Since I was little, my parents have been friends with a couple who have two children of roughly my age, I'll call the children Jane and Peter.
All of my life, my parents have been very harsh and critical of me, I was never shown any affection and my dad punished my physically, and often. They have also, all of my life, been obsessed with Jane and Peter and about how great they are. As a child I would constantly be compared to them, and told how great they were and how awful I was, and it's the same in adulthood. They would happily cuddle Jane and Peter as kids but never me! My parents far prefer Jane and Peter to me! Don't get me wrong, Jane and Peter are nice enough people, it's not their fault, but it upsets me, and I feel on the verge of going non contact with my parents.
For example, when I had my DCs my mum told me that they had done their child raising and would not be babysitting for my children. Ok, harsh but fair enough. However they do not think twice of doing a 200 mile round trip to look after Peter's children for an afternoon as Peter's wife is at work and their childminder is on holiday.
My parents constantly critisise and belittle my parenting yet rave about what good parents Jane and Peter are to their children, and how their children are amazing.
They also constantly tell me how crap my job is and how much better Jane and Peter have done in life. This is not true at all; I have a decent job as does my DH, and Jane and Peter, nice as they are, just have ordinary bog standard jobs like us too. They haven't done anything world changing or award worthy.
Like I said, I am on the verge of telling my parents to fuck off, and also telling them that I will not be looking after them in their old age and that Jane and Peter can do it!
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To tell my parents to get lost and that they can get their friends kids to look after them in their old age?
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FreyaFriday · 08/06/2016 13:58
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