Have a lovely group of girlfriends , but things are becoming increasingly tense for me as I feel like I never get a say in group things. Whenever I try and make a plan for the group, someone tries to take over, changing the plan. Being the easy going person I am, I just let it go. But after a while, if you never feel like you get a say, it becomes a bit tireseome.
I asked a friend ages ago if they were free for a birthday celebration and the date was good. Then this friend brought up to the group that we need to organise something for my birthday, so I suggested this date. Now my friend is not free, even though she said she was. Then asking me if I am free the day before for everyone to come to her event. Really!? Another is not free due to other circumstances which is fair enough.
Just feel like when anyone else makes a date, everyone tries to make it, but I somehow have to plan my birthday round everyone else. Can they not think of me for a second. Feels like they are so wrapped up in their selves. they aren't really thinking of me. I am over it. We have a birthday celebration for everyone in the group, but I would rather not have one at the moment..
It's not really the birthday , it is how the whole group dynamic works now that worries me...
ideas on what to do moving forward?
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to feel like I never have a say, even for my birthday.
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lill72 · 23/06/2016 08:41
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