to not cook fathers day dinner tomorrow?

[toomanyeasterbunnies]

I am really annoyed but not sure if IABU. Today DH went out fishing. Not a problem. He took DS and said he would be back after lunch. Lunchtime arrives and he calls asking me to collect DS as he is bored. So I pick up DS but rather than my DH only being a couple of more hours he doesn't turn up until 7.30pm. No phone calls or texts.

Saturdays are a pain as we have two other DD's who have various clubs so it means a day of being a taxi. I am annoyed because he just left me to it after he was away for the whole of last weekend. He has invited his dad for lunch tomorrow but I know it will be just me running around after everyone whilst he sits back and lets me get on with it.

AIBU to go to visit my own dad tomorrow and let my DH deal with lunch and DC's? It feels a bit petty but I feel like I am being taken for granted.

If it makes any difference. I am SAHM but do work for our company. My DH works very hard during the week so can understand he needs a break and the weekend.

[Nousernameforme]

yanbu go and visit your dad for lunch dh can sort his own dads special dinner

[arethereanyleftatall]

Yanbu.
Do it. But not in a grumpy way, just a bright and breezy way. Make sure you go before prep starts and come back after clean up.

[CodyKing]

Yep! Another vote here! Phone your dad and invite him out - or offer to take a nice cake and sarnies!

Leave DH too it- just because youre a SAHM doesn't mean you don't need a day off. Let him cope

[honeylulu]

He had his father's day today. Fair enough to go and treat your own dad. Do it in a cheerful matter of fact way. Enjoy your day.

[toomanyeasterbunnies]

that's the problem arethereanyleftatall - at the moment I am in a bit of a grump. He is the one all bright and breezy!

[Lovewineandchocs]

YANBU-I agree with honeylulu, he's had his Father's Day today. Let him sort tomorrow, be bright and breezy so you don't look like you're in a strop, and go and have a nice day with your Dad

[gamerchick]

Do it. Pop off in the morning and tell him he's holding the fort and to keep an eye on the veg lest it goes soggy.

[arethereanyleftatall]

Not surprised he is, he's had a whole day off.
Being casual and friendly about it is the best approach, he has no come back, after all why shouldn't he cook the dinner and do the clean up?

[PunkrockerGirl]

YANBU. He invited his dad, so it's up to him to sort it. Not your problem at all. In the meantime why on earth shouldn't you go and spend time with your own dad?
Don't back down, he's done his own thing today, tomorrow he needs to respect your wishes and stop being a selfish arse.

[CodyKing]

Please 'forget' your phone

[BeYourselfUnlessUCanBeAUnicorn]

YANBU. Sounds like a great idea. Enjoy seeing your dad, your DH will clearly want to spend the day with his children and cooking for his dad won't he.

[dataandspot]

He will just take him out surely?!

[LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726]

Agree with toomanyeasterbunnies, go and have the day with your own dad tomorrow and let him manage Father's Day for himself, his dad - and look after the DCs. He's 'bright and breezy' because he's had a lovely day off leaving you to do all the work. He won't be bright and breezy tomorrow!

Enjoy the day with your dad. :)

[whattodowiththepoo]

As long as you tell him and don't expect too much for Mother's Day YADNBU.

[MrsJayy]

Go out with your dad bugger him Dh fishes and it can be a pita when you have young Dc

[cupofrooibos]

Much as I adore my FIL, it's up to my DP to treat him on Father's Day - I'll be spending time with my stepdad.

Suggest you do the same, leaving your DH to it!

[Zarah123]

YANBU. It's Father's Day, not Father-in-law's day. It's for DH to sort.