I've not been having a good week. I narrowly missed out on a really good job and have been feeling really shit since.
Dh was a dick on the day of the interview to the point we had a massive row and I spent the hours before going reassuring our son that we still loved each other. He sort of apologised and we got on with the weekend.
When I found out I didn't get the job a few days later it took him 4 hours to offer me a cuddle even though I was obviously devastated and was very abrupt and shouty at me then sat and watched the football while I made the tea, bathed the kids and put them to bed.
I have told him since I was/am annoyed about this and he has done fuck all to make it up.
I need to talk to him as I'm a sahm and if I don't speak to him on some days I won't speak to another adult but it is getting to the point I just can't be arsed. I feel like screaming at him but I'm confused as to wether I'm really annoyed at him or if I'm just upset about the job.
Aibu?
AIBU?
to be upset with dh
thingamijig1 · 01/07/2016 19:45
YANBU at all. Surely when your partner has a job interview, it's common sense to be nice, supportive and helpful beforehand so they're as relaxed as possible? Surely it's instinct to offer your partner a hug when they're upset?
It sounds to me like he liked the idea of you getting a job (the money) but then when you had the interview etc. he maybe started thinking about the reality of it, and has decided he's not too keen on the idea, so he jeapoardised it (the argument) and therefore didn't comfort you afterwards.
He doesn't sound very supportive or helpful, OP. 
I hope things improve.
That's what he said when we spoke about it before step. I can half understand it. What I am struggling to understand is why he isn't trying to make up for it now by apologising or being nice. He's hardly talking to me to the point a friend came up tonight and asked as soon as dh had left the room if we were arguing so there is an atmosphere that I'm not imagining. I need to sit and talk to him I guess. I'm so upset it won't be calm tonight so will try talk to him tomorrow. Thank you for your replies 
Hermione that was my thoughts who doesn't at least give a squeeze of reassurance when their partner is obviously upset?? I really hope there isn't something underlying his behaviour but I'm beginning to wonder. We have our tiffs but they don't last more than a couple of days. This has gone on a week and I feel so shit anyway now I feel pure lonely too 
Awww sweetheart, hugs to you. Really hope you can both sort it out tomorrow and that you'll feel better
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