To think this was rude?

[MrsNightOwl]

My friend has been there for me through thick and thin, and has helped me through many dark times in my life. Recently her car became a write off - she was upset because she needed it to get to and from work 30 miles away and couldn't afford to buy a new one. As it happens, I've been trying to sell my second car for ages (a cheap banger, but runs amazingly well) so to help her out I told her she could have it for nothing - she graciously accepted.

A week later, and I've just got a text from her asking for the tenner back that she lent me in the supermarket when I didn't have enough to pay for my shopping. I'd totally forgotten about it.

AIBU to be annoyed that she would ask, when I've given her a free car?

[SoleBizzz]

Yanbu what a nerve!!

[PinkyofPie]

YANBU you think she'd let it go! Have you replied?

[chickenowner]

What!!???!!!

You should say you'll take the £10 off what she owes you for the car.

[LaurieFairyCake]

Well I'd cut her some slack as she's clearly very skint

The tenner and the car are separate to her. Just because you give her a car doesn't mean she can afford to have given you the tenner.

Lovely thing you did though

[HeirOfNothingInParticular]

In those circumstances I would always try and repay asap, but understand that sometimes people forget and might need a gentle reminder. However, in this case i would say YANBU

[MrsNightOwl]

No, haven't replied yet

[isupposeitsverynice]

i dunno, actually,if she's so skint you gave her a car for nothing, i think it's not unreasonable for her to think you'll pay back money you borrowed.

[QuiteLikely5]

I can't believe the nerve of some folk however if you value your friendship you will have to repay it

Otoh

You could say ' sorry I had thought that since I gave you the car we would be writing the £10 off but I will give it to you xxxx

[FoxesOnSocks]

I understand you're irritated but they are separate things. A car, be it very generously gifted, will not pay for groceries or pay bills.

She has seen you through dark times so is evidently a good friend; your show of friendship could be understand her financial hardship has led her to this.

[Crispbutty]

If she's absolutely broke then that tenner might be the difference between eating this week and not.

[Vixxfacee]

Very rude.

[Oliviaerinpope]

YANBU.

[Queenofthebrae]

Personally I don't think you are being unreasonable. If she can afford to run the car then you'd think she could write off £10 as a thank you gesture to you.

[CurlyMango]

Hate people like that. It may be tough but you have been wonderful. Down right cheeky of her.

[OutsiderInTheGarden]

YANBU at all, but I would be worried that my friend was in a very desperate situation to ask such a thing. Given that you obviously have a very good friendship which you value, is it worth trying to find out whether this is the case? It's a very small sum of money and she must know she risked offending you by asking for it back after you gave her a car, so just how desperate must she be?

[SaucyJack]

Depends how skint she is I guess.

[PattiLevin]

Maybe she should have said something like 'look, I know you've been generous already and I'm grateful, but I'm really skint blah blah....'
But you've said she's been a good friend, YABU, cut her some slack.

[NeedACleverNN]

I would be tempted to ask for the car back...BUT!!!

MrsDeVere is right. It's obvious she is desperately skint. That £10 you owe her could be the difference between eating and not eating this week

[Floggingmolly]

So what if she's skint? . She'd be a damned sight skinter if she'd had to shell out for a new car??

[Only1scoop]

Blimey....the brass neck

[Ginslinger]

I'm another who thinks she must be flat broke

[gobbynorthernbird]

Why didn't your car sell? If it wasn't selling, then it isn't worth anything (in as much as it is only worth what someone will pay for it).
I think the gift of the car and the loan are separate issues, so your friend is not being unreasonable.