To think that having a second child has messed up my health?

[NapQueen]

Anyone else found this?

Pre kids, fit as a fiddle. If I ever felt under the weather enough time be off work a day of bed rest always pulled me round.

Since having dc2 (ds), I've had a gallbladder infection (a month after he was born), strep throat twice, pneumonia and the flu. Proper "fuck me I want to die" flu not that cold that people say "I've the flu " but they are still at work.

I'm currently off work today with a bad cold. Not the flu. But I'm so so dizzy. Sat or lay still I can "feel" my head and top half of my body veering off to the left.

Planning on getting checked over tomorrow as I'm worried it may be vertigo.

DS is 18mo. Seriously, though, it may be down to age but I'm only 31!

AIBU to think a second pregnancy, and the rigours of parenting two small kids has sent my general health into a nose dive.

[Champagneformyrealfriends]

I was just saying to my mum today that since I had my dd I'm always bloody ill. Sickness bugs, colds, ear infections, even an abscess that required antibiotics. Pre-DD I was never poorly. So YANBU, but having my only child has messed mine up.

[timeandtide]

Are you eating properly? I always get run down if my diet goes a bit to
Pot.

It could just be a run of shit luck though OP

Hope you feel better soon.

Ps ask your doc if you can get the flu vaccine this year. I get it every year as I used to take an asthmatic like cough during the winter and it's completely stopped it.

[NapQueen]

Oh I really am shite at looking after myself food wise. Certainly since dc2 and bastard shift work.

I need to make real improvements there.

Probably that is it to be honest.

It's just nigh on impossible to eat well every meal when I'm asleep at 1am after a late shift then up all day with two small kids at 6.

I need a lottery win so I cna just hire a chef.

[NapQueen]

Flu jab is on the list of stuff to do - not sure if I'd qualify for it with the pneumonia probably! If not I'll pop to Boots for it.

[Fozzleyplum]

Yep. Fine after DC1, but DC2 was a very different story. Whilst I had very easy pregnancies, I became very asthmatic during the 2nd pregnancy and by the time DC2 was a year old, I had persistent asthma which needed successive courses of steroids and deteriorated into pneumonia and pleurisy. It still recurs 12 years later!

I have several friends who had a similar history.

[NapQueen]

Fucking kids.

[JuxtapositionRecords]

Lack of sleep does this, looks like you are only getting 5hours a night, that's really not enough (as im sure you know ).

[knottedwood]

touch wood touch wood that stage has now passed for me. i thought DC3 had totally cost me my health - never ill before, but after DC3 I had an unending stream of illnesses (same ones as you, in fact).
He's 4 now. And I wasn't ill this winter. Hurray! I reckon it's the exhaustion of little children, and that passes. Eventually.

[NapQueen]

Tiredness does add to it yeah. I don't always work lates so on those nights I try and get to sleep for 10pm. On my weekdays off I generally have an hours snooze with dc2 while dc1 is at afternoon preschool (maybe 1 or 2 times a week).


So overall my sleep probably balances but it's in bursts.

So glad to hear others have experienced similar (obviously not glad to hear people are ill).

[PenelopeChipShop]

I'm the same but my dc2 is only 3 months so I was hoping it would improve!! So far I've had an infection in my c section scar, laryngitis, full-on flu (in bed incapacitated), constant weird muscle cramps that I can't get to the bottom of and two bouts of mastitis. I feel constantly weak and am desperate to get back up working out to get fit and healthy but my bloody scar hurts if I even walk did more than about an hour still! Argh!!

[NapQueen]

Penelope sorry to hear that, what a crap few months!

I am really looking forward to middle age! No small kids,presumably more time to look after myself.

Roll on 45!

[Hobbes8]

Lack of sleep can have a really negative effect on health. I bet you used to rest up a lot more when you were ill pre-kids.

[Iggi999]

Sounds like you might have labyrinthitis. Do your ears feel a bit "full"? My GP told me to rest as I'm run down.

[NapQueen]

Yeah blocked ears (was assuming mild infection) - will call docs first thing.

[Iggi999]

I'm already 45 so I'm screwed

[Ditsy4]

And I'm past it!
When you become a mum you don't look after yourself as much. I'm afraid it becomes ingrained as I still don't and mine have left home.

[MarkRuffaloCrumble]

Ask if your doc will do a thyroid function test. In times of hormonal imbalance your thyroid is especially susceptible and this can lead to a weakened immune system.

[PenelopeChipShop]

Haha I feel the same NapQueen! On really bad days I look forward to being 40 which for me will be when they're both in school!

Sorry to hear you're feeling so crap too. We really have to make looking after ourselves a priority I think. Though it is blinking difficult.