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Beavers sleepover concerns

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Banderchang · 06/06/2016 18:12

DS (just 7) is due to go on his first ever Beavers sleepover on Saturday night. Initially we had a letter about the annual beavers picnic, and replied to say he would attend this. Then there was a follow up email stating that there would be a sleepover following the picnic. We agreed to this too, around 10 days ago, thinking more info would follow.

Now, with only 4 days to go, there has been no further communication. No kit list, no itinerary, no parent meeting, nothing. Parents at school were discussing today and several of us are thinking of withdrawing our kids from this event as it seems so disorganized. WIBU to withdraw DS? It's his first one, so I'm not sure what level of organisation to expect, but a friend who runs cub camps was quite shocked when I told her today how little communication we'd had with the leaders about this given the time scale. I really want his first sleepover to be a good experience, and am rapidly losing confidence in this one!

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LouBlue1507 · 06/06/2016 18:13

Why don't you get in touch and ask, then suggest that they let other parents know too? x

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Banderchang · 06/06/2016 18:14

We have chased for info during half term, but no replies. Others have asked too. That's what's concerning me, really. Lack of detail this close to the event seems worrying.

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MrsBobDylan · 06/06/2016 18:18

I think all you're missing here is the kit list and drop off /pick up times and an address- if there is a fb page for the cubs your son is a member of, could it be on there?

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topcat2014 · 06/06/2016 18:20

What detail are you looking for though: surely kit list would consist of clean pants, socks, toothbrush.

Coat etc for playing outside if it rains.

Are they camping in tents, or what?

DD went on this, and probably slept in the same clothes etc.

Part of the fun of cubs etc is that it is a bit less regimented than school.

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JennyOnAPlate · 06/06/2016 18:24

You probably haven't had a response because it was half term. I wouldn't withdraw him from it if he really wants to go.

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LunaLoveg00d · 06/06/2016 18:32

A parents' meeting? Really?? For a one night Beaver sleepover? Madness.

Also assuming they are doing an indoor sleepover somewhere you can easily guess what's going to be on the list - sleeping bag, pillow, pyjamas, change of clothes, wash bag etc. All you really need to know is when to drop him off, and when to pick him up again.

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LIZS · 06/06/2016 18:32

When is their meeting this week , suspect info will follow then or you can ask. Isn't 7 the older age for Beavers? I doubt there will be anything dramatic planned, just pack an overnight bag with change of casual clothes, wash stuff and sleeping bag/pillow. Maybe a torch.

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Banderchang · 06/06/2016 18:33

Ok, useful replies, thanks all. Maybe I am too concerned. I was expecting to be sent a rough idea of what they're doing, as I don't even know if they are sleeping indoors or outdoors atm. Yes, I can guess a kit list, but it just struck me as far less organized than I was expecting in terms of communication so it's got me worried.

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mustnotwait · 06/06/2016 18:36

Tbh it doesn't sound like its organised very well. That doesn't mean your son won't enjoy it. Contact the beaver leader and ask about times etc.

Our group seems far better organised. Always remember it's run by volunteers!

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temporarilyjerry · 06/06/2016 18:38

Will he be going to a Beavers' meeting before Saturday? Maybe you'll get the details then. I don't think the kit list islikely to be too complicated for one night.

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GeorgeTheThird · 06/06/2016 18:39

You're just panicking, op. They know what's needed and they've forgotten you're not psychic! You'll get a list at some point. There'll be nothing unusual on it unless God forbid there is a theme and you'll be running around at the last minute. It'll be fine. It's only one night, you're overthinking it.

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MothertotheLordsofmisrule · 06/06/2016 18:41

In my experience
Ds2 slept in the scout hut and went to the activity the next day.
They need sleeping bag, pjs toothbrush/paste, clothes for next day warm jumper/coat if it rains, teddy bear (yes they bring them even into Cubs) and any medication given to the leader.

You can sling in a towel & soap but don't expect them to come back usedGrin

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TheFallenMadonna · 06/06/2016 18:47

You should have got a Nights Away form certainly. You need to hand in your contact details, and they need to give you a contact number. There is a kit list on the back of the Nights Away form. The leaders should have submitted all this to the District Commissioner 2 weeks b fore the sleepover. So says DH (scout leader). Never a parents' meeting though!!

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TheFallenMadonna · 06/06/2016 18:48

By "all this" I mean all names, a breakdown of activities etc. Not the forms you fill in.

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BertrandRussell · 06/06/2016 18:49

Beavers alwqys( in my experience) sleep in the Scout hut or wherever meetings are held. I don't think they ever sleep in tents.

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BusStopBetty · 06/06/2016 18:51

They'll probably have a standard kit list they'll hand out for all sleepovers. A letter will probably come home after this week's meeting.

They'll probably also need a sleeping mat, a pillow and a snack for a midnight feast. And sun cream. And a small day sack. And a water bottle. And a torch.

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Snowinsummer · 06/06/2016 18:54

Remember they are all volunteers & unpaid. Sounds to me like they could do with a few more parent helpers.

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Jenijena · 06/06/2016 18:59

Beavers can sleep in tents as long as there is an alternative nearby. It sounds disorganised, yes but it's a volunteer. Maybe they had a crap week at work. Maybe one of their other leaders had an emergency family situation. Even s kit list and timing is a pain if you're having a rough week. Hopefully something will follow after the colony meeting this week.

And seriously, don't criticise before volunteering...

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TheSnowFairy · 06/06/2016 19:00

We had a kit list, a theme AND a parents' meeting for ours.

For one night away, from 5.30pm Sat to 11am Sun!

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AlmaMartyr · 06/06/2016 19:01

I really wouldn't expect a parents meeting. There should be a Nights Away form though. Kit list should be fairly simple. I imagine they'll be sleeping in the hut if there is one. No replies might be because of half term?

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topcat2014 · 06/06/2016 19:08

When DD slept in tents, they were set up at the 'county' scout HQ, which had huts to use in the event of bad weather.

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Piffpaffpoff · 06/06/2016 19:11

We've just had a sleepover. We had a nights away form to fill in, with a kit list on the back. Our Beavers always sleep in teeny tiny 2-person tents inside a hall. Our group usually has a 'drop in' session for any first-timers with questions.we never get told what they are doing in any detail. Just contact them and ask for details, but I second the PP who said remember everyone is a volunteer so don't go in all guns blazing.

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Banderchang · 06/06/2016 19:18

Thanks everyone. I know it's run by volunteers, which is partly why I wanted to start a thread here rather than email the leader again in case that looked too critical. I volunteer with various things at school and church (though not Beavers) and know how disheartening it is to be questioned over how your event is being run.

I don't think they're short of helpers, as several parents I know have offered to help and been turned down. We have the weekly meeting tomorrow, so I guess we will be told more at that point. If not, I'm going armed with some questions, at least about whether they will sleep indoors or out! Thanks everyone for putting my concerns in perspective.

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CountessOfStrathearn · 06/06/2016 19:24

"And seriously, don't criticise before volunteering..."

I'm a Brown Owl and would find this all rather unimpressive. DS wouldn't be going on a sleepover with such little notice or planning. For a start, as others have said, there is quite a bit of paperwork to have been completed and sorted out with the District Commissioner in advance, and it suggests that other things like risk assessment will be missed.

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BertrandRussell · 06/06/2016 19:25

If you've got a meeting tomorrow, presumably that's when you'll get the information? I thought you meant that there was only 4 days to go and no contact until the day of the sleepover and I was going to say that volunteers or not that is completely unacceptable. But I really don't see a problem in the circumstances..........

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