NC for this as it's highly personal and I'd rather not be outed.
I'm getting increasingly annoyed with DM, who seems to have completely lost her filter and become rather offensive. She makes comments about people's appearance or weight very loudly to others who are nearby, and seems completely unaware that she's being A) loud B) inappropriate and that C) the people who are roped into these embarrassing exchanges don't appreciate it. Quite the opposite: DM seems quite proud of these little chats and enjoys mulling over them afterwards.
She can be witheringly unkind to people without seeming to notice their reaction or think she has said anything unpleasant. Conversely, she will also take people into her confidence inappropropriately and share the most personal of details within minutes of meeting them.
She admits that she knows she tells the same stories over and over, but that she enjoys telling them and that's what's important. She also invents a lot of stories, often with her starring as the victim (this is something which is really escalating) and I know that at least some of them are completely made up as I'm the one who victimises her in some of the stories and, unless I'm blocking it out, I've never done these things that she states.
She also hordes compliments, the type that are given after a significant amount of fishing has been done, and likes to talk about how everyone thinks she is really kind/good at something/ intelligent. This makes me feel really bad as I wonder if she has some really deep-seated issues that I should be helping her with, rather than just being annoyed.
I feel my reaction towards her is getting out of hand. I feel suffocated even at the thought of seeing her, but I don't know if it's because she's changing (and if so,whether I should be worried about this) or because I'm increasingly focusing on certain bad habits she has and not seeing the good in her, which would be very unfair.
For info, my mum is in her mid-70s and lives alone, but often goes out walking or helping with local charities.
Thanks for reading and I apologise for going on so much. I am ready for whatever you throw at me
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fryingpan · 21/06/2016 14:32
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