to not play along

(41 Posts)
travellinghopefully12 Sat 11-Jun-16 20:06:18

Visiting my parents. I am thirty. They are significantly older.

My mother likes to play this game where she ignores my father and every ten minutes says to me 'now...if your father was alive...'

They are both old and a bit mad.

AIBU?

OldGuard Sat 11-Jun-16 20:09:04

Every family is a bit weird

MsVestibule Sat 11-Jun-16 20:10:12

I think it sounds quite funny! How does your dad react!

Teresalosingtheirleaves Sat 11-Jun-16 20:12:27

Depends entirely on your dads reaction.

travellinghopefully12 Sat 11-Jun-16 20:17:04

He is ignoring it. They had a row earlier, re: a new freezer she thinks they need, he thinks they can't afford.

Elllicam Sat 11-Jun-16 20:18:03

Is it jokey? Could you turn up with a sympathy card and a wreath and pretend with your dad your mum is dead? If it's not a joke I'm not really sure what to suggest smile

Elllicam Sat 11-Jun-16 20:18:35

Sorry cross post. That's a bit more tricky

travellinghopefully12 Sat 11-Jun-16 20:20:41

They have these terrible rows and then he goes to bed until evening.

Apparently this is her new way of coping.

Great.

Alisvolatpropiis Sat 11-Jun-16 20:22:11

I would definitely be inclined to ignore that!

Their relationship issues are not your problem and playing along could well encourage your mum to involve you further. Tricky situation though.

travellinghopefully12 Sat 11-Jun-16 20:22:14

Oh, I should add. I love them so bloody much, but they drive me nuts.

HairySubject Sat 11-Jun-16 20:23:20

Nope I definitely wouldn't play along with that.

HiddenMeaning Sat 11-Jun-16 20:31:02

Mmm, what were you like as a kid? . I'm sure my parents are on some sort of mission to get their own back on me and my siblings for being naughty when we were little kids. I love my parents but they've started misbehaving They bicker, forget their manners and want to do what they want to do NOW!
They are much better when they are on their own but when they are together it's toddler time 😂😂😂

travellinghopefully12 Sat 11-Jun-16 20:35:32

Hidden

Oh my God, yes, they are like toddlers aren't they? Apparently I didn't sleep through for years (not until after two)

Could this be revenge? My mother seems very into it, and my father appears indifferent at the moment. My sister is not replying to my message, though she has 'seen' it.

travellinghopefully12 Sat 11-Jun-16 20:38:27

I am slightly concerned about them.

I am also drinking red wine and thinking of making an escape to the spare room, which is at the moment alloted to me.

KissMyArse Sat 11-Jun-16 20:38:56

Sorry but I think that's bloody funny (though I don't have to live with it).

Not much use I know blush

CalleighDoodle Sat 11-Jun-16 20:41:17

When my mum acts like a nasty cow i call her on it.

MrsDeVere Sat 11-Jun-16 20:44:22

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Floggingmolly Sat 11-Jun-16 20:45:43

Jesus, that is really weird! What'll happen if you don't play along? Will she get even weirder or just start behaving herself?!

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties Sat 11-Jun-16 20:46:09

Oh dear it sounds like a terrible atmosphere and you're almost expected to take sides. Red wine will help with the overall tension. Can you try to get your parents to drink some and then start reminiscing about a family holiday when you were young to jolly things up a bit? Put some music on? Invite the neighbours over?
Good luck.

YorkieDorkie Sat 11-Jun-16 20:47:42

Yeah that's a bit twisted! Sounds like their relationship is a bit sour to be honest so no, I'd definitely not entertain it by playing along.

travellinghopefully12 Sat 11-Jun-16 20:48:26

My father is watching the football and acting like he can't hear. He can hear.

I ask him questions every now and then - 'so, Who's winning?'

They have had wine with dinner. I propose more wine.

Or I might go to bed.

PacificDogwod Sat 11-Jun-16 20:52:19

That is admirable passive-aggressiveness!

grin

It's funny from the outside, but it does make me wonder about how functional their conflict resolution skills are when it comes to the crunch….
Do they get on most of the time?
Have they been married for 200 years and got stuck in a sniping rut?

travellinghopefully12 Sat 11-Jun-16 20:54:54

The neighbour has come round to watch football.

They are behaving now.

Who was it who said that comedy was tragedy through the wrong end of the telescope? I need to write about my family sometime.

travellinghopefully12 Sat 11-Jun-16 20:55:55

Pacific

They've been married fifty one years. I don't think I get them yet.

HeartsofOak Sat 11-Jun-16 21:00:24

You might be taking it far too seriously OP.

It sounds hilarious and if I were you I'd laugh and tell them to grow up.

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now