah123 Sat 02-Jul-16 22:24:49

Not sure why anyone would go to the trouble (and waste) of deliberately cooking a crap dinner. Why does he think this?

Nuggy2013 Sat 02-Jul-16 22:25:50

It was shit, they've been away two days and came back today at 5. Offered take away replacement and it was refused so there hasn't been two days incommunicado, he's been away for two days.

monkeywithacowface Sat 02-Jul-16 22:26:38

There's no drip feeding OP already stated in her first post that it wasn't fit for human consumption hmm

monkeywithacowface Sat 02-Jul-16 22:27:49

He's a prick

Nuggy2013 Sat 02-Jul-16 22:29:16

Thanks monkeywithacowface, thought so but needed some independent adjudication

AliceInHinterland Sat 02-Jul-16 22:30:00

I get a bit like this when I'm hungry, although I wouldn't go as far as verbally abusive. It's not very nice, there's no excuse for it but I get terribly hangry. Also sounds a bit like he's punishing you for having to look after his own daughter for two days. Silly sod.

Tangfastics Sat 02-Jul-16 22:30:08

Apologies, I misunderstood the 2 days thing.

I think the suggested takeaway was the best thing, but now I see he rejected so I now think I'm in the HWBU camp!

MouldyPeach Sat 02-Jul-16 22:31:21

He's a prick. Is he always a prick?

Nuggy2013 Sat 02-Jul-16 22:36:11

Generally no, not always a prick but like everyone he has his moments! He and DD came home after a great two days, I did dinner (the disaster) and put DD to bed and tidied etc and then he reacts like I've served him up dog shit on toast for some personal vendetta??! Admittedly the dinner wasn't far off the mark of dog shit on toast but if it's meant for me too I've hardly done it intentionally??

NicknameUsed Sat 02-Jul-16 22:36:40

What was the recipe?

monkeywithacowface Sat 02-Jul-16 22:37:42

I'm no stranger to hunger rage and maybe he is tired from traveling but he should have just agreed to the take away, eaten it quietly in front of some crap tv and then had an early night.

Nuggy2013 Sat 02-Jul-16 22:39:13

It was a creamy chicken thing. In hindsight, the balls up came by not having pan hot enough etc to do the sauce well, sorting out snack for DD and putting her to bed. Should have just shouted him to take over/sort it out but thought I was doing a good deed. Won't happen again.

Kitsandkids Sat 02-Jul-16 22:39:34

It sounds like he's had a stressful couple of days with DD. Not that that excuses his behaviour. He's being stupid.

MouldyPeach Sat 02-Jul-16 22:39:51

So what did you all eat in the end? If he's normally ok then he'll come around and talk about it soon, surely. Probably stressed and hangry.

Nuggy2013 Sat 02-Jul-16 22:43:08

Left him eating cheese and crackers, we'll see if he talks about it without prompting

WorraLiberty Sat 02-Jul-16 22:45:19

He acted like a prick.

If either me or my DH went to the effort of cooking a nice dinner and fucked it up, the other person would have nothing but sympathy.

Especially if the takeaway was open anyway and we had the money.

Shit happens.

ImSoVeryTired Sat 02-Jul-16 22:47:26

No need to be rude. You tried to do a nice thing and it went wrong. We all have those moments. Even with recipes we are familiar with. It's hardly likely you would mess it up on purpose. Here's hoping he gets some grub in him and apologises for acting like a twat. flowers op and hope your evening improves.

trafalgargal Sat 02-Jul-16 22:59:32

Normal people would laugh about it and get a takeaway .......and maybe tease you about it for years to come.

He's acting like idiot -but possibly he's exhausted after 2 days as a fulltime Dad plus travelling so over reacted but if he doesn't apologize once he's slept then he's a dick.

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