OK regular poster name changed for this and I'll try to keep it short but be warned it might not be
I work in a medium sized team and a large department.
I consider myself to be a nice person, and get along with most people in my department. In addition i consider several people in my team friends, and a few in the department too (ie we go for lunch or coffees, have each others numbers/WhatsApp and a couple I am friends with on Facebook -though no one I work closely with as I try to separate work/personal life)
I am also diagosed as clinically depressed, and whilst on the whole it isn't common knowledge, one or two people at work know about this, but mainly keep it to myself.
My manager is aware of this as I had a couple of weeks off last year. My managers manager is not (as far as I am aware - I never discussed it with him)
Cue 4-5 weeks ago I reached breaking point and took time off sick.
Day 1 I emailed (i know some will say this isn't appropriate by email but it is in my team/workplace so please don't pull me up on this ) bosses boss at first as my line manager was on leave. I explained my manager was aware of my condition but would appreciate if they could keep this between them)
I didn't get a reply, not even an acknowledgement. It was hard for me to tell someone else how I feel especially with the stereotypes about mental illness
Day 2 3 4 the same
Day 5 I also emailed my line manager who was back in office
No response at all.
Ok I think, I know they received it as they're emails are saved (correct) in my personal email? And didn't receive an OoO message, put it down to me being sensitive
The following week I see my gp who signs me off, send in a copy of the fit note and get essentially a 2 line acknowledgement and an attachment about some talking therapies.
Next contact is the day note expires (last week) asking if I'll be back next week (had some leave booked which takes me to Monday)
OK I was a bit upset at first as I consider myself to get on well with my manager and I guess I hoped for a bit more of a caring response
But
The main thing is in the last 5 weeks ONE person I work with has contacted me ONCE
I did ask for my absense reasons to be kept between management but whether people KNOW WHY or not, they can't fail to have noticed I've not been there
We frequently have cards go round for people off sick (few broken legs lately, prolonged stomach bug etc) and even sent flowers out at times
I realise my conditions not helping my frame of mind but I feel horrible like no one cares
Is it one of those 'physical v mental' illness attitudes? I mean the other people off had physical ailments /accidents
Am I just expecting too much? I mean I don't expect card's snd flowers that was just for context but a text or message or email would be nice
Do people just not like me? I'm already worried about what people think of me and think Maybe it just me?
I guess it's not really an aibu but I feel shitty and sorry for myself
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Isitactuallyjustme · 02/07/2016 01:15
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