AIBU to expect there to be some sleep on a sleepover?

(33 Posts)
FauxFox Sat 25-Jun-16 23:52:19

DD has a friend sleeping over. They are 11. i have just come up to bed and they are still totally awake talking and listening to a CD. I have turned it off and told them to be quiet or I will put them in different rooms confused AIBU? It's not a bloody party, it's a favour to a friend...I hate sleepovers...they have been ok I suppose once I finally managed to shut them up enough for DS to get to sleep but FGS hmm why are they not tired? I bloody am!

OddSocksHighHeels Sat 25-Jun-16 23:54:40

It was pretty much a rule when I was young that there would be no sleep on sleepovers. Plus we had to have our midnight feast!

As long as they're being quiet enough then I'd go to sleep and leave them to it.

Donatellalymanmoss Sat 25-Jun-16 23:55:48

Don't be so grumpy. Surely that's just the way of it.

AlpacaLypse Sat 25-Jun-16 23:56:07

The important thing is that it's not a school night and you say the younger child in the house has managed to get to sleep. Give them another half hour, if they don't have any electronic distractions (and it sounds like you've got rid of all those already) they'll probably pass out.

DeathStare Sat 25-Jun-16 23:56:12

YABU. Sorry.

It's why I rarely agree to sleepovers. But then I'm a killjoy

Quietlygoingmad67 Sat 25-Jun-16 23:56:32

This made me giggle - I have 2 older teens and we have never worked out why they are called 'sleep'overs when NO sleeping actually happens!! Good luck! smile

MrHannahSnell Sun 26-Jun-16 00:03:09

When our DD had them, sleep and sunrise tend to happen about the same time.

FauxFox Sun 26-Jun-16 00:04:14

Ugh. I feared I was BU. if it makes any difference DD was out til 11.30pm last night after she was in a show and I had kind of hoped it might mean earlier sleeping. I am grumpy it's true, I have had a mega stressful week and could have done without this tonight...they seem to be all quiet now so fingers crossed that's it (until DS wakes up at 5.30 anyway...) I wouldn't mind if it was a party...I'm not a complete killjoy. Also last time DD went on a sleepover she was texting me at 10.30 saying she was crying because she wanted to sleep and the others weren't confused she is just a sleepover pain in the arse clearly grin

CointreauVersial Sun 26-Jun-16 00:06:54

Heh heh! They probably still have hours left in them. Then your DD will be the Antichrist tomorrow.

<been there, done that>

Suggest you find a pair of earplugs and wrap yourself in the nearest duvet.

AlpacaLypse Sun 26-Jun-16 00:08:27

I've always found that wine and chocolate really helps when the upper floors of my home are infested with giggling teenage girls....

Have you placed stuff for the making of breakfast somewhere utterly obvious ready for the morning? Appreciate this will probably not stop the younger ds waking you at 5.30, but who knows, you might just get away with it!

FauxFox Sun 26-Jun-16 00:11:18

Yes I have a week of strops to look forward to when she is too tired to get up for school - what fun hmm

We don't do many sleepovers and every time we do it just reminds me why - play dates every night of the week -no problem! Saturday night sleepover - no way!

Xmasbaby11 Sun 26-Jun-16 00:14:56

Yabu
I don't think 11 or so is that late for her age and presumably she can sleep in tomorrow . But you say she'll be tired so I understand why you're annoyed!

Sootica Sun 26-Jun-16 00:16:01

DD is 9 and she goes to loads of sleepovers, they are the favourite birthday thing to do for her friends, the kids rarely sleep before midnight. I was kind of forced into one for her birthday as one of her best friends otherwise wouldn't have been able to come to the party as her family were going away that night, but actually they were very sweet! I got them watching a film in bed from 8.30 and after that said whispers only and I think they were asleep by 10.30. The previous year for 8th birthday I was virtually in tears at midnight with them bouncing off the walls, the baby having been woken up about 3 times and knowing baby would still be up at 5 as usual, and one of the children having lost their comfort cuddly toy. Never again I said!

ParadiseCity Sun 26-Jun-16 00:22:48

I feel for you OP. I don't mind a party type sleepover I have agreed to and invited child(ren) to and steeled myself for. But it's the sneaky 'can you do me a favour' sleepovers that you say yes to sort of accidentally without thinking through that really grate. I said yes to a friend recently and had her son to stay over when I really should have said no, DS had had a busy week, and I should have kept his weekend quieter. So I was pissed off with child but more with myself for agreeing to help a friend when I was already stretched. My own fault.

Hope you all get some rest very soon!

FauxFox Sun 26-Jun-16 00:25:03

That sounds awful
soot - it's a form of torture!

DH is now snoring to add to my delight hmm girls quiet and assumed asleep. They won't lie in and DS definitely won't either.

FauxFox Sun 26-Jun-16 00:26:09

Exactly paradise it's just not the week for it confused

ParadiseCity Sun 26-Jun-16 00:35:50

Make sure she goes early in the morning so you can have a restful day!

Scuttle22 Sun 26-Jun-16 00:40:32

No I bloody hate them and avoid them at all costs. No sleep then a very grumpy child the next day.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost Sun 26-Jun-16 01:14:50

You're not being unreasonable to expect it, but with 11 years old on a sleepover. Sleep ain't going to happen.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost Sun 26-Jun-16 01:15:48

That's not to say. I don't feel sorry for you,though

SamWheat Sun 26-Jun-16 14:17:31

YABU, surely the unwritten rule of sleepovers is that no sleep is supposed to take place, and lots of giggling and midnight feasts are supposed to happen?!
I don't 'do' sleepovers as it's my idea of a living hell lol but if you partake in them, embrace them with wine, chocolate and earplugs grin

RaskolnikovsGarret Sun 26-Jun-16 14:26:42

DD (13) is back from a sleepover today, having slept from 6 to 7am. They apparently watched horror films all night. She is in a great mood. hmm

But I don't mind. She's finished her end of year exams and her instrument exam this week, so am happy for her to do what she wants.

I may however take a different view when they all come to stay over here on the last day of term.

lovemyway Sun 26-Jun-16 14:52:09

YANBU I hate them ! I only agree to one friend or a few in a tent in the garden!

lovemyway Sun 26-Jun-16 14:53:21

But that's the problem rask you can't have wine in case of emergency with someone elses kids! So it's a double hell imo!

CaptainCrunch Sun 26-Jun-16 14:53:24

Sorry OP but that's pretty standard. I always made sure mine only went to or hosted them when you could write the next day off.

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