smelly husband after evening drinking

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tulip2004 Wed 29-Jun-16 20:07:54

hello, I am asking for opinions as I think I may be being harsh. I don't drink alcohol (don't like the taste) and I know I have a sensitive nose to all smells. I worry about my husband as he often smells really badly of alcohol the day following drinking. not just boozy breathe but oozing out of pores smell. He says this is normal after a few drinks and but I think he smells more now than he used to drinking the same amount and it concerns me a) that his liver is not coping making him smell worse and b) that he is oblivious to it as I would want to know if I smelt like that and c) quite frankly I don't want others thinking he is is complete wino. He currently works from home but may soon be back in an office and I don't want him smelling like that at work - personally I think its unpleasant and unprofessional. I find the smell makes me want to be sick and a massive turn off (he can't understand that I don't want sex the morning after the night before) But as i say I know my nose is sensitive to all smells stinky so wonder if I am over reacting or is it something that others may not notice or if I would not notice if I drank myself. He also doesn't think him smelling like this the following day is a bad smell and thinks I just don't like it because I don't drink and I don't like alcohol. I can't think this is true but made me wonder if IABU? Is it just me who thinks it is a horrible smell and do others like it or just really not mind it? Should I just shut up and let him get one with it?

Leeds2 Wed 29-Jun-16 20:12:22

I don't think I have ever smelt an alcohol "oozing out of the pores* smell on anyone. Ever. I am not saying that YABU, it is just something I have never encountered.

Crispbutty Wed 29-Jun-16 20:20:30

My ex was an alcoholic, and although he had many many faults, but he never smelt of alcohol in the way you describe.

I wouldnt say it was normal. But it could be he has a certain type of metabolism in the same way that some people who have eaten garlic can ooze that from their pores.

pointythings Wed 29-Jun-16 20:27:55

My DH smells like that if he has too much. He's cut down enormously recently so it doesn't happen any more. It is a very distinctive smell and if he goes into an office environment smelling like that, he will be picked up on it. How much does he drink? Could he still be over the limit the following morning?

tulip2004 Wed 29-Jun-16 21:02:26

last night he had a bottle of wine and probably 4 cans of carlsberg. He doesn't drink like the every night but might drink that much at least twice a week. slightly less on other nights and 2 or 3 nights off a week. Maybe I am not describing the smell well - I don't just mean smelly breathe but when they stink heavily of drink from the night before.

Crispbutty Wed 29-Jun-16 21:04:30

Is he having a shower/changing clothes?

tulip2004 Wed 29-Jun-16 21:05:07

sorry before anyone pulls me up on it - breath not breathe...

Wolfiefan Wed 29-Jun-16 21:06:52

That's a hell of a lot of units. He needs to cut down for his health.

AdrenalineFudge Wed 29-Jun-16 21:07:30

You know about the final straw that broke the camel's back?
I can't say that I've noticed that sort of smell from a heavy drinker - and I've known a few in my time - so that leads me to think is everything else in the relationship well balanced?

tulip2004 Wed 29-Jun-16 21:11:52

yes he is very clean and showers daily etc and he does smell better after showering but I can still smell it.

embarrasseddoesntcutit Wed 29-Jun-16 21:13:46

That's a lot of alcohol.

DH has the smell you describe after a heavy session- maybe once every few months.

PortiaCastis Wed 29-Jun-16 21:14:37

Good grief are you sure his health is alright. That's an awful lot of alcohol and his liver will be groaning

Diddlydokey Wed 29-Jun-16 21:16:26

I call it the fumey smell, yuck. Only after a skin full

Glamourgates Wed 29-Jun-16 21:16:42

I know exactly what you mean, I had an ex boss like that. He ended up being an alcoholic, although he did have other health problems.

AppleSetsSail Wed 29-Jun-16 21:17:22

Ugh. I've smelled it on my husband. It is a terrific sex-killer.

I hope you can convince him that he needs to knock this on its head, pronto.

peachpudding Wed 29-Jun-16 21:18:14

probably psychosomatic

ThornyBird Wed 29-Jun-16 21:18:36

I know what you mean tulip, DH works away and comes home Thursday night. Most Wednesday night's he goes to a pub quiz and has 2-3 pints beer.

I can often 'smell' the stale alcohol on him when he gets in, despite him having showered and put fresh clothes on that morning.

I also smell it on a colleague sometimes - it's not overwhelming, just a faint odour if I'm sat or stood next to them.

It isn't either of their breath and both are very clean - no BO smell, just stale booze smell, I would agree with the description of it oozing from their pores!

PortiaCastis Wed 29-Jun-16 21:18:52

My exdh is an alcoholic and he always smelt. I couldn't stand it either

ImperialBlether Wed 29-Jun-16 21:20:09

I can smell beer on someone much more than wine. Do you notice that, OP?

Lilaclily Wed 29-Jun-16 21:20:16

That is far too much to drink twice a week and yes it's not normal to stink of booze the next day, it means he's drinking too much

If he can still function the next day after all that he's got a huge tolerance to it which means it's a problem

Does he suffer from hangovers ?

CharminglyGawky Wed 29-Jun-16 21:21:14

I know that smell, never noticed it except after a heavy night. And a whole bottle of wine and 4 beers is a very heavy night especially if it isn't out of the ordinary for him!

In fact it was that smell which helped put me off alcohol as I can smell on on myself and it makes me feel sick which doesn't help hangovers! I still drink (well not right now as I'm pregnant) but it is one or maybe 2 glasses of wine on special occasions and that's it.

Lilaclily Wed 29-Jun-16 21:21:48

My colleague used to have a bottle of wine a night, like many posters do on here , she probably wouldn't have known that I could smell it on her the next day

TheCountessofFitzdotterel Wed 29-Jun-16 21:26:20

I know the smell you mean and yes that's far too much to drink regularly.

A bottle of wine is usually around 8 units, could be more, and a can of Carlsberg is likely around 2.
So with 4 cans that's 16 units in a single night, when the weekly advised maximum for men is 21 IIRC.
No wonder you can smell it.

bluesbaby Wed 29-Jun-16 21:26:48

My OH is like that. Never smells of BO but alcohol makes him stink - really, really stink. Family and colleagues do notice but he's not an alcoholic - it's just the way his body metabolises it.

The worst thing is it's not solved by brushing teeth and showering. It just takes hours and hours later to get out of his system. So I think he either stops or you put up with the rare occasion when he might want to have a drink.

Your description of oozing out of pores is quite right!

MissElizaBennettsBookmark Wed 29-Jun-16 21:32:42

I know the smell you mean. My alcoholic FIL smells of it when he has a beano.

YANBU.

He's clearly drinking far too much, OP.

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