To think my husband is a complete c***?

(364 Posts)
Whatiswrongwithmykid Fri 24-Jun-16 19:55:02

He had a work lunch today. He has said all along that it's a lunch so therefore he will be back this evening. We have kids including a non sleeping baby. He has already been out the past 2 nights. He knows I'm exhausted and at the end of my tether.

I dumped the baby on him at 6.30 am this morning as I just couldn't take it any longer and needed sleep. I told him before he left that I needed him home tonight.

You can guess where this is going can't you! I text him at 5.30 to see if he was finished. He eventually replied an hour later to say he needed " a pass" but wouldn't be too late. Not heard a word since. I'm fuming! I have no help at all, except him. So I've not had a break or any help with the kids since Tuesday night. I'm shattered and I face another night of being up every hour.

Creampastry Fri 24-Jun-16 19:58:25

He can deal with kids tomorrow morning

Handsoffmysweets Fri 24-Jun-16 19:59:15

What a useless, selfish twat. I feel for you OP flowers.

LadyIncuntliaButtock Fri 24-Jun-16 20:01:13

Yes, he is a cunt.

Actually, wait, no - cunts are useful, he very clearly is not.

VashtaNerada Fri 24-Jun-16 20:02:29

Tell him you need a pass this weekend and spend it in bed. Cunt.

Marthacliffscumbag Fri 24-Jun-16 20:02:39

He's a prick, asking for a 'pass' to put the onus on you to make a decision.....he walks all over you, what will you say or do when he turns up? Dies he have form for this? I'm guessing it's a regular occurrence which means he knows you'll be pissed off but he does it anyway because he knows you'll put up with it.
Time to make some changes really isn't it? Carry on as you are, seething with rage and resentment or do something about it.

Magstermay Fri 24-Jun-16 20:02:56

I agree, feel very sorry for you OP flowers

Ringadingdingdong22 Fri 24-Jun-16 20:05:09

YANBU he's being a selfish cunt.

If you're not breastfeeding could you book yourself into a hotel tomorrow night and leave him to it? You're probably too nice to do that though.

lollyj84 Fri 24-Jun-16 20:05:26

flowersbrew. I'm sorry OP. I've been in your position. Is the baby BF? You need to sit him down tomorrow and tell him this can't continue. I agree with pp leave him todeal with DC in the morning. I hope he's home soon and you get some well deserved rest.

blowmybarnacles Fri 24-Jun-16 20:05:30

How come he has been out two nights in a row? This makes it three.
I'd be beyond fuming too. angry

SpongeCakeBigPants Fri 24-Jun-16 20:05:31

So selfish. Poor you. Sending lots of chocolate wine

Spend tomorrow in bed and let him deal with the kids.

Sanibel09 Fri 24-Jun-16 20:06:17

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blowmybarnacles Fri 24-Jun-16 20:07:15

Did you give him the 'pass' or tell him to come home?

Ringadingdingdong22 Fri 24-Jun-16 20:08:01

It's not pathetic at all. Jog on.

AdoraBell Fri 24-Jun-16 20:08:04

Do nothing for him, at all. No cooking, no washing, no ironing, no errands or favors. Fucking 'pass' hmm He's a parent, not a student in halls.

Marthacliffscumbag Fri 24-Jun-16 20:08:28

Sanibel, she isn't a single parent though is she?! Thats the whole fucking point of getting married, you're a team, you support each other, help each other and pull your fucking weight otherwise yeah, you might as well be single.

Marthacliffscumbag Fri 24-Jun-16 20:09:52

What did you say when he asked for the pass op?
Anything other than 'come home right now you giant fucking manchild' and I'm afraid my sympathy will disappear.

Abinob Fri 24-Jun-16 20:10:28

Having experience of living on my own with ds and with his dad I can 100% say that living with someone who isn't doing their fair share is a lot harder and more frustrating than doing everything yourself because you're the only one there. (He does do his fair share now though atleast)
It's not that she's moaning about doing it, she's rightly complaining that she's shattered and he's off out

Fairylea Fri 24-Jun-16 20:10:52

Sanibel biscuit the op isn't a single parent. She is feeling hurt because the other parent is behaving like an absolute twat and isn't pulling their weight. Having been a single parent myself I think your comment shows a lack of empathy.

Op he is behaving dreadfully.

Misnomer Fri 24-Jun-16 20:11:22

Yes, he is a cunt. As is sanibel09.

Flowers for you, op flowers. I hope you manage to get some rest this weekend.

Sallygoroundthemoon Fri 24-Jun-16 20:11:26

I do sometimes wonder why people have kids when the men can't be arsed with them and the women reach the end if their tether looking after them. It's a genuine mystery.

Abinob Fri 24-Jun-16 20:11:48

Didnt explain well. I mean living alone and doing everything is easier than not living alone but still doing everything, whilst someone is off pissing around whilst you take care of their responsibilities for them.

Whatiswrongwithmykid Fri 24-Jun-16 20:11:58

I replied "WTF" so no I didn't give him the pass. He wasn't really asking just telling me, he knew I wouldn't be happy. He hasn't responded.
He knows that yesterday I was so run ragged ( baby doesn't sleep and moans constantly day and night) I had to leave her in her cot and walk away because I was close to snapping. So clearly he gives not s shit about me or his kids.

TSSDNCOP Fri 24-Jun-16 20:12:02

Hang on - what is his job?

My DH does most of the business that supports us all by shmoozing at lunches and dinners. Sounds great but having dreams me it myself it's beyond tedious, especially when you've got a talker.

Will he take the kids tomorrow OP?

We can't comment until we know all the facts.

Sallygoroundthemoon Fri 24-Jun-16 20:12:09

*of their

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