AIBU to give an iphone to an 8-year-old

(31 Posts)
moofolk Wed 22-Jun-16 10:45:52

Bear with me on this. Not long ago I would have thought it ridiculous to give an iphone to a child, but am considering giving one to my son for his 8th birthday.
It would be for inside the house, and he'll be getting his own bedroom soon. Would serve as pad / tablet, could play games, music, etc. I probably wouldn't get a sim card (though could work up to that). I have i-stuff so he could have access to my music through family sharing, but through iMessage on home wifi he could send messages to his best friend. She has one, mainly to contact her mum when she stays at her dad's house. Obvs would have to get on board with heavy parental controls etc, I don't want him unsupervised on the internet but don't know how that works.
It would be an older model, a second hand 4 or something cheap.
So in many ways sensible but part of me screams inside at the idea of a kid that young having an iphone. Am I reasonable or is that outdated thinking?

FirstWeTakeManhattan Wed 22-Jun-16 10:48:44

Has he asked for one?

99GBPChargeToUseMyPostsJournos Wed 22-Jun-16 10:49:02

If you aren't going to get a sim for it, why not get a tablet instead? Better for games. If you are getting an older second hand phone it may well be past its use by date by the time you have workef up to getting a sim for it.

purplefox Wed 22-Jun-16 10:50:32

If you're not using it as a phone just get a ipod

WoodleyPixie Wed 22-Jun-16 10:51:36

Get an iPod touch. It does everything an iPhone does except calls. You can have I messages and face time etc.

My daughter is 10 and this is what she has. She has a Nokia that's not hers but a spare in the drawer for when she goes out with friends playing in the park but I wouldn't trust her with an iPhone yet.

cuntinghomicidalcardigan Wed 22-Jun-16 10:51:51

For all the reasons you've stated I might get one to have for the 8 yo to use. However I balk at getting one specifically for a present for an 8 yo. I would worry that there would then be expectations regarding it's availability for use and battles over it. Surely there are things an 8 yo would prefer for his birthday? (Disclaimer - I don't have an 8yo) smile

JacquesHammer Wed 22-Jun-16 10:52:15

My DD has had an ancient iphone since she was about 6. We did like you - no SIM and she basically used as an iPod.

She then got given a slightly newer old iPhone which she now has a SIM in. She has a couple of contacts in Whatsapp (me, her dad, her aunts, her grandparents) and the rest is locked down.

She is on a £4 a month contract and never goes above that.

But she likes (and so do we) that when she's at the other parent's house she can text either of us with anything she thinks of.

EdmundCleverClogs Wed 22-Jun-16 10:52:27

I agree, if you're not getting a sim and it's not leaving the house, get a tablet. I love my iPhone, but it's a dual function mini computer and phone. Anything really 'fun' I use my tablet for. It's not s good thing to strain your eyes on a smaller screen used primarily as a toy.

CrazyDuchess Wed 22-Jun-16 10:53:18

My daughter is 7 and I gave her my old samsung for christmas with a PAYG sim. she doesn't use it outside, but to communicate with her dad and play games on it.

I keep a very close eye on her usage and she is very sensible. I don't see the big deal personally.

EdmundCleverClogs Wed 22-Jun-16 10:54:17

Sorry, that should say I agree with 99GBP

AppleSetsSail Wed 22-Jun-16 10:54:26

The problem with an iphone is she can put it in her pocket and take it everywhere. A tablet seems a bit more restrictive.

rainbowunicorn Wed 22-Jun-16 10:57:05

OP if it works for you and the only thing stopping you is what others may think or say about it I would do it.
You will get people on here telling you that no way should anyone under 16 / 18 have anything other than a basic tesco brick of a phone. You will also get people telling you that all internet access is terrible unless you are sat there beside them and that screen time should be limited to 30 mins on a Sunday and nothing else.
In my experience it only works like that on here , real life is rather different, my own son has had a Samsung tablet since he was around 8 for games, music, films etc. He got his first phone at Christmas when he was 10, not an iphone however still a smartphone that does everything an iphone can.
To be honest I think the fact apple is seen as a luxury brand has people pearl clutching at the thought of children having them, ignore and do what is right for you.

