To be really frustrated over dh and his eu vote?

(71 Posts)
Babysafari Thu 23-Jun-16 18:59:20

I know I shouldn't be, it's his vote and his choice.

We have both been undecided with him leaning towards out and me towards in.

The difference is that I take an interest in politics. I'm not saying I understand everything but I've read up loads about the eu and found out as much information as I can.

Dh has no interest in politics, he's never voted before, he can't name the leaders of any of the parties, he's refused to watch any of the referendum stuff. He couldn't tell you a single fact about the eu, he thought we only joined 10 years ago.

He's voted out on the basis that he thinks there'll be more jobs.

It's not the way he voted it's that he's made such an uninformed decision.

DaisyBanana Thu 23-Jun-16 19:02:06

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ThroughThickAndThin01 Thu 23-Jun-16 19:03:39

This is why people shouldn't discuss politics, or how they've voted. It's not worth the fallout.

LineyReborn Thu 23-Jun-16 19:06:36

I think the lack of knowledge would bother me, yes.

Pinkheart5915 Thu 23-Jun-16 19:08:50

His vote completely his choice, why does it bother you so much I just don't get it.

Loads of people would of voted differently from you today it's called a democracy.

Babysafari Thu 23-Jun-16 19:09:29

Oh I know, I never discuss it outside the house and on here.

Although fil is determined to start a discussion every time we see him.

I know I'm being unreasonable the whole point of democracy is that everyone gets to vote.

I can't help thinking he's an idiot for voting blindly.

StiickEmUp Thu 23-Jun-16 19:09:38

Some people just don't know and the campaigns are useless on both sides. I don't tell anyone how I vote none of anyone's business

Apart from my DH and we are voting the same way anyway. If he voted one way with no knowledge what th fuck would it have to do with me

FenellaMaxwell Thu 23-Jun-16 19:11:13

YANBU. I genuinely think people should have to pass a test to show they have an understanding of what they are voting on before they are allowed to vote at all!

mrsfuzzy Thu 23-Jun-16 19:11:28

plenty of marriages and relationships could be wrecked or damaged in the out come, but it is a free choice.

ImSoVeryTired Thu 23-Jun-16 19:13:06

At least he voted. My oh never bothers.

mrsfuzzy Thu 23-Jun-16 19:13:32

fenella i find it worrying that certain parties want 16 year old to have the vote, god for bid.

oblada Thu 23-Jun-16 19:14:55

It would definitely piss me off too, completely agree! Can't imagine DH and I voting differently... It could end in war/divorce otherwise smile

Sparklesilverglitter Thu 23-Jun-16 19:15:38

His vote so that is completely up to him.

I bet many people just went to polling stations and picked in or out by what they felt right that moment. The trouble has been with this referendum both sides have been useless in getting there point across, both sides have used scaremongering. It's all be very confusing even for people I know that have a great interest in politics.

Me and dh both voted via postal vote but we didn't ask each other how they voted. Our vote our choice.

It's a democracy people can choose to vote however they want and vote based on whatever they want.

Babysafari Thu 23-Jun-16 19:16:12

This is no lie when my next door neighbour voted in the general election she asked the polling clerks who she should vote for. Because they wouldn't say she chose the name she liked.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe Thu 23-Jun-16 19:16:23

I'm not sure what he's supposed to do really. Both sides give good arguments for their decision and NOT voting really isn't seen as a good thing... so you vote your conscience. I voted out too - for sound reasons. I don't think I'll get my wish and my vote will have the same impact as your husband's, only his reasons may be less clear. Same result.

One thing that is clear is that many people will be disappointed with the result, whichever way it goes.

carmelsundae Thu 23-Jun-16 19:16:24

I imagine a lot of people have voted blindly though, whatever it's remain or out! Would you of felt the same annoyance if he'd voted remain without any knowledge as to why?

P1nkP0ppy Thu 23-Jun-16 19:17:40

That's how democracy works op...........
We voted opposite views, no big deal Bec we respect each other's views and decisions.
confused

KondosSecretJunkRoom Thu 23-Jun-16 19:17:52

Urgh, I've ended up scrapping with my brother on Facebook. We often disagree on politics but this has become too charged. I'm going to have to de-escalate it before it tips over but he will think he is right, ffs.

howtorebuild Thu 23-Jun-16 19:18:17

His vote, his choice.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe Thu 23-Jun-16 19:18:18

OP - maybe there should have been a 'vote of no confidence' option and perhaps your neighbour would have voted for that, legitimately.

When you say 'this is no lie' you're saying that you can't understand her reasons. I can totally understand the blind panic at needing to vote and not having a clear direction. That's the shambles our political system is in - I don't blame your neighbour one bit.

P1nkP0ppy Thu 23-Jun-16 19:18:27

And it's preferable to apathy and not bothering.

holdinghands Thu 23-Jun-16 19:19:25

If he'd voted 'stay' would you be this annoyed?

LineyReborn Thu 23-Jun-16 19:19:35

mrsfuzzy there are plenty of 16 year olds who know the names of the main parties' leaders, the pros and cons of EU membership, and could name various members of the Cabinet.

All by watching The Last Leg.

OutToGetYou Thu 23-Jun-16 19:20:15

Dp thinks whatever the outcome it won't main e any difference. I suspect he voted opposite to me. He also did zero research whereas I did an online course on FutureLearn and EU law and constitution was part of my law degree.

Politics is a complete nightmare in our house.

LineyReborn Thu 23-Jun-16 19:21:55

Kondos just say 'let's agree to disagree'. No one has to give in, as such.

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