Aibu 9 year olds bed time

(42 Posts)
Pocketrocket31 Sun 12-Jun-16 22:11:48

I send my 9 year old to his room between 7 and half past, he then gets 1 hour to watch to, read, chill etc.

Tonight he's had a absolute fit, more than the usual "I'm not tired yet" says all his friends get to stay up till 10, on a school night! He hates me and all that 😁
The fact there is kids still playing in the street doesn't help the situation.

Aibu... Is that too early? What time do your kids go to bed?

Chippednailvarnishing Sun 12-Jun-16 22:12:27

I do the same as you!

EatShitDerek Sun 12-Jun-16 22:13:25

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nonladyofleisure Sun 12-Jun-16 22:13:35

My 13 year old goes to bed between 9.30and 10! X stick to your guns X

SirChenjin Sun 12-Jun-16 22:15:02

That's quite early imo - my 9 year old is in bed around 8.45/9 after shower/supper/story and then reads for 10 minutes or so. How do you manage with activities eg Cub, sports?

Worth considering a later bedtime with less chill/reading time?

blondieblondie Sun 12-Jun-16 22:15:16

11 year old goes at 9.15, earlier if he wants to read.

dementedpixie Sun 12-Jun-16 22:16:36

Ds (9) is in bed at 9pm on school nights and can read for 30 minutes. Dd (12) goes at 9.30pm and can also read for 30 minutes

FeckinCrutches Sun 12-Jun-16 22:17:21

7 is really early. When is supper/bath time?

mlamle Sun 12-Jun-16 22:17:33

It is maybe a bit early. What time's he get up in the morning? At his age he should be having around 10 hours' sleep a night, so if you work back from that and add on half an hour or so to chill, that should be about right.

SummerSazz Sun 12-Jun-16 22:19:19

9 y/o goes to room at 7.15 and reads till 8. However she needs LOADS of sleep and has to get up at 6.45 am.

LocatingLocatingLocating Sun 12-Jun-16 22:19:20

I have an almost 10yo. She goes up to bed at the same time as her 7yo brother (7.30-8pm), but is allowed to stay up for up to an hour (depending how tired she seems!) to play/read in her room. Apparently some kids in her class stay up til 10 though (confirmed by chatting to parents).

Pocketrocket31 Sun 12-Jun-16 22:21:27

Tea is pretty early, normally around 5, he likes a bath mostly in the mornings, we're up at 6 on school days.

Only into 2 clubs at the mo, and they're straight after school

I can't help but think going to sleep between 8-8.30 for a 9 year old it fine... Maybe not

LocatingLocatingLocating Sun 12-Jun-16 22:21:50

My DD needs lots of sleep though, and struggles to get up by 7, which is when she needs to get up for.

nennyrainbow Sun 12-Jun-16 22:23:05

That does seem a little early but not unusually so. What time is he up in the morning! My DD ( nearly 9) has quiet time / reading from 8.30, lights out at 9 pm. But I think we are later than a lot of people.

nennyrainbow Sun 12-Jun-16 22:23:47

That should have been a question mark, not an exclamation.

Hiddenaspie1973 Sun 12-Jun-16 22:23:48

Officially 7:30 but she strings it out until 8 or 8:15.
I've told her that what her mates do is not my concern and that families do what works for them. 10:00 on a weeknight for 9 y.o doesn't work for me.

pollylovespie Sun 12-Jun-16 22:25:30

My kids are 8 and 10 and they go to bed at 9ish and sometimes read for half an hour,sometimes not. I think that's pretty normal among their friends.

Jogonmate Sun 12-Jun-16 22:25:57

Well what time does he need to be up for? My DD 9 goes at 9 and is up for 7.30am plenty of rest for her.
It does probably feel very unfair to him if he can still hear the other children outside,I was sent to bed at 7pm when I was a child and it did make me very angry as I too could hear and see the other children out ,it especially hurt during the summer months.

Maybe increase it a bit and see how tried he is in the mornings.

FeckinCrutches Sun 12-Jun-16 22:26:04

I suppose it depends how much sleep etc he needs. 6am is early to be up and about for school so maybe he does need to be earlier. My three are night owls, as was I when I was younger, but they don't need to be up till 8am

TooLazyToWriteMyOwnFuckinPiece Sun 12-Jun-16 22:27:00

I think the sleep time is fine but why go an hour before then - could he. To watch TV with you at 7, instead of in his room?

FeckinCrutches Sun 12-Jun-16 22:27:10

Is he awake at 6, or woken at 6?

SirChenjin Sun 12-Jun-16 22:27:16

I think you take the lead from them really - you can't make him sleep if he's not tired, and it can be quite nice for them to feel a bit more grown up with a later bedtime. Perhaps a bath at night, and a later bedtime with less free time afterwards? Although of you have to get up at 6 for the school run 8.30 is reasonable.

vikingorigins Sun 12-Jun-16 22:27:19

My 9 yo has been heavily resisting her 8pm bedtime this week, and I remembered that when I was 9 my bedtime was moved to 9pm.

7pm seems very early.

IslaSinga Sun 12-Jun-16 22:27:59

My 12 year old is a night owl and I struggle to get her to go to sleep before 10.30, although she does go up before that.

9 year old has recently started going up at 8.20ish. He has always been an early to bed boy, but I think 8.30 is reasonable for this age and he's always up early anyway.

MerryMarigold Sun 12-Jun-16 22:30:47

My 7yos go to bed at 8/8.30 on school nights (8 if we're lucky, mostly later). My 10yo sleeps at 9.30 (in bed at 8.45/9), but has been 9pm since he was 6 as had trouble getting to sleep. Managed to keep it at 9 for ages grin but got later recently. Ds2 does need more slurp so good to sleep v quickly whereas dd (his twin) good to bed at same time but sleeps later).

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