AIBU to be upset at DM's reaction to new DD's name

(253 Posts)
Ladyonashortfuse Mon 20-Jun-16 17:14:49

We had great trouble picking a name for our new DD - she was actually nameless for a week while we trawled through 4000-odd names on the Internet, books etc. I mentioned some of the shortlisted ones to DM the other day: her favourite was one DH didn't really like and she said something quite rude about the one we have now chosen, which I sort of ignored at the time. When I told her (on the phone) the name we had eventually chosen there was a silence, then she said, 'You're joking?' And then, 'Oh, well, I'm pleased she's got a name at last anyway.' She is now persisting in calling her Baby so as to avoid saying it. Am feeling oddly hurt. It is a relatively unusual name in England, but it's quite pretty (I think) and not like we called her Moon Unit or anything. Should I have taken her preferences into account?

Vixxfacee Mon 20-Jun-16 17:16:23

No. She had her chance to name her baby. She has no say.

LittleCroxley Mon 20-Jun-16 17:17:04

It is difficult to say without knowing the name.

LurkingQuietly Mon 20-Jun-16 17:17:20

Do you and your DH like the name?

Is it something completely ridiculous that will likely cause your DD embarrassment throughout her life?

If you answered yes to the first and no to the second then in the nicest possible way, anyone else can fuck the fuck off. smile

Congratulations. Enjoy your new DD.

WhatALoadOfWankers Mon 20-Jun-16 17:18:08

She's being rude

ElsaAintAsColdAsMe Mon 20-Jun-16 17:18:11

No you shouldn't.

She named her babies, now it's your turn to name yours, she doesn't get a say.

Congratulations flowers she will come around soon, don't stress about it.

or tell her you've taken her advice and changed baby's name to periwinkle-methlab

FeliciaJollygoodfellow Mon 20-Jun-16 17:18:21

Couldn't possibly comment until I know the name. wink

YANBU she had her chance and should have been able to be more tactful. She was on the phone for crying out loud!

KittensandKnitting Mon 20-Jun-16 17:18:26

You like it, DH likes it - should be the end of it, because your her parents smile

ProcrastinatorGeneral Mon 20-Jun-16 17:20:30

LittleCroxley no, it really doesn't matter what the name is. It's been chosen, grandma just needs to suck it up and smile.

FrancisdeSales Mon 20-Jun-16 17:20:49

Don't let your mother emotionally manipulate you. She will get used to the name. Ignore her reaction.

Queenbean Mon 20-Jun-16 17:21:11

It obviously depends

I mean, if you called her Cocoa Butter or something then yes. If it's Amanda or something a bit naff but essentially a normal name it's none of her business

dowhatnow Mon 20-Jun-16 17:22:47

You can't stop her having an opinion on it but she should be polite and respect that it is your choice. It sounds as if she's not said anything apart from the first shocked comment. Hopefully she'll get used to it. She's not going to be still calling her Baby in a few years time.

Chill. You can't expect very one to like unusual choices.

Toocold Mon 20-Jun-16 17:22:48

It's none of her business either way! Your baby not hers. Congratulations

MouldyPeach Mon 20-Jun-16 17:22:51

You have to tell us the name!
is it slithery?

nonline Mon 20-Jun-16 17:23:35

She will probably get used to it, unless it is something just too weird - you will probably get a lot of posters reserving judgement until they know what it is ;-)

Even if DM doesn't like it she should respect your choice.

Scarydinosaurs Mon 20-Jun-16 17:24:55

What a nob. I hope she gets over herself soon.

BendydickCuminsnatch Mon 20-Jun-16 17:26:17

I'd be upset too OP. I bet it's lovely anyway.

tell us the name

Osolea Mon 20-Jun-16 17:26:25

I don't think you should have taken her preference in to account, the decision was a matter for you and dh and no one else.

Your mum isn't doing anything wrong by disliking the name, but she will get used to it and will probably forget all about the fact that she originally didn't like it. I really didn't like the name a close friend chose for her baby, but I love it now because I love the child and it's part of him. I only remember that I didn't like it when things like this thread remind me.

Maybebabybee Mon 20-Jun-16 17:26:32

Must know the name!!

meercat23 Mon 20-Jun-16 17:26:45

GM here. If it helps when I first heard the names of two of my GC I wasn't too sure about them. I love both names now and couldn't imagine my beautiful GC being called anything else. I wouldn't have voiced my doubts to anyone though but perhaps your DM just had a tactless moment.

OutsiderInTheGarden Mon 20-Jun-16 17:27:03

Sorry, but it doesn't depend. It doesn't matter even if you did call her Moon Unit (I'm a Zappa fan anyway smile) or Cocoa Butter. As someone else said, she had the chance to name her own child, and this is your child. Welcome to the world, Moon Unit! flowers

TheseLittleEarthquakes Mon 20-Jun-16 17:27:24

Oh PLEASE tell me you've called her Slithery Anne.

AuntieStella Mon 20-Jun-16 17:27:35

There was absolutely no need to take her preferences into account.

Whether her initial reaction was understandable depends on what the name is. She has attempted to row back from her initial rudeness. In the interests of family harmony, I suggest you let it all drop. She'll get used to the name and, although it seems like a big thing right now, it's a molehill not a mountain and will be forgotten.

sonlypuppyfat Mon 20-Jun-16 17:28:19

Please tell us or we will think she is right!!

HisNameWasPrinceAndHeWasFunky Mon 20-Jun-16 17:28:49

did you call her Taystee?

(none of your Mums's business really - she got to name her own kids)

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