First time posting so please be gentle. DH was diagnosed with a serious illness six weeks ago. This could be potentially fatal but this is unlikely. In the short term whilst he has treatment it has completely disrupted our family life (2 DC under 6). Recently I have had to care for him and DC. I also have two jobs. I have been upset by FIL and his partners lack of support. MIL died 15 years ago.
Firstly when we told FIL of diagnosis he said all the right things but then we did not hear from him for two weeks. Not even a text to ask how DH is doing.
FIL suggested talking DH out for dinner. I asked if he could come over a few hours before dinner to look after DC whilst I caught up on work. Was told by FIL partner it was about them meeting up not about childcare.
I also asked FIL to spend the weekend at our house in September as I had a important event at the other side of the country which I had paid out for before DH diagnosis. I really needed the break and something good to look forward to. DH will need help with DC due to his illness. FIL just said no because he was planning to visit his daughter that weekend. No discussion about rearranging.
I did sit down with FIL two weeks ago and asked for more help as I was exhausted. Since then no change. I then fell over this week (doing too many things at once) and sprained my wrist. I did get a text of 'hope you feel better' from FIL but no offer to help out with caring for DH or DC.
I feel really angry at FIL lack of support. DH has actually been in tears about this and I am just angry. When DH spoke to FIL again about this he said that we cannot expect them to give up their lives for us. I just wanted perhaps a few hours of their time every couple of weeks whilst DH is having treatment.
Am I just in an over emotional state due to a rough couple of months or are they being unreasonable? We are all meant to be going on holiday in a few months and I just don't feel I can play happy families. I am worried I might lose my temper with them.
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Blueskyday80 · 18/06/2016 18:30
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