I work four shifts out of seven. They usually always include a Saturday, normally a late (2.30-11pm). Dh works mon-fri term time only home by 5 every night.
If I want a day off/need one, I have to request it and normally it is given however it's a first come first served thing. Rotas come out about three weeks I advance and requests need to be in before they are printed.
Dh has been talking about a fishing day with work for a while. Apparently they were "discussing dates". I said in order for me to book a day off he would need to give me a date. Otherwise he would have to work around my shift and try and get some childcare (my mum is often on hand though I know she has a busy month).
So now tonight he has said "it'll be either X Saturday or Y Saturday" as they are both within three weeks time I've been scheduled to word 2.30-11pm.
I said I would ask my mum if she was available to have the kids from 2pm until either he gets in or I do, whichever is first. He said it was a loose arrangement, so if it come to X and the weather is crap they'll go Y instead. So basically she would be being asked to keep her day free till the last minute.
I rarely if ever work a Sunday, yet he says he can't ask people to swap to a Sunday.
He wants me to request a Saturday off work. If he knew which Saturday then I would ask (8th would be frowned upon as it is post rota issued). However I could ask for a Saturday off and then them not go.
I am also on annual leave at the moment so had last Saturday and this coming Saturday off as it is included. It would be incredibly poor form for me to then ask for another one off straight after.
I feel like I have to defend myself, which he sees as me nagging or "going on about it" - yet I feel like he just doesn't get that I can't simply ask to not work a shift just in case he ends up wanting to go out that day.
Raaaaaa.
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To not be "more accomodating" to this request even though I don't see a way I can be?
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NapQueen · 01/06/2016 22:27
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