DCs are 8, 5, 2. They do a dazzling array of activities. It is constant. Eldest is at prep and has tonnes of homework, most of which I can't see the point of. My youngest is spending her toddlerhood in the car - by the time we've fitted in school runs for 2 separate schools, plus naps and meals, there is so little time left. I feel like we never do anything "nice", as in just hanging out together, going to the park, baking or reading or playing board games. This is not what I imagined at all. The children (my eldest in particular) no longer seem like bonded siblings; often they have only a few minutes of family time together in a day.
I want it to stop. I want to quit all of the after school activities other than swimming and one musical instrument (which DC1 genuinely loves and seems to have a talent for). I want to pull DC1 out of his prep (which I am underwhelmed by anyway, although where he is fairly happy) and send him to the outstanding state primary he used to go to, and where his little sister is (I have spoken to them - they have space). There would be less homework, a later start in the morning, an earlier finish, no Saturday school. The same sports day, holidays, shows, parents evenings. We could walk to school together (it's ten mins from the house). We could go to the park every (dry) day on the way home. I hope he'd feel "mine" again.
I wouldn't be unreasonable, would I? This isn't just what it is like when your children get a little older? Everyone we know seems to have a similarly hectic schedule of activities, but my childhood was a glorious 1980s chasm of free time, a little boredom, lots of playing at home with siblings in a really unfocused way. We were happy. So happy. I feel as if we've somehow joined a small person rat race and it's madness. DH struggles to see past the "get them into a good school" mentality that prevails among our friends, and the pressure to teach small children to play golf, rugby, tennis (surely if they are generally active they'll pick these things up fine a teens if they have an interest?).
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TheSandyAtom · 17/06/2016 19:22
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