Who ibu

(52 Posts)
Highlandfling80 Thu 16-Jun-16 09:07:44

I am going to a bit vague as I don't want to out myself.
We are a group of 6 friends from uni. We have remained close although more effort is now required to meet up as we live around the country.
We have all been invited to a social occasions which is in a city close to where say friend a lives. It is in a city some 15 miles away from friend a's house.
Friend b has booked accommodation in the city.
Friend c had done the same and planned to bring her sister with her. (Friend c doesn't drive)
Me and friend d drive but don't live driving in unfamiliar cities. So seeing that a and b were sorted asked friend a if they could take us. Friend a was driving anyway and we can have a car full with partners.
Now friend b's sister has backed out so wanted to stay at friend a's house. Friend a had to say no as she would have no room in the car .
Friend b is really upset as she has now had to cancel trip because she doesn't want to stay in the booked accommodation on her own.
She thinks me and friend d are bu as we have cars and she doesn't.
So my jury should one of us bite the bullet and drive or pay for a taxi to keep the peace and enable friend b to attend.
We have all paid for hotels too as too far to do in a day
My jury what do you think please.

Highlandfling80 Thu 16-Jun-16 09:09:29

Friend f is also sorted and doesn't drive

Highlandfling80 Thu 16-Jun-16 21:56:29

Anyone have any thoughts please?

Arfarfanarf Thu 16-Jun-16 22:02:31

Why cant she stay in a hotel room alone?
I think she should be a grown up. Why cant she get a taxi? Stay in a hotel?
If it was genuine need id say yes you should change things round to help her but unless there is information missing, she sounds silly.

RhiWrites Thu 16-Jun-16 22:04:02

Did you get mixed up or am I? I thought friend c was the one with the sister? Aren't b and c now both in the booked accommodation with no sister?

Arkwright Thu 16-Jun-16 22:06:24

I have read your post a few times and don't get who is who. I don't understand the not wanting to drive in unfamiliar cities either. Surely you can drive or not.

KissMyArse Thu 16-Jun-16 22:06:57

Friends a, b, c, d, e and f? I'm just generally confused trying to keep track of the alphabet so not sure who's being U confused

<waits for drip feed about friends g, h, i and j>

Kariana Thu 16-Jun-16 22:08:33

I think you've mixed this up possibly? You say b and c booked accommodation, friend c was bringing her sister. Then you say b's sister backed out (I assume you mean c) and that b is upset because she doesn't want to stay in accommodation on her own but since b and c were in the accommodation I don't see why anyone is there on their own even without the sister (whoever's sister it actually is!)

Are you and d staying over anywhere?

Queenbean Thu 16-Jun-16 22:10:37

I don't understand the story but:

Me and friend don't like driving in unfamiliar cities

You need to get over that

Highlandfling80 Thu 16-Jun-16 22:11:41

Friend b is staying in one hotel in city with her dh.
Friend c booked a cheaper b and b but refuses to stay on her own as it is still too expensive for one. The city is a pricey one.
Tbf I think her finances are tighter than ours but it strikes me that she seems to expect free accommodation and transport.

DoreenLethal Thu 16-Jun-16 22:11:53

There is vague and then there is this thread.

memyselfandaye Thu 16-Jun-16 22:12:25

Two grown ups afraid to drive anywhere unfamiliar is ridiculous.

DoreenLethal Thu 16-Jun-16 22:13:06

it strikes me that she seems to expect free accommodation and transport.

Isnt that what you are getting though?

Arkwright Thu 16-Jun-16 22:14:01

The same as you are by going with A.

SavoyCabbage Thu 16-Jun-16 22:15:04

So you and the other one who have cars but don't like driving in other cities are staying with the first one and going in her car?

And your partners are as well?

It's proper confusing.

NeckguardUnbespoke Thu 16-Jun-16 22:15:53

Me and friend d drive but don't like driving in unfamiliar cities.

Grow up. Either you can drive or you can't.

Highlandfling80 Thu 16-Jun-16 22:17:39

queen I am driving down same day (150 miles) after looking after Dd for half a day. So yes I want to avoid struggling to park in an unfamiliar city. Would also like to have a drink or two. Friend a dh is driving so she can drink too.

Queenbean Thu 16-Jun-16 22:21:06

Why don't you reserve hotel parking and then just put it in your sat nav and have a drink when you get in to the hotel

Y'know, like a normal person

Highlandfling80 Thu 16-Jun-16 22:22:52

I am paying for a hotel. Just thought it would be nice to stay nearer friend a so can meet up next morning before driving home. But accept I am getting lift but will of course pay for parking.

rollonthesummer Thu 16-Jun-16 22:26:04

I think this is the most confusing post I have ever read on here!!

Why can't people give names?! It makes it much easier to follow.

How many people will be in this one person's car??

Highlandfling80 Thu 16-Jun-16 22:26:52

Won't get back to hotel till quite late as event goes on till midnight. Maybe I should have booked a closer hotel to the event. Lesson learnt.

Highlandfling80 Thu 16-Jun-16 22:30:35

5 in car including 2 partners
Sorry for confusion.

Ifonlylovewouldsavetheday Thu 16-Jun-16 22:32:44

As others have said your op is a bit confusing, but summing up does it mean everyone apart from her (with a limited income) will be arriving alongside a 'plus one' ?
If this is the case it's kind of understandable that she would feel a bit of a 'spare' compared to the other arrangements and want to be closer to the hub.

UnexpectedItemInShaggingArea Thu 16-Jun-16 22:33:05

Seriously, as life challenges go, finding parking in an unfamiliar UK city ranks pretty low.

Highlandfling80 Thu 16-Jun-16 22:34:36

I an not bringing a partner. Friend d's partner doesn't drive

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