AIBU to admit being a twonk and apologising?

[takingfootoutmouth]

Cutting a long story short I repeated a sentence someone said to person she said it about. Other person went off the deep end. (it was a pretty trivial sentence about one not agreeing with what other person did).
Person who said sentence I repeated called me up on it. I admitted saying it, apologised. Expected some sulking but holy batman it's all gone bananas.
There was FB drama and original sentence sayer having a massive abuse hurl at other persons OH...
AIBU in that yes I repeated something I shouldn't have but can't be responsible for the other two's massive over reaction?
Short of hopping in time machine I can't change history....

[peppercold]

Well if you hadn't repeated it....

[Costacoffeeplease]

But you are responsible for the fall-out

[monkeywithacowface]

Well you were shit stirring and now there's a shit storm. Probably not much you can do but strongly suggest you don't try to "help" smooth things over

[ChicRock]

What you're seeing is the fallout of you being a gossip.

[takingfootoutmouth]

Yes yes... I know... Tbh I can't even remember why it came up. Should have kept big gob shut.

[takingfootoutmouth]

Wasn't intentional shit stirring, but you're right there is a shit storm (which was my fault). Yup I shall not be trying to smooth things out as I will probably make it worse!

[ReallyShouldKnowBetterAtMyAge]

Oh dear I suppose all you can do is apologise an learn not to be a gossip

[takingfootoutmouth]

Yup. Lesson learned (and sadly 'friendship' lost). Was one of those 'brain telling mouth to button it but mouth just kept going' moments.

[StarryIllusion]

Isn't it awful when your mouth runs away with you like that? We've all done it but tbh I would just stop digging Let it blow over.

[takingfootoutmouth]

starryillusion Yup... Well and truly should have kept gob shut. But it's said now and I will be bad guy (even if their reactions are shocking, wasn't a big sentence. More a oo she didn't like that kind of thing). No more digging shall be done as I think my apology made it worse, and they used my mouth opening as an excuse to go battle

[KimmySchmidtsSmile]

Ah OP, you're not Cher and you don't have a so all you can do is...
...tell us what you said in the first place!
Only then can we judge accordingly whether it was gossip/bitchin worth tattle-taleing about.

[Pettywoman]

Lol Kimmy.

[AgentPineapple]

It's can be easily done OP, I have done it and unlike you didn't apologise or admit I had done anything wrong (don't really know why!) it's one of those learn from it moments xx

[takingfootoutmouth]

AgentPineapple... I actually don't think apologising helped as I admitted it too. I usually repeat nothing but for some reason this just slipped out... sews up mouth to avoid any repeats

[takingfootoutmouth]

Kimmy I actually had to stop myself saying the exact same thing to her when apologizing (or singing If I could turn back time)...
Ooo I could tell you...but then I'd have to... Hide away forever in a cabin in the woods whittling spoons...

[timeandtide]

You made a mistake. If you're not known for shit snorting then they need to get over it and grow the fuck up.

Please tell us what you said

[timeandtide]

Stirring not snorting!!

[IceRoadDucker]

YABU for trying to shift the blame onto the people you gossiped you. It reminds me of, "I'm great at keeping secrets! It's the people I tell who can't keep their mouths shut."

Of course you can't go back and change what you did but your attitude suggests you haven't really learnt from it.

[IceRoadDucker]

you gossiped to*

[takingfootoutmouth]

Oh no... I do know what I did was my fault. Not blame shifting at all. I made a mistake. He went off the deep end (for what was said). She then went bat sht crazy back at him. I am not a ' sht stirrer *. She shouldn't have said it, I shouldn't have reapeated and he shouldn't have gone off the deep end. We all are in the wrong.

[takingfootoutmouth]

Sh*t snorting... Hmm yum!?
But yeah there does seem to be a lack of adulting. I admitted I was inwrong to repeat it (it was about something she didn't agree with he did.) not first time she has had very strong opinions on others (including me) and i suspect won't be the last. I've learnt my lesson. Problem is now a whole list of people are telling him what else she has said about him...

[AgentPineapple]

taking no it probably didn't help but what else can you do? It's not like you can go back in time and undo it. So in that way, an apology is all there is

[pippinandtog]

And in future, bear in mind Thumper's old adage.

[takingfootoutmouth]

Yup, sorry was all I could do. Especially as I didn't actually name her, he guessed it was her as she is known for opinions. Ach well, I'm sure she'll get over it eventually (and maybe learn not to talk about people behind their backs, because there's always a gype that will drop you in it, even if accidentally)

[takingfootoutmouth]

Pippin yup, sadly I don't think she will too. He didn't know it was her specifically (his fb status didn't name her) until she text him. He guessed prob was her as she is known for not being Thumper...