After school snack

[WellDoYaPunks]

On 1 day of the week ds8 is collected from school and taken to an activity by another mum.
I then pick both children up an hour later & take her child home.
In the car on the way there the mum always gives ds & friend a snack - chocolate bar or some such. When I pick up I don't... Is this unreasonable?
It's not a sporting activity and if any of the kids have had after school activities I never pack an extra snack (they don't seem to have time to eat one anyway) & just wait till they get home, no ones knawing their hand off or anything.
Ds has said that other child & mum has mentioned it & now I feel bad, it's been going on a year. Do I owe this child 52 chocolate bars?!

[applecharlotte]

well no, not if your child doesn't need a pick up snack then don't worry.

My reception DS always needs a snack at pick up or would be very tired and probably have a meltdown. I usually bring him crackers and a biscuit, something carby to keep him going. He's always ravenous though. If he wasn't bothered I wouldn't take him anything.

[whattodowiththepoo]

You definitely owe me 52 chocolate bars.

[WhyCantIuseTheNameIWant]

How long is the activity?
How long until the next meal?

Start taking them a drink or a piece of fruit
Maybe.

[JustAOneOffToday]

I'd ask them. If they're hungry give a little snack, though doesn't have to be chocolate. If they're OK then great, problem solved.

I'm always hungry at 3:30 so I can't blame kids for feeling the same, especially as they have the excuse of growing!

[icelollycraving]

I don't think yabu but I would just do it on the days you do pick up. Ds doesn't stop eating & has several treats a snack after school. To keep it harmonious,have a bag of pombears or something in the boot. Pound land sell a bag of 6 for £1.

[VashtaNerada]

I'd do a snack personally but that's partly because I don't trust DD to have eaten her school dinner...

[ilovechocolate07]

My youngest is always hungry straight after school so I'd prob give them a little something but nothing too big or too expensive. Maybe some easy peelers or grapes.

[adrianabelshaw]

I don't think you are obliged to bring them a snack every single day. Maybe you could do it occasionally but I wouldn't worry too much about it - after all, they can eat once they get home, its perfectly fine.

[DextersMistress]

Unless I've read it wrong, the Dc are already having an after school snack off the other mum, your question is should you be giving another one an hour later? Definitely not.

I would start supplying the snack every other week though to be fair, maybe send them in ds's school bag.

[Zazz101]

Kids are hungry after school usually, so probably do need a snack. I certainly wouldn't then give them another one after the activity. In saying that I would definitely be sending my son with a snack every other day to share with the other boy. It does seem unfair that the mum has been supplying a snack for your son every week.

[YouCantBeSadHoldingACupcake]

If I read this right, the dc are having a snack after school so they shouldn't need one an hour later when you collect them

[purplefox]

No, they don't need 2 chocolate bars in just over an hour

[That1950sMum]

No, I think they need a little snack after school but they don't need another one an hour later.

Maybe you could give the Mum a multi pack of chocolate bars or somesuch every now and then to help her out though.

[Dontyouopenthattrapdoor]

Keep a bag of apples in the car, tell them to help themselves. Handy if you get caught out too.

[JustABigBearAlan]

No, surely they don't need two snacks after school! If they have one before and after the activity then they'd never eat their dinner.

However mine would want a snack after school so I understand why the other mum gives one. Can't you just mention it to her and then maybe supply her with some snacks to give both children so it's a bit fairer?

[EasternDailyStress]

I'd offer a snack of some sort, as all children are different and maybe your DS's friend gets very hungry. But I wouldn't do the chocolate bar thing. I'd probably offer something a little less "attractive" IYSWIM. He may just want it because he wants chocolate, not because he's hungry. I'd go for bananas, Babybel cheese, nuts, even a sandwich if you can be bothered to make one.

[INeverFinishAnythi]

39 chocolate bars owed - term time misses point

[monkeywithacowface]

Maybe it's less about her child needing another snack and she is just annoyed that she provides your child with one every week. Possibly send your child with a snack for both of them every so often?

[Skyler30]

No you're not being unreasonable but if you feel you want to do something when it's your turn why not give them some fruit now and again, ta-daa!