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To think that the "safety pin" is unlikely to be recognised by the people that really need it.

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GerdaLovesLili · 29/06/2016 19:48

Just that really. My neighbours who are pretty much 80% BAME that's characteristic of my end of the borough I live in (24 flats and yes, I got to talk to pretty much all of them today as usual while I was outside gardening/hanging up the laundry/walking up to and from the school) have absolutely no idea what the hell the safety pin is all about. Mainly because not one of them is an i/Indy/Grauniad reader.

How do we ensure that they know that it's a symbol of hope for them and not just smug virtue signalling?

I'm sure those of us who've been around for any amount of time remember this thread...www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1408141-to-show-I-am-asexual-by-wearing-a-black-ring

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DubiousCredentials · 29/06/2016 19:50

I have no idea what you are talking about Confused

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GerdaLovesLili · 29/06/2016 19:51
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acasualobserver · 29/06/2016 19:58

In the 1980s it was a safe sex symbol!

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NotYoda · 29/06/2016 19:59

The safety pin can't be smug virtue signalling or a symbol of hope if no-one know what it means


(As an aside, I think one person's symbol of hope is another person's "virtue signalling" (a phrase I only learned this week) - that goes for ribbons, badges, poppies and those plastic wrist bands that make me wince because they probably don't biodegrade. And that's OK, IMO)



(Also, many people (me and a few people I know) aren't on FB and have no idea what a hashtag is or how one uses one)

The only way I can show support is by treating people the way I'd like to be treated and by standing up against racism when I hear it

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GerdaLovesLili · 29/06/2016 19:59

acasualobserver Oh yes, I remember that now!

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NotYoda · 29/06/2016 20:03

My answer wasn't very coherent Blush

I suppose those people on FB or twitter who are the ones people want to support will get to hear about it

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AdrenalineFudge · 29/06/2016 20:03

I think it's pointless.

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GerdaLovesLili · 29/06/2016 20:03

NotYoda It isn't much use as a symbol of support (unlike a readable badge, or one of those coloured bracelets) If the only people that recognise what it is are the other wearers of it. And the other wearers will know what it is hence virtue signalling amongst themselves.

The only way I can show support is by treating people the way I'd like to be treated and by standing up against racism when I hear it
Absolutely.

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alltheworld · 29/06/2016 20:04

On a practical level a safety pin isn't very noticeable. If I was someone being harassed etc in the street and looking around for friendly support I wouldn't notice a pin.

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Crispbutty · 29/06/2016 20:04

"In the 1980s it was a safe sex symbol!"

was it??? I missed that memo Confused

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NotYoda · 29/06/2016 20:06

Maybe a big "I am not a racist twat" badge?

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Trills · 29/06/2016 20:08

I agree that it will only be recognised by the kind of people I follow on Twitter.

The only virtue I can think of, is that if someone is wearing a safety pin, it will remind them to act and to speak out if they witness something bad happening.

The people being attacked or insulted may not know what the pin is, but the person wearing the pin will think I am wearing the pin, I have committed to speaking out.

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Banderwassnatched · 29/06/2016 20:12

If I put it in my ear, is that still punk?

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Crispbutty · 29/06/2016 20:15

supportive punk?? ;)

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GerdaLovesLili · 29/06/2016 20:16

Triils The people being attacked or insulted may not know what the pin is, but the person wearing the pin will think I am wearing the pin, I have committed to speaking out.

But I don't need a badge to help me think that, and neither do any of the people that I know.

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EdithWeston · 29/06/2016 20:17

In my day, the wearers of safety pins were punks. And that was pretty well known, novel and distinctive.

I think you ignore the history of a symbol at your peril.

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MrsHathaway · 29/06/2016 20:17

Even if someone who would want the support knows about it, what happens when she gets on a tube where one passenger is wearing a safety pin and nobody else is? That's the point that swung me this afternoon.

I often have a safety pin attached to me, but not as a statement, as a functional item. I agree that it risks being mere Twitterati virtue signalling.

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EdithWeston · 29/06/2016 20:19

I think when I said 'ignore' I actually meant 'appropriate'

You can't just nick one of the main symbols of a totally different cultural movement (especially such a recent one).

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GerdaLovesLili · 29/06/2016 20:21

Crispbutty I seem to remember, though there are a couple of years during the 80's that are a bit of a haze, that I had friends who wore a condom packet safety pinned to themselves to highlight safe sex. (In retrospect it was probably an accident waiting to happen).

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Crispbutty · 29/06/2016 20:22

I only remember safety pins being the fashion of punk too in the 80's and I was in my heyday back then. To be fair, safe sex was not really something that crossed many peoples minds at all until the early 90s and Freddie Mercury died. That was when things really started to improve with education and advice.

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juststoppit · 29/06/2016 20:23

Well it's a bloody misnomer for a start. I suffered a minor groin puncture with one of these so-called 'safety pins' when it decided it didn't want to hold my pants up any more.

And don't get me started on 'safety' matches.

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Trills · 29/06/2016 20:25

I think that in a stressful situation where you are a bit scared and the easiest option is to do nothing, something that reminds you of your promise can only be a good thing.

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Crispbutty · 29/06/2016 20:25

A safety pinned condom was probably more of an invitation than a warning lol!... I dont remember much from my Pernod and Blackcurrant haze though.. Although the thought of removing myself out of my electric blue fishnet tights, peeling of the fuscia skin tight dress and being able to walk anywhere in my fuscia stilettos would have usually been enough to persuade me to get a cab home back then.. Blush

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Trills · 29/06/2016 20:26

Wouldn't a safety pinned condom have a hole in it?

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TheoriginalLEM · 29/06/2016 20:26

"You can't just nick one of the main symbols of a totally different cultural movement (especially such a recent one)."

indeed - just ask hitler!

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