My closest friend has just (Friday night) had her first baby. She Whatsapped me at 3am to say "Hi, we've been blessed with a gorgeous baby [sex], weighing in at [weight]"
She was online when I saw the messages and responded in the morning - sent her a load of love-hearts, a big congrats and asked if she, baby and labour were all OK. Told her baby was lucky to have her as a mummy. She saw the messages and went offline.
Over the course of the day, she was on and offline every 10 minutes or so. I messaged her again later, just once about 12 hours later, to say I hoped everything was going OK, and that I was thinking of her. Again, she saw the message and went offline - she was online again about 10 minutes later and throughout the evening.
In the morning, I get a text saying, "Hi, sorry, mega busy yday and unsettled overnight, otherwise OK. Birth went a bit crazy, still managed decent delivery."
I replied to say as long as they were both OK etc. and to take it as easy as possible and let her family look after her. Again, seen, no reply.
AIBU to feel really hurt? She's not sent me a picture of the baby, or told me its name, but her sister has uploaded a photo to Instagram, so apparently I'm second to social media.
When I had my baby 18mo ago, friend was one of the first to know - at her request, she got a message as soon as baby was here, a pic and another text once we'd settled on a name. She was going to be my birth partner but ended up having to be away.
I've been busier in the last 18mo than I would've been previously, but I still thought we were close. I went over to see her a couple of times recently, and things were all good - took flowers, chocs, did her hair and eyebrows etc. and was looking forward to seeing her again soon.
Half of me is really upset and wondering if I'm actually not as good a friend as I'd thought, and half of me thinks I should stop being selfish and ridiculous bc she's literally just had a baby two days ago.
Smack some sense into me, please, but don't smack too hard - already smarting a bit!
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Bigoldsupermoon0 · 19/06/2016 18:54
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