To think DH should sort his own passport?

[rusmus]

I booked our hols in Feb. We are going away for a week in late August, and we need passports. Mine and the DS/DDs are in date. DH's expired in May. When I booked it, I said he needed to make sure he sorted out his passport as wouldn't it be awful if he couldn't come, hahahaha?
It is now June. I have reminded him, sent emails with links to the gov.uk site, got the forms from the Post Office.
I have not done it for him. I just don't want to. I do a lot of stuff for the family and that's fine because it need to be done. He does the car insurance/ MOT/servicing. And I think he should sort out his own sodding passport. AIBU??

[KissMyArse]

YANBU

I fucking hate filling in passport application forms, they give me the rage. Never managed to get one passed first time as of yet.

He'd better get his skates on, this is a very busy time for passport applications.

[dementedpixie]

You don't even need the paper forms as they can be filled in online. He better get his skates on and get it done

[rusmus]

When I did my DD, I made a mistake on each form I did, approx 400 it felt like. He will do it too late and the passport will arrive the day after we have flown ( oh yes, I am still going!).
Why is he SO lazy? Or should I do it because my children will be so disappointed not to have their dad there?

[Wolfiefan]

If he can't go because he didn't apply for a passport then let him deal with upsetting his kids.
And hell yes you go!!

[DoreenLethal]

Is he at work all day? Do you work all day?

What has this got to do with it?

Unless he works 24 hours a day 7 days a week, he is more than likely to get time to sort his own passport out.

[KatharinaRosalie]

YANBU. His passport, his problem. If he was really busy and kindly asked if you could help, you probably would, right? But no excuses if he's simply ignoring the issue.

[rusmus]

Yes I work and so does he. I managed to do 3 passports whilst at work ( and I don't have an office job so I don't have regular access to a phone/ computer). It seems petty when I type it, but I just don't want to do it. It's as if I have a 3rd child.
Yes he does work full time- he's an accountant

[expatinscotland]

'Is he at work all day? Do you work all day?'

So going to work all day gives you a Get Out of Life free pass? Well, bugger me!! I worked all day for decades and still managed to sort my own adult passport! I should have made someone else do it for me as my paid lackey.



You can do it online. He's an adult. In fact, if someone else completes the paperwork, it has to be signed off.

I would remind him one more time and tell him, it's YOUR job to sort it. You don't and we'll go without you.

[Donatellalymanmoss]

Of course he should do his own passport. If he can't come then it'll teach him not to be such a lazy fucker.

[Donatellalymanmoss]

And even if you were a SAHM he should still do his own passport.

[MaltyCocoa]

I get this op

My DH has promised me that he will get important documents done before a certain time. He doesn't (despite me sending him link and giving him the paperwork and doing everything other than signing the bloody thing)

It's purely selfish and lazy. He doesn't care about the family goals

And one of many reasons I am now in the process of leaving him

[rusmus]

I think the main underlying issue here is that he tends to ignore this until the very last minute and then we both end up rushing around to sort it out. Eg he has had 4 years to get his chartered accountant status. The 4 years is up in August 2016. If he doesn't complete the paperwork, the 18 exams he did, and passed first time, will become null and void and he will be unqualified and will have to start again.
Sorry to drip feed.

[Donatellalymanmoss]

I help my DH out in many ways, one of which is reminding him he's an adult with responsibilities and that I'm his wife not his PA/ Slave.

[rusmus]

Ishare - and I completely understand that point of view. I should be happy to do this for him but, without listing the things I have happily sorted out over the years, I am slowly coming to the realisation that I am always sorting things out for him/ the kids, whereas he does things for himself - the car for example.

[Donatellalymanmoss]

rusmus let him start again with the accountancy exams I cannot be doing with adults who don't grasp that you have to take responsibility for your own shit.

[rusmus]

And obviously I am happy to sort things for the children, that's what I'm here for until they can manage for themselves

[AugustaFinkNottle]

I think in many respects it's easier to do that sort of thing from an office than from home. You don't have children pestering round you or people coming to the door, and you've got things like photocopiers and scanners easily available if you need them.

Your DH presumably manages to organise himself for his clients when they have deadlines, so it really shouldn't be difficult to set aside half an hour when it's quiet to get the passport done. And he's probably wasted more time than that just listening to you pestering!

[Donatellalymanmoss]

navyandewhite you wouldn't be a twat if your husband was a lazy cunt who expected you to do shit he's perfectly capable of. I hope your DH appreciates you, personally I can't be doing with men who think their responsibilities stop at the office door.

[expatinscotland]

'Nah. It's team work. DH owns his own company. He has a lot of deadlines to meet.'

If it's team work then surely he'd do his own plus one of the kids.

Just tell him. 'I've sent you the links and materials. You sort your own passport. And then don't do it.