To think friends should have paid?

(40 Posts)
00100001 Sun 19-Jun-16 16:43:34

We were at a Harvestet restaurant last night with friends

There were 4 of us. They only charged for 3 meals. DH went over and told the server and we paid for the missing meal. All meals and drinks were very simlilar in price and came to about £15 pp.

So, anyway, there was a mix of feelings in the group. We thought it the right thing to do and said that we had paid for the 4th meal and maybe the friends should pit in their share. They said no, because as far as they were concerned they considered it a "win" and we were stupid for pointing out the error.

What does MN think? Should we have kept quiet? (In my mind, stealing) or did we do the right thing?

Shenanagins Sun 19-Jun-16 16:45:08

Your friends are twats and should've paid.

janethegirl2 Sun 19-Jun-16 16:45:26

I'd have pointed out their error. YANBU

Floggingmolly Sun 19-Jun-16 16:46:46

They sound bloody awful. Considered it a win... hmm.

NarkyKnockers Sun 19-Jun-16 16:46:47

I wouldn't have said anything but if someone else paid it I would put my share in.

MargaretCabbage Sun 19-Jun-16 16:48:34

I always thought I'd keep quiet (on account of being quite poor) but I was recently undercharged for a meal and instantly pointed it out before I could think. It is the right thing to do, and I think most people would. Your friends ABU.

Euphemia Sun 19-Jun-16 16:48:44

Your "friends" are thieving arseholes.

TondelayaDellaVentamiglia Sun 19-Jun-16 16:50:02

we've pointed out missing drinks on the bill before now. Esp if waiting staff are nice.

however if they are not nice then too bad! No tip either.

You did absolutely the right thing, and your friends should have paid.

It might be worth pointing out to them that, whilst they might consider it a 'win', it would have been an outright loss for the waiter/waitress, who would very probably have had to cover that loss themselves.

I wouldn't want friends who thought it was a win to take money out of the pocket of very poorly paid waiting staff.

ThenLaterWhenItGotDark Sun 19-Jun-16 16:51:31

Dump the scroungers.

Kidnapped Sun 19-Jun-16 16:52:56

So your DH is out of pocket because your friends wouldn't pay their own share? How do they work out that it is one of them who got the 'free' meal rather then you or DH?

No way would I be out with them again. Honestly - these are not nice people. Who screws over a mate like that?

Talk about no good deed going unpunished.

Lweji Sun 19-Jun-16 16:56:26

Ditch the "friends".

Not only they would be happy to not pay what they consumed (and I bet they'd go nuts if the restaurant charged more than they should) but they consider you stupid for paying what is fair and refused to pay their share.

They are not people I'd trust.

Goingtobeawesome Sun 19-Jun-16 16:56:33

Friends definitely should have paid. Lovely and correct your DH did. He is a decent person. Your friends are twats and thieves.

Eeeek686 Sun 19-Jun-16 16:56:42

Yanbu, cannot Stand people like this - complete Dicks and thieving arseholes. I'm sure they would justify it by saying waitresses fault and might make her more careful in future, they're a bit business and serve them right for overcharging generally, etc (can you tell I've come across these types before) but everyone makes mistakes.... hmm

Would definitely make me rethink friendship!

BitterAndOnlySlightlyTwisted Sun 19-Jun-16 17:02:06

"I wouldn't want friends who thought it was a win to take money out of the pocket of very poorly paid waiting staff."

Nor would I. But even worse, they thought it was OK to take money out your husband's pocket as well.

Shameless scroungers, and thieves to boot. Ditch them!

00100001 Sun 19-Jun-16 17:04:01

I could understand if we had got home and only realised. I'm not sure whaty I would do in that case.

It seemed a bit shit of them not to pay us back. As they would have only needed to give us £7.50.

It does make me wonder about them now.

rookiemere Sun 19-Jun-16 17:06:16

We always point out errors in the bill, whether it be over or under charging.

It's amazing how grateful wait staff are when we do this. In Venice the man practically became DH's best pal, and insisted we came back after our operetta thing to have free drinks and desserts. This leads me to think that not everyone is as honest.

Your "friends" sound like a**holes and I'd be unkeen to go out for dinner with them again.

Eminado Sun 19-Jun-16 17:07:06

😱
Shameless behaviour.
I would not socialise with them again.

Kidnapped Sun 19-Jun-16 17:08:04

Actually OP.

This is the kind of entitled twattery that the Daily Mail keeps picking up from here and putting on its own grubby little website.

Have a think about whether you have put identifying information on other threads on Mumsnet. Don't want them outing you.

NicknameUsed Sun 19-Jun-16 17:08:39

"I wouldn't want friends who thought it was a win to take money out of the pocket of very poorly paid waiting staff."

I agree. I would think less of anyone who thought that. I would also like to think that none of my friends would behave like yours.

Grilledaubergines Sun 19-Jun-16 17:09:14

I would have paid too. Your friends are shits. And tight as a duck's arse.

Kungfupandaworksout16 Sun 19-Jun-16 17:11:00

Couldn't you have worked out which meal it was that wasn't paid for originally? And whoever ate that meal owes the money. No point falling out with 2 friends when only one technically owes you the money

BreakfastLunchPasta Sun 19-Jun-16 17:12:36

Your friends are dishonest shits. I wouldn't see them again.

listsandbudgets Sun 19-Jun-16 17:15:19

YANBU they should have paid their fair share.

If the resturant had said "thanks for letting us know but don't worry we'll let you off that meal" that would have been a win. Dishonestly and knowingly turning a blind eye and letting the serving staff take the consequences would ahve been a loss.

You did the right thing

AugustaFinkNottle Sun 19-Jun-16 17:22:38

Even if they think it's OK to steal from the restaurant, I don't understand why they think it's all right to steal from your DH.

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