I have (or had, I guess) a very close friend. We've known each other for the best part of 20 years.
Over the past few years I have gone through some stuff - breakdown of relationship, redundancy and subsequent new job, ill health. As has she - a terrible bereavement, some children difficulties, complex family situations.
I thought we had a mutually supportive relationship. We saw each other weekly, had fun, I thought. She went away with her family last summer, on a trip around America - brilliant extended break.
Since then, her communication changed. Was colder....we didn't manage to meet up until February...it seemed fine when we did meet - we had a laugh, I caught up about her trip etc
Then communication became even colder. I asked if things were ok, several times, and she said yes, but life was a struggle. This went on and went on....
About three weeks ago I sent her a message (having tried to call...) asking her to just be honest about whatever the issue was, as clearly there was one - told her I loved and missed her.
I got a message back that said this:
Our friendship had become one sided and you were being superior to me in a number of ways.
I responded by saying I was sorry I had done something to make her feel that way, but that I didn't know what I had done, could we talk it through.
Since then, nothing.
I feel so very sad about it.
But I literally don't know what to do - do I leave her to it? Or keep trying to communicate?
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Coldlightofday · 12/06/2016 19:16
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