To be fed up with racist in-laws

(8 Posts)
NicLovesCheese Thu 16-Jun-16 16:02:04

Anyone else have these? They're quite nice people mostly, apart from the racism! Luckily it doesn't come up too often, but I've nearly chewed my tongue off for biting it! My husband tries to explain to them but they won't change. I hate to think of any rubbing off on my 5yo 😞
I don't like seeing them very often because it riles me, but obviously dh and 5yo love them 😞

mouldycheesefan Thu 16-Jun-16 16:05:08

I would challenge them there is no way I would bite my tongue. And there is no way my child would be spending time with people that made racist remarks.

Junosmum Thu 16-Jun-16 16:26:53

My grandparents can be very racist. I challenge it and it hasn't rubbed off on me. But YANBU. Racism should never be excused.

LadyAntonella Thu 16-Jun-16 16:31:49

My granny is never racist but she has been a bit hmm about my friend who is gay; says "what a shame" every time we talk about him! I do challenge her on it as she is a very intelligent and (otherwise) liberal lady who I think can take being challenged on this kind of thing. Also I challenge her when she makes comments about people's weight. I don't think age is an excuse for rude / homophobic / racist behaviour really. Different if someone has dementia or something which might effect their personalities, but I'm guessing this isn't the case with your ILs.

JolieColombe Thu 16-Jun-16 16:53:22

Maybe point out to your DH that if your DD repeats any of that sort of thing at school she'll be in trouble. If he says that to the PILs would they stop in front of her at least out of love for her (not great, but better than nothing)?

nightandthelight Thu 16-Jun-16 17:08:16

ILs are xenophobic rather than racist per se and very anti Muslim. We always challenge them on it and they know if they say these things in front of DS they won't be seeing DS anymore. Don't tolerate it!

NavyAndWhite Thu 16-Jun-16 17:23:01

I don't bite my tongue where FIL is concerned.

He can be very racist and misogynistic under the veil of not really meaning it shock both DH and myself will not have it and tell him he's wrong even if it means a heated debated.

TheNaze73 Thu 16-Jun-16 17:48:31

I wonder what way, they'll be voting in the referendum....

I agree with Jolie Good point, well made

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