to not cook fathers day dinner tomorrow?

(19 Posts)
toomanyeasterbunnies Sat 18-Jun-16 20:45:02

I am really annoyed but not sure if IABU. Today DH went out fishing. Not a problem. He took DS and said he would be back after lunch. Lunchtime arrives and he calls asking me to collect DS as he is bored. So I pick up DS but rather than my DH only being a couple of more hours he doesn't turn up until 7.30pm. No phone calls or texts.

Saturdays are a pain as we have two other DD's who have various clubs so it means a day of being a taxi. I am annoyed because he just left me to it after he was away for the whole of last weekend. He has invited his dad for lunch tomorrow but I know it will be just me running around after everyone whilst he sits back and lets me get on with it.

AIBU to go to visit my own dad tomorrow and let my DH deal with lunch and DC's? It feels a bit petty but I feel like I am being taken for granted.

If it makes any difference. I am SAHM but do work for our company. My DH works very hard during the week so can understand he needs a break and the weekend.

Nousernameforme Sat 18-Jun-16 20:47:58

yanbu go and visit your dad for lunch dh can sort his own dads special dinner

arethereanyleftatall Sat 18-Jun-16 20:49:29

Yanbu.
Do it. But not in a grumpy way, just a bright and breezy way. Make sure you go before prep starts and come back after clean up.

CodyKing Sat 18-Jun-16 20:51:00

Yep! Another vote here! Phone your dad and invite him out - or offer to take a nice cake and sarnies!

Leave DH too it- just because youre a SAHM doesn't mean you don't need a day off. Let him cope

honeylulu Sat 18-Jun-16 20:52:43

He had his father's day today. Fair enough to go and treat your own dad. Do it in a cheerful matter of fact way. Enjoy your day.

toomanyeasterbunnies Sat 18-Jun-16 20:53:17

that's the problem arethereanyleftatall - at the moment I am in a bit of a grump. He is the one all bright and breezy!

Lovewineandchocs Sat 18-Jun-16 20:55:32

YANBU-I agree with honeylulu, he's had his Father's Day today. Let him sort tomorrow, be bright and breezy so you don't look like you're in a strop, and go and have a nice day with your Dad smile

gamerchick Sat 18-Jun-16 20:55:42

Do it. Pop off in the morning and tell him he's holding the fort and to keep an eye on the veg lest it goes soggy.

arethereanyleftatall Sat 18-Jun-16 20:57:09

Not surprised he is, he's had a whole day off.
Being casual and friendly about it is the best approach, he has no come back, after all why shouldn't he cook the dinner and do the clean up?

PunkrockerGirl Sat 18-Jun-16 21:00:48

YANBU. He invited his dad, so it's up to him to sort it. Not your problem at all. In the meantime why on earth shouldn't you go and spend time with your own dad?
Don't back down, he's done his own thing today, tomorrow he needs to respect your wishes and stop being a selfish arse.

CodyKing Sat 18-Jun-16 21:02:16

Please 'forget' your phone halo

NavyAndWhite Sat 18-Jun-16 21:09:41

You go to your dads and let DH sort lunch for his dad.

Do it, don't feel guilty tomorrow. Your DH didn't worry about today did he?

BeYourselfUnlessUCanBeAUnicorn Sat 18-Jun-16 21:15:33

YANBU. Sounds like a great idea. Enjoy seeing your dad, your DH will clearly want to spend the day with his children and cooking for his dad won't he.

dataandspot Sat 18-Jun-16 21:30:56

He will just take him out surely?!

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe Sat 18-Jun-16 21:33:14

Agree with toomanyeasterbunnies, go and have the day with your own dad tomorrow and let him manage Father's Day for himself, his dad - and look after the DCs. He's 'bright and breezy' because he's had a lovely day off leaving you to do all the work. He won't be bright and breezy tomorrow!

Enjoy the day with your dad. smile

whattodowiththepoo Sat 18-Jun-16 21:33:59

As long as you tell him and don't expect too much for Mother's Day YADNBU.

MrsJayy Sat 18-Jun-16 21:36:22

Go out with your dad bugger him Dh fishes and it can be a pita when you have young Dc

cupofrooibos Sat 18-Jun-16 21:51:41

Much as I adore my FIL, it's up to my DP to treat him on Father's Day - I'll be spending time with my stepdad.

Suggest you do the same, leaving your DH to it!

Zarah123 Sat 18-Jun-16 22:05:26

YANBU. It's Father's Day, not Father-in-law's day. It's for DH to sort.

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