To spend the evening crying and wallowing in my own misery?

[SleeplessAndRedundant]

Namechanged for anonymity. I'm being made redundant due to restructuring meaning my job will no longer exist. Have found out this afternoon that I've been unsuccessful in my application for the only suitable alternative role available in the new structure.

I'm completely gutted. I've only had the job for a year. It's perfect for my current situation with regards to hours/childcare/location and so on. I like my job and my colleagues. It's helped me keep my sanity as I found it quite difficult being at home with DD all the time, especially with DH's work patterns. We could do without losing my income, as well.

AIBU to indulge my emotional side and cry/wallow/shout IT'S NOT FAIR/stuff my face with chocolate etc this evening?

[Hissy]

Absolutely not being U love! You go right ahead!

[Cutecat78]

YANBU for 1 night.

Tomorrow you have to pick yourself up and start looking for a new job

[ghostyslovesheep]

no you are NOT - wallow away xxx

[Mouikey]

What Cutecat78 said!!!

This door closes and another will open - its going to be an exciting adventure!

[burdog]

Absolutely. A good wallow will do you the world of good.

[mygorgeousmilo]

I've always had a bit of a thing I could maybe call 'controlled wallowing'. I've always applied it to breaking up with old boyfriends, losing a job, anything upsetting really. I would just say to myself that I had X amount of hours/days to wallow and eat ice cream - and then address taking my next step. I've always felt like it works very well. You're entitled to feel crappy, but don't let it drag on... Give yourself a break and then dust yourself off and make your next move

[SomeDaysIDontGiveAMonkeys]

You only found out today, so you know what you are allowed to wallow, scream its not fair, cry and do whatever it takes to get it out your system. In all honesty I have only ever found for myself and everyone else I know who has been made redundant, that its been a blessing in disguise. Have a plan of action to get you focused on the right things. You've only been there a year so I'm assuming your CV is fairly up-to-date but now you can focus on adding your current role, take time to jot down the positives so you can then word them into action orientated bullet points for your CV. I say give yourself a few days to feel like pants and then start next week anew. Hint to DH you need a meal out. Best of luck OP

[SleeplessAndRedundant]

Thanks all. Feeling utterly miserable. I've been sleeping badly for the last few weeks while decisions were being made at work. I will start looking for another job again tomorrow (I did start after the initial annoucement) but am completely drained today.

[DarlingCoffee]

Tomorrow is a brand new day. Hope you feel better tomorrow OP

[timeandtide]

Wallow away but remember that it will get better. Have good cry and
Then get your chin up. You'll have plenty of skills offer another employer and you'll be snapped up
In no time.

[GoringBit]

Not unreasonable at all, wallow away. I hope you get something sorted soon. (or if you prefer.)