to not feed parents at party?

(74 Posts)
FusionChefGeoff Tue 21-Jun-16 22:32:55

Soft play for DS (4) so his first 'proper' party. Package for kids but not allowed to bring in food apart from cake. I feel a bit bad that parents will be there over lunchtime but I'm not providing any food / drinks. If I did, I guess I'd need to allow £8 pp which is an extra £100!!!!

Any way round this or is it ok not to feed the parents???

Salene Tue 21-Jun-16 22:34:06

It's normal , I've never been to a kids party where parents do get fed.

AddToBasket Tue 21-Jun-16 22:34:31

It's fine. The DC won't finish their food and the parents will just hoover up the leftovers and feed themselves elsewhere.

Friolero Tue 21-Jun-16 22:35:36

It's not the norm to feed parents. A drink is often provided but not food.

MsVestibule Tue 21-Jun-16 22:36:13

Definitely OK. I would normally buy myself a coffee and a snack if I was hungry.

wizzywig Tue 21-Jun-16 22:37:50

I must be odd as i put on a full meal for the parents. It ensures that they stay rather than dump their kids and run. Plus i actually get to talk to the parents

ExitPursuedByBear Tue 21-Jun-16 22:38:01

Soft play normally has a cafe where you buy your own. And then hoover up the leftover egg butties.

Oly5 Tue 21-Jun-16 22:40:39

I feed parents too, but mostly cos I like it to be a party for everyone

Lilacpink40 Tue 21-Jun-16 22:42:52

Let the adults finish the kids leftovers or buy their own. £100 extra is ridiculous.

Lilacpink40 Tue 21-Jun-16 22:48:10

...how about taking a few boxes of mixed biscuits along and putting on the side by the cake for adults to snack on?

Fieryfighter Tue 21-Jun-16 22:51:58

I've never been to a kids party where adults are fed although it's common for the host to tell adults to help themselves once the kids have had a plateful if it's a buffet.

What I do know is that I now really really want a sausage roll and cake

PrettyDumb Tue 21-Jun-16 22:57:41

Op, MN is not the place to ask about stuff like this. You'll have a parade of posters along soon telling you that if 'you can't afford it, don't do it'. Bollocks of course, but that's how it is here.

Fourarmsv2 Tue 21-Jun-16 23:00:27

I'd just get a big cake and offer it to the parents when cut.

NarkyKnockers Tue 21-Jun-16 23:01:33

If you really want to get a few pizzas to put out for any parents who want a slice. Should cost about £15.

PPie10 Tue 21-Jun-16 23:02:48

I think it would be a bit rude tbh to not cater at least something. A few platters of sandwiches and cold snacks?

HirplesWithHaggis Tue 21-Jun-16 23:05:45

OP states she's not allowed to bring in food, other than the cake. Having pizzas delivered would be a bit bloody cheeky.

MrsJorahMormont Tue 21-Jun-16 23:06:28

Soft play parties I've been to usually just have coffee and biscuits or buns for parents.

KC225 Tue 21-Jun-16 23:06:45

I've never fed parents, only put out a couple of bowls of crisps/nuts and a drink. As other posters have said, if they want anything they finish off kids food. Never had a party when kids have finished the food. You can also offer a slice of cake too.

NarkyKnockers Tue 21-Jun-16 23:09:25

I meant from the cafe there Hirples grin That's what I've done when I've fed parents which hasn't been every time

manicinsomniac Tue 21-Jun-16 23:09:52

Does the centre sell food? If so, YANBU. If there's nothing there then, I don't know, I suppose maybe a bit. But they can always eat leftovers and cake. And it's only a couple of hours anyway, they won't starve.

TheWindInThePillows Tue 21-Jun-16 23:11:46

I wouldn't feed parents at a soft play party and I've done loads. The venue may not be happy with anything other than a cake. If I've stayed, I've sat in the cafe and eaten.

It's really not expected at a soft play party although offering a nice slice of cake (either get a big one or get two, a chocolate one for parents) always goes down well.

OhGodWhatTheHellNow Tue 21-Jun-16 23:11:53

I've been to dozens of kids parties in all sorts of setttings - I'm usually grateful if there's a cup of coffee (not even a vending machine at the last one sad) but there's no expectation that you feed the parents.
It is nice when you offer something though, I fondly remember the dad who brought sharing bowls of chips over to the staying parents at a soft play party, and we got birthday cake grin but that is rare.

RandomName9 Tue 21-Jun-16 23:14:07

I've done lots of kids parties (and we also run a party hire business). Generally we don't cater for the adults, maybe a drink if included but when there's soft play there's usually a cafe..parents can buy themselves. Offer some cake though smile

grannytomine Tue 21-Jun-16 23:14:09

I keep visualising your mum and dad looking at party food and not being allowed to eat. Sorry, no you don't need to feed parents.

AlpacaPicnic Tue 21-Jun-16 23:14:17

Take an extra cake, or maybe a box or two of assorted muffins?

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