PurpleCrazyHorse Wed 22-Jun-16 10:58:51

Be aware that an old iPhone might not be able to run the newer apps, if that's important. Plus their screen size is very small for games.

We're putting off DD (7yo) having her own device but we might get me an iPad and I'd let her use it for some of her apps. She can then use it supervised and at suitable times.

PenguinsAreAce Wed 22-Jun-16 11:01:10

She's 8. An iPad is fine, with appropriate supervision and parental controls. A phone is unnecessary before secondary.

FirstWeTakeManhattan Wed 22-Jun-16 11:09:59

I was coming around to the idea of screens for younger ones, and then hosted some nieces and nephews a month ago, and they were all glued to their screens for three bloody days. My kids could barely get them to play anything.

I don't mind them fiddling around ours every now and then, but It put me off again for a while yet to be honest.

DJBaggieSmalls Wed 22-Jun-16 11:11:21

The Tesco Hudl tablet is £100.

oldharrysgame Wed 22-Jun-16 11:33:37

Get an Asus Memopad. Cheap and cheerful . Set her up on email and make sure you have access to her email account on your devices. See how she goes and maybe get a family iPad later.

BeYourselfUnlessUCanBeAUnicorn Wed 22-Jun-16 11:37:00

YABU. An 8 year old doesn't need a phone, sim or not. Get an ipod or a tablet, it doesn't need to be an ipad either which I also think are ott for children. I've just bought DH an amazon fire or whatever it is for his birthday, £39.99 and added a memory card.

1stDayOfSummer Wed 22-Jun-16 11:39:33

8 years old is way too young for a mobile phone, I'd buy him an iPad/Tablet.

RB68 Wed 22-Jun-16 11:53:32

I don't see the difference if they are using them for the same thing. Would you let them use the house phone?? Its no different today - you need controls and you need to "train" them about safety and what to do and not do. DD is now nearly 11 and has had her iphone for 2 yrs payg and we have put two lots of 10 on it the rest of the time just used through wifi at home or away

ProjectUniverse Wed 22-Jun-16 12:57:34

DD2 had one when she was 8 - one of our old iPhones. She had a PAYG sim but lots of stuff is locked down on it. She uses it to whatsapp GPs and also friends. Phone size is great in my opinion as she can pop it in her pocket when we go out and play games. Only problem is she now wants to upgrade!

JacquesHammer Wed 22-Jun-16 13:17:49

These threads always make me laugh.

Posters actually mean my 8 year old is too young for a phone. Which is fine - totally your choice.

But don't project it into a general rule

grannytomine Wed 22-Jun-16 13:24:20

You can get some great educational apps for ipads, really helped my grandson to learn his tables without any angst. You can do it on an iphone as well but due to the smaller screen he finds it much easier to use the pad.

FirstWeTakeManhattan Wed 22-Jun-16 13:49:16

Posters actually mean my 8 year old is too young for a phone

I'm pretty sure some posters also make it clear that they think many other 8 year olds are too young as well.

But in fairness, it's not about it 'being a rule', it's usually just giving their opinion. I think that's fair enough. As long as it's not judgemental and rude, I think it's fine for people to hold an opinion about something and express it.

WhyCantIuseTheNameIWant Wed 22-Jun-16 14:21:02

I used to be hmm at all the kids with iPhones.
Then ds asked for an ipod for Xmas when he was 9.
I was pregnant with dd at the time, and having health issues.
I wanted him to have a cheap phone for emergencies.
Then I saw a second hand Iphone 4 for sale. Cheaper than an ipod. So I got it for him. He has had it 4 years now.

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