To be a bit annoyed at the school

(39 Posts)
amithatmum Sat 02-Jul-16 12:08:02

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CrazyDuchess Sat 02-Jul-16 12:10:26

I am sorry I think you are a little unreasonable - I think it would have been unfair for the staff to have to deal with the fall out of one kid having ice cream...... you could have just bought him one when you picked him up??

Buzzardbird Sat 02-Jul-16 12:10:28

It's unfair, and a useful lesson on budgeting could have been taken from this.

YANBU

VioletBam Sat 02-Jul-16 12:10:58

Well YANBU but it will look a bit odd if you go in and say anything. How old are they? Small I assume if they need taking round....perhaps you can take him to a cafe for a sundae to make up for it?

It seems very precious to me.

VioletBam Sat 02-Jul-16 12:11:15

I mean the school club were precious...not you.

CrazyDuchess Sat 02-Jul-16 12:12:08

I disagree violet - I think the after school club was thinking about all the kids - not precious at all

amithatmum Sat 02-Jul-16 12:12:36

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Purplemonkeydishwasherpimp Sat 02-Jul-16 12:12:42

I don't see how they could of stopped him! He should of bought himself one anyway. Not his problem the others blew all their money!

Buzzardbird Sat 02-Jul-16 12:13:38

Refer school to the biblical story of Cain and Abel. grin

HereIAm20 Sat 02-Jul-16 12:15:33

If they were thinking about all the kids they would have said precisely what amount they should take! It is unfair that your child could not spend his money on what he wanted especially as he had less than some others and had enough to buy it! Either the kids are in charge of their cash or the adults thry can't have it both ways!

branofthemist Sat 02-Jul-16 12:43:26

Yanbu. They spent all their money and didn't have enough left. That's how life works.

CrazyDuchess Sat 02-Jul-16 12:44:17

Okay clearly I am in the minority here flowers

ineedaholidaynow Sat 02-Jul-16 12:56:56

But crazy if the other children had spent all their money they must have had things the OP's DS had missed out on, and that wasn't deemed unfair by the club. So seems unfair that he wasn't allowed to buy an ice cream

JohnBarrowmaniac Sat 02-Jul-16 12:57:11

I suppose the person escorting them round was only thinking of the future emotional wellbeing of the other children. It would probably have scarred them mentally- possibly for life- if your son had gone ahead and eaten an ice cream in front of them.

What sort of tosser was taking the kids round??

bumsexatthebingo Sat 02-Jul-16 12:57:27

I don't think yabu to be a bit hmm. Presumably the other children got what they wanted and not all the same thing? So it seems like your ds was penalised for not spending his money quickly. The only thing I can think is did they have a no food rule to stop them blowing the whole £5 on sweets and junk? I would have maybe stopped off at a newsagent and let him get a Cornetto or something on the way home.

clam Sat 02-Jul-16 12:58:56

Yes, it was unfair. He should have been allowed to spend it on what he chose, as all the others did.

But it won't kill him and it's not worth complaining about. Agree with him hat it's unfair but never mind. Let him have an ice cream of his choosing today instead.

wheresthel1ght Sat 02-Jul-16 13:05:30

I can sort of see both sides. Whilst I agree if the other kids had been allowed to spend their money on anything they wanted then your ds should have been allowed to buy what he wanted.

However, I can understand why the staff said no too. It would have been hard for them to deal with a large group of kids who are miffed that they didn't get to have one (even though it was their choice) and it might have made things nasty for your son. They may have also been trying to prevent him being picked on by the other kids.

Yanbu but neither are they

youarenotkiddingme Sat 02-Jul-16 13:13:48

I wouldn't complain but I'd ask them why they deemed it necessary to dictate what your ds spent his money on at the fair as he's under the belief the other children had free rein over theirs. Asking for clarification of events is a good way of raising concerns and getting people to think about their practice.

ExtraHotLatteToGo Sat 02-Jul-16 13:22:17

What youarenotkiddingme said. After I'd calmed down. I'd have been well pissed off that they'd all chosen how to spend their money but my DS was not allowed to incase it upset the others. Madness. Perfect time to reinforce making wise decisions about how to spend money.

BoGrainger Sat 02-Jul-16 13:22:54

'Oh! Never mind! Let's get one now/tomorrow'. Why is life so full of angst when solutions can be so simple?

Ohlalala Sat 02-Jul-16 13:30:06

Not only is it unfair on your child, it is also a very poor lesson on budgeting. Is the school also teaching about Wonga and going into debt for no reason? I would have complained.

VioletBam Sat 02-Jul-16 13:31:34

Why on earth are they being "taken around" aged 8 to 10!? Children at my DC school manage themselves from about 7. With a purse they can cope with buying a few things.

I'd tell them next year that he can do his own thing. They usually team up with a mate don't they?

JinkxMonsoon Sat 02-Jul-16 13:33:43

What a ridiculous decision. Kids aged 8-10 are old enough to understand "you can't buy an ice cream if you've run out of money".

Bottomchops Sat 02-Jul-16 13:38:37

It's bs! He saved his OWN money for an ice cream, he should be able to buy an ice cream. Who cares about all the kids FFS? They probably had an extra go on hook a duck or whatever. Ridiculous!

Whistler15 Sat 02-Jul-16 13:52:12

Oh come along! 8-10 year olds are more than capable of understanding that once it's gone, it's gone. Does the school normally take charge of pupils' choices when in the juniors? Not much independent learning there. It's not the end of the world but is a very petty school approach.

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