DH travels abroad regularly with work. It's not too bad at the moment but it tends to be for a couple of nights every second or third week and travel time adds another night or two on as he has to leave early/come home late. I've recently gone back to work full time and we have a one year old and a five year old. The one year old isn't sleeping well at present and most nights we are woken up a few times and we take it in turns to try and settle her. My new job is a promotion and involves a completely new role in a new organisation and high expectations.
Anyway to get to the point, I noticed DH had a copy of his employers third level fee refund policy on the kitchen table so I asked was he planning to look into further studies. We've been through this before, as before we had kids he did a graduate qualification that involved weekends etc but that as I say was prior to kids and all that comes with it. He has no firm plans at the moment re what he might do but whatever it is he acknowledges that it will more than likely involve weekend/evening attendance and clearly time for studying and assessments etc. He was planning to discuss it with me before signing up to anything and was only in the initial stages of looking into it.
He just wants to do it out of interest and perhaps future career prospects but it's not driven by any immediate need, he already has a number of high level qualifications. I'd be interested in further studies myself but wouldn't even contemplate it at this point as I've so much going on. Am I being unreasonable to want him to put it off for another year? I've been knocked sideways by the impact of juggling work and the kids and he is great when he is home and everything is split very evenly but when he's away it is hard. The other side of that of course is that if I was a single Mum id just have to get on with it all the time so perhaps I am being a bit selfish (he hasn't said this at all, it's just what I feel).
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Fitzers · 10/06/2016 17:42
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