Some of you may remember that I have posted here about my in-laws in the past. This has been to do with FIL's awful attitude and DH's unwillingness to do anything about it.
Things have really come to a head in the last week or so. On Friday (June 24th) I made a very generalised comment that the decision to leave the EU was, in my opinion, a mistake. Not directed at anybody at all, explicitly stated that this was just my personal opinion on the matter; I also said that although I might not agree with the outcome, I respected everyone's right to vote their own way and that what's done is done. MIL took this to mean that I was having a personal swipe at her, FIL, DH's grandparents, her own PIL, DH's younger brother, and probably their dog. I refused to engage and ignored a very goady text from her about it. It felt like she wanted a row, and I really didn't want to go there.
Fast forward to Friday evening, I log onto Facebook (I know, I know) to find that on my page, she has written some real nasty things (lies) about me. She claimed that I had called her and her elderly parents "fucking idiots"
That verbally abusing the elderly gives me some kind of thrill! That I'm deliberately trying to cause trouble! And so on.
I refuse to have a public row; I very rarely post to Facebook and mainly use it as a means of messaging friends and family who live abroad. But I do have work colleagues on there who could see all this, so I was quite horrified.
I messaged her privately asking her why she was actively seeking a row and blowing things out of proportion to the point of just making stuff up, just because our political views aren't exactly the same.
She absolutely lost it, I'd say that eleven years of pent up resentment came flooding out of her. Absolute vitriol, including her bringing up the PND I suffered after the birth of my first child.
I told her that she was out of line, and that when she was ready to talk properly to let me know. Then my DH's younger brother (18) wades in- publicly. I'd say probably encouraged by PIL. He really put me on blast, called me a "vile waste of space", the whole family wished DH had never married me, they feel sorry for him having to live with me, he's going to "come round to sort me out personally". By this point I was in tears, BIL (although young) is HUGE- 6'4 and well-built to boot. So I found the threat quite intimidating. I took screenshots of everything and deleted the lot to avoid providing anymore entertainment to the Facebook world.
At this point, I told DH what was going on and showed him everything. As per, he agreed that they were wrong but refused to do anything about it. After a row, he did send MIL a fairly lengthy text about it all, and mentioned some past incidents as well (such as FIL's ridiculing our eldest son- he is only two!)
Aside from all this, I only gave birth to our second child six weeks ago so am still a little raw emotionally. But I'm not a cryer- never have been. I've shed more tears over this family than I ever have about anything else, ever.
I've told DH that I want us to have no further contact with PIL or that particular BIL (he has three other siblings). I don't want them around my children either. It's not just about this time- it's for everytime they've belittled me, verbally abused me, took the piss out of my son, mocked DH etc etc. I just can't bear the thought of them being in our lives anymore. I also reported BIL's threat to the police.
AIBU to want these people out of my life? After everything, not just this incident, them being in our lives would be a deal breaker for me and I think I'd have to leave.
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Trouble with the in-laws....AGAIN! (Long post, sorry!)
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BoopTheSnoot · 02/07/2016 21:45
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