smelly husband after evening drinking

[tulip2004]

hello, I am asking for opinions as I think I may be being harsh. I don't drink alcohol (don't like the taste) and I know I have a sensitive nose to all smells. I worry about my husband as he often smells really badly of alcohol the day following drinking. not just boozy breathe but oozing out of pores smell. He says this is normal after a few drinks and but I think he smells more now than he used to drinking the same amount and it concerns me a) that his liver is not coping making him smell worse and b) that he is oblivious to it as I would want to know if I smelt like that and c) quite frankly I don't want others thinking he is is complete wino. He currently works from home but may soon be back in an office and I don't want him smelling like that at work - personally I think its unpleasant and unprofessional. I find the smell makes me want to be sick and a massive turn off (he can't understand that I don't want sex the morning after the night before) But as i say I know my nose is sensitive to all smells stinky so wonder if I am over reacting or is it something that others may not notice or if I would not notice if I drank myself. He also doesn't think him smelling like this the following day is a bad smell and thinks I just don't like it because I don't drink and I don't like alcohol. I can't think this is true but made me wonder if IABU? Is it just me who thinks it is a horrible smell and do others like it or just really not mind it? Should I just shut up and let him get one with it?

[Leeds2]

I don't think I have ever smelt an alcohol "oozing out of the pores* smell on anyone. Ever. I am not saying that YABU, it is just something I have never encountered.

[Crispbutty]

My ex was an alcoholic, and although he had many many faults, but he never smelt of alcohol in the way you describe.

I wouldnt say it was normal. But it could be he has a certain type of metabolism in the same way that some people who have eaten garlic can ooze that from their pores.

[pointythings]

My DH smells like that if he has too much. He's cut down enormously recently so it doesn't happen any more. It is a very distinctive smell and if he goes into an office environment smelling like that, he will be picked up on it. How much does he drink? Could he still be over the limit the following morning?

[tulip2004]

last night he had a bottle of wine and probably 4 cans of carlsberg. He doesn't drink like the every night but might drink that much at least twice a week. slightly less on other nights and 2 or 3 nights off a week. Maybe I am not describing the smell well - I don't just mean smelly breathe but when they stink heavily of drink from the night before.

[Crispbutty]

Is he having a shower/changing clothes?

[tulip2004]

sorry before anyone pulls me up on it - breath not breathe...

[Wolfiefan]

That's a hell of a lot of units. He needs to cut down for his health.

[AdrenalineFudge]

You know about the final straw that broke the camel's back?
I can't say that I've noticed that sort of smell from a heavy drinker - and I've known a few in my time - so that leads me to think is everything else in the relationship well balanced?

[tulip2004]

yes he is very clean and showers daily etc and he does smell better after showering but I can still smell it.

[embarrasseddoesntcutit]

That's a lot of alcohol.

DH has the smell you describe after a heavy session- maybe once every few months.

[PortiaCastis]

Good grief are you sure his health is alright. That's an awful lot of alcohol and his liver will be groaning

[Diddlydokey]

I call it the fumey smell, yuck. Only after a skin full

[AppleSetsSail]

Ugh. I've smelled it on my husband. It is a terrific sex-killer.

I hope you can convince him that he needs to knock this on its head, pronto.

[peachpudding]

probably psychosomatic

[ThornyBird]

I know what you mean tulip, DH works away and comes home Thursday night. Most Wednesday night's he goes to a pub quiz and has 2-3 pints beer.

I can often 'smell' the stale alcohol on him when he gets in, despite him having showered and put fresh clothes on that morning.

I also smell it on a colleague sometimes - it's not overwhelming, just a faint odour if I'm sat or stood next to them.

It isn't either of their breath and both are very clean - no BO smell, just stale booze smell, I would agree with the description of it oozing from their pores!

[PortiaCastis]

My exdh is an alcoholic and he always smelt. I couldn't stand it either

[ImperialBlether]

I can smell beer on someone much more than wine. Do you notice that, OP?

[Lilaclily]

That is far too much to drink twice a week and yes it's not normal to stink of booze the next day, it means he's drinking too much

If he can still function the next day after all that he's got a huge tolerance to it which means it's a problem

Does he suffer from hangovers ?

[CharminglyGawky]

I know that smell, never noticed it except after a heavy night. And a whole bottle of wine and 4 beers is a very heavy night especially if it isn't out of the ordinary for him!

In fact it was that smell which helped put me off alcohol as I can smell on on myself and it makes me feel sick which doesn't help hangovers! I still drink (well not right now as I'm pregnant) but it is one or maybe 2 glasses of wine on special occasions and that's it.

[Lilaclily]

My colleague used to have a bottle of wine a night, like many posters do on here , she probably wouldn't have known that I could smell it on her the next day

[TheCountessofFitzdotterel]

I know the smell you mean and yes that's far too much to drink regularly.

A bottle of wine is usually around 8 units, could be more, and a can of Carlsberg is likely around 2.
So with 4 cans that's 16 units in a single night, when the weekly advised maximum for men is 21 IIRC.
No wonder you can smell it.

[bluesbaby]

My OH is like that. Never smells of BO but alcohol makes him stink - really, really stink. Family and colleagues do notice but he's not an alcoholic - it's just the way his body metabolises it.

The worst thing is it's not solved by brushing teeth and showering. It just takes hours and hours later to get out of his system. So I think he either stops or you put up with the rare occasion when he might want to have a drink.

Your description of oozing out of pores is quite right!

[MissElizaBennettsBookmark]

I know the smell you mean. My alcoholic FIL smells of it when he has a beano.

YANBU.


He's clearly drinking far too much, OP.

[Partybagger]

Yep my DH has this too if he goes out on the lash. I absolutely hate waking up in bed to that smell hanging around us both. Yeuch